How to find belonging (w/ Hanif Abdurraqib)
Digest
This podcast features poet and MacArthur Genius Hanif Abdurraqib, who delves into the multifaceted nature of community, belonging, and intentional living. Abdurraqib shares personal reflections on his hometown, Columbus, Ohio, highlighting the unspoken bonds and mutual support among neighbors. He contrasts the comfort of familiar community interactions with the complexities of public life, emphasizing the importance of deliberate connection-building. The conversation touches upon gentrification's impact on history and identity, the artistic community's role in career development, and the moral imperative to expand one's circle of care. Abdurraqib also discusses the concept of heaven and the practicalities of love and labor across different environments, ultimately advocating for a deep, curious, and caring engagement with people and places.
Outlines

Introduction to Community and Guest Hanif Abdurraqib
Host Chris Duffy introduces the episode's theme of building community in a changing world and welcomes guest Hanif Abdurraqib, a poet and MacArthur Genius. Abdurraqib's work explores themes of community, place, and belonging, with an initial reading of his poem "It is once again the summer of my discontent."

The Influence of Hometown and Intentional Community Building
Recorded in Columbus, Ohio, the interview focuses on how Abdurraqib's hometown and community shape his work. He discusses cultivating community and living intentionally, highlighting his deep connection to Columbus and its residents through anecdotes of neighborly support during a power outage and shared responsibilities like shoveling sidewalks.

Observing and Connecting Through Tangible Signs of Community
Abdurraqib finds connection by observing visible signs of people's lives, such as gardens and Halloween decorations, which reveal personalities and shared interests. He explores the interconnectedness of geographic and artistic communities, using the example of a record shop to illustrate how trust in taste fosters discovery and deeper connections.

Defining Community and Its Role in Artistic Careers
Community is defined as people who know you with deep curiosity and care, fostering shared interests and the desire to share discoveries. Abdurraqib recounts how friendships and involvement in local music scenes directly led to career opportunities, underscoring community's foundational role. He emphasizes engaging with people for present insights rather than future gain.

The Moral and Practical Challenges of Care and Connection
The discussion addresses the moral imperative to expand one's circle of care and the practical challenges of limited resources. Abdurraqib shares a personal story of homelessness and a small act of kindness, highlighting the significance of intergenerational community and the measure of care through giving oneself. He reflects on parental sacrifice and the concept of integrated care.

Faith, Politics, and the Complexities of Hometown Relationships
The conversation touches on the alignment of faith, hell, and abolitionist politics, and the mission to build a better earthly world. Abdurraqib humorously imagines heaven and acknowledges its potential imperfections. He then discusses the contentious relationship with hometowns, the experience of different "languages" of love and labor in new places, and the loss of history through gentrification.

Resistance, Archiving History, and Valuing Community
Staying in a place, especially amidst gentrification, is presented as an act of building an archive of history. Abdurraqib's work is inspired by those who refuse to leave, resisting destructive city designs. He acknowledges that not everyone has a loving relationship with their hometown and highlights artist Amina Robinson's work as an example of valuing the disposable and each other, embodying the spirit of staying and making hard decisions to value the community.
Keywords
Community Building
The process of creating and strengthening connections among people in a shared geographic area or with common interests. It involves fostering relationships, mutual support, and a sense of belonging.
Hometown Connection
The deep emotional and historical ties an individual has to the place where they grew up. This connection influences identity, sense of self, and perspective on the world.
Gentrification
The process of renovating and improving a house or district so it conforms to middle-class taste. This often leads to the displacement of lower-income residents and the alteration of a neighborhood's character and history.
Poet and Cultural Critic
An individual who writes poetry and analyzes cultural phenomena. This dual role allows for creative expression and critical examination of societal trends, art, and human experience.
Intentional Living
A lifestyle choice focused on living deliberately and mindfully, aligning actions with personal values and goals. It emphasizes conscious decision-making in all aspects of life, including community engagement.
Artistic Community
A group of individuals involved in creative pursuits, such as music, writing, or visual arts. These communities often provide support, collaboration, and shared inspiration for their members.
Sense of Place
The subjective experience and emotional attachment an individual has to a particular location. It encompasses the physical environment, social interactions, and personal memories associated with a place.
Mutual Support
A reciprocal relationship where individuals provide assistance and encouragement to each other. This is a cornerstone of strong communities, ensuring that members feel cared for and supported.
Hanif Abdurraqib
Poet and MacArthur Genius Grant recipient whose work explores themes of community, place, belonging, and the complexities of hometown relationships.
Columbus, Ohio
The hometown of Hanif Abdurraqib, serving as a central focus for his discussions on community, connection, and the influence of place on identity.
Q&A
What is the significance of community in Hanif Abdurraqib's work and life?
Community is central to Hanif Abdurraqib's work, representing the people, places, and shared histories that shape identity and belonging. He emphasizes the importance of local connections, artistic collaborations, and mutual care within communities.
How does Hanif Abdurraqib view the relationship between individuals and their hometowns?
He sees the relationship as inherently contentious because hometowns are not chosen but happen to individuals. This can lead to a desire for autonomy and exit, but also a deep, complex connection that shapes one's identity and perspective.
What role does gentrification play in the changing dynamics of communities?
Gentrification is described as a dismantling of history, displacing long-term residents and their embedded stories. It erases the material and internal histories that maintain a place's reality, forcing individuals to either resist or rebuild elsewhere.
How does Hanif Abdurraqib define community beyond geographic proximity?
He defines community as people who know you with depth, curiosity, and care. This extends to artistic communities like music and sports, where shared interests and trusted relationships foster meaningful connections and discoveries.
What is the moral challenge related to community and care?
The moral challenge is to expand who we care about, avoiding narrow definitions of community. While we cannot care for everyone equally due to practical limitations, the imperative is to broaden our circle of concern and empathy.
How does Hanif Abdurraqib view the act of "staying" in a place, especially amidst challenges?
Staying is seen as an act of resistance and archiving history. It's about preserving the past and shaping the future, even when at odds with city officials or development. It signifies a commitment to the place and its people.
Show Notes
Where do you belong and what does community mean to you? These are the central questions Chris asks poet and cultural critic Hanif Abdurraqib while visiting Hanif’s hometown of Columbus, Ohio. Hanif is a poet and essayist of many notable works such as They Can’t Kill Us Until They Kill Us, A Fortune for Your Disaster, and A Little Devil in America, among others. Hanif joins Chris to share his love for the city Columbus, what it means to be cared for by community members, and how spending time with others can show you how to love them better.
This episode is part of a series of bonus videos from "How to Be a Better Human." You can watch the extended video companion on the TED YouTube Channel and the extended interview on the TED Audio Collective YouTube Channel.
Watch
Hanif shows Chris and Sarah his hometown: https://youtu.be/xGJe_eRw2Ao
Extended interview with Chris: https://youtu.be/hl-5PGuwEBg
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Host: Chris Duffy (Instagram: @chrisiduffy | https://chrisduffycomedy.com/)
Guest:
Hanif Abdurraqib (Instagram: @nifmuhammad | https://www.abdurraqib.com/)
Sarah Kay (Instagram: @kaysarahsera | https://kaysarahsera.com/)
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