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How to find your purpose (w/ Yara Shahidi)

How to find your purpose (w/ Yara Shahidi)

Update: 2026-03-161
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This podcast features an in-depth conversation with Yara Shahidi, exploring themes of optimism, purpose, and personal growth. Shahidi defines optimism not as passive hope but as an active practice of pursuing goals despite challenges, drawing strength from historical resilience and a personal "hard yes list" of joyful activities. She discusses the importance of identifying one's "highest order" or core priorities to navigate shifting societal winds and maintain conviction. The conversation delves into the evolution of activism, the pressure of public commentary amplified by social media, and the necessity of being well-studied before expressing opinions. Shahidi also shares her journey of embracing multiple identities, the value of "side projects," and the significance of accepting imperfection to foster joy and open new opportunities. Ultimately, the discussion highlights the continuous process of self-definition and finding purpose beyond external achievements, emphasizing intergenerational wisdom and the playful pursuit of diverse interests.

Outlines

00:00:00
Introduction and Personal Reflections

The speaker reflects on past life choices and the theme of re-examining one's life story and beliefs.

00:00:36
Understanding Work, Burnout, and Personal Desires

This segment explores the podcast's theme of work, focusing on preventing burnout, understanding finances, and identifying one's true life passions.

00:01:18
Interview with Yara Shahidi: Embracing Interests and Navigating Crossroads

Host Chris Duffy introduces Yara Shahidi, discussing her diverse achievements and her childhood passion for various subjects. Shahidi recounts facing a dilemma between her acting career and education, advocating for a "both/and" approach.

00:05:11
The Practice of Optimism and Cultivating Hope

Shahidi defines optimism as a conscious practice and discusses strategies for combating pessimism, including engaging in conversations and drawing hope from history. She introduces the "hard yes list" as a tool for finding joy.

00:12:00
Navigating Life's Transitions and Maintaining Conviction

The conversation covers the evolution from a "year of no" to a "year of yes," the serious engagement required by optimism and humor, and the generational effort involved in societal progress. Shahidi emphasizes identifying one's "highest order" to stay committed to beliefs amidst shifting societal views.

00:17:53
Public Voice, Self-Reflection, and Collective Resilience

Shahidi reflects on the changing landscape of activism and public opinion, stressing the importance of being well-studied before speaking. The concept of being "on intimate terms with catastrophe" is discussed, alongside the amplification of commentary by social media.

00:24:59
Identity, Imperfection, and Purpose Beyond Achievement

Shahidi connects optimism to the belief in growth and change, exploring the challenges of defining oneself amidst multiple identities. She highlights the value of "side projects," the joy found in embracing imperfection, and the need to redefine purpose after achieving milestones.

00:30:29
Redefining Purpose and Embracing Diverse Interests

The discussion shifts to the post-achievement phase, focusing on redefining identity and purpose beyond external roles. Shahidi shares insights from intergenerational conversations and discusses her eclectic interests, emphasizing the joy of being "bad" at things.

Keywords

Burnout Prevention


Strategies and techniques to avoid or recover from mental, emotional, and physical exhaustion caused by prolonged stress, often related to work or demanding activities. It involves setting boundaries, self-care, and managing workload.

Optimism


A mental attitude characterized by hope and confidence in success and a positive future. It's a practice of focusing on the good, believing in possibilities, and actively working towards desired outcomes despite challenges.

Hard Yes List


A personal inventory of activities, people, or experiences that undeniably bring joy and fulfillment. This list serves as a resource to intentionally incorporate positive elements into one's life, especially during difficult times.

Highest Order


Core priorities or fundamental principles that guide an individual's actions and decisions. It represents what truly matters to a person, influencing their choices on both a large scale (life purpose) and small scale (specific projects).

Generational Journey


The concept of societal progress and change viewed through the lens of multiple generations. It acknowledges that significant advancements often require sustained effort over long periods, with each generation contributing to the ongoing process.

Embracing Imperfection


A mindset that accepts and even celebrates not being perfect or expert at everything. It involves intentionally engaging in activities where one is a beginner, finding joy in the process rather than solely focusing on mastery or performance.

Purpose Redefinition


The process of re-evaluating and redefining one's life goals and motivations, particularly after achieving significant milestones or completing major life phases like graduation or career changes.

Yara Shahidi


An American actress, producer, and activist known for her roles in television and film, and for her advocacy work. She is also an academic, having graduated from Harvard University.

Q&A

  • How does Yara Shahidi define optimism, and how does she practice it?

    Shahidi defines optimism not as naivete, but as a conscious practice of acting and working towards desired outcomes despite challenges. She practices it by choosing to engage and accomplish rather than succumbing to pessimism and inaction.

  • What is the "hard yes list" and how can it be used?

    The "hard yes list" is a personal collection of things that bring undeniable joy. It's used as a resource to intentionally incorporate positive experiences into one's life, providing a "material reset" during difficult times.

  • How does Shahidi suggest combating feelings of pessimism or when the "door of possibility feels shut"?

    She suggests turning to history for hope, remembering past societal struggles overcome through effort. She also emphasizes the "hard yes list" and engaging in conversations with others who introduce new fields and ideas.

  • What does Shahidi mean by being "on intimate terms with catastrophe"?

    This phrase, inspired by Cornel West, suggests that experiencing and understanding significant difficulties and challenges is an inherent part of life. It implies a deep awareness and acceptance of hardship, particularly relevant in collective and generational struggles.

  • How does Yara Shahidi navigate the pressure to have immediate opinions on current events, especially with a public platform?

    Shahidi emphasizes the importance of being well-studied before commenting. She advocates for deferring to experts when necessary and prioritizing personal learning to develop informed opinions, rather than feeling obligated to react instantly.

  • What is the significance of embracing imperfection, according to Yara Shahidi?

    Shahidi intentionally pursues being "bad" at things to overcome the fear of embarrassment and closed doors. This practice allows her to explore new hobbies, find joy in the process, and become more relatable and open to new experiences.

  • How does Yara Shahidi approach redefining her purpose after achieving significant life milestones?

    After milestones like graduation or the end of a major career project, Shahidi emphasizes the need for introspection to redefine her identity and purpose beyond those specific achievements, seeking what truly matters on a deeper level.

Show Notes

“Optimism is not what exists in a vacuum on your best day, but how you're pulling through for yourself on your worst days,” says actress Yara Shahidi. Yara is known for her sitcoms Black-ish and its spinoff Grown-ish. She shares what she learned from creating a “Hard Yes” list, why she chose to attend Harvard after acting, and why she thinks anyone can find their highest order if they pay attention.


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How to find your purpose (w/ Yara Shahidi)

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