Introducing new habits from a place of connection

How can I introduce new habits?

About Debi:

Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, homeschooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play. 

She is the author the PLAY HEALING PAUSE Model helping parents to Pause, Play and Connect deeply with their children in a fast-paced, digital age. 

 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/

 

Music used on the podcast written by Debi John and produced by the amazing Paul Frazer.

 

About Cynthia: 

Cynthia is a former corporate career woman having worked for a number of blue-chip companies including Microsoft, Merrill Lynch, Gemini Consulting, and Goldman Sachs. She holds a BA from the University of Chicago and a MBA from Stanford Business School.

Most recently, Cynthia co-founded two new entities: Habyts Ltd and ADDspark. She has 3 cool kids, a patient hubby, and an adorable dog that keep her grounded – and put up with her insatiable love of knowledge and news.

 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cynthia-crossley-837109/

 

Website - https://habyts.com

 

Support the Play Healing Podcast

Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing

Shopping online Neals Yard Organics by using this link: uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn

 

Resources 

Free e-book: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com

22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com 

Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/

Play Healing Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/playhealingparent/

Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/

 

Value Bombs: 

“You could have the perfect structure in your head but none of it will work if you haven’t got that CONNECTION.”

Habyts PACE Approach: A step-by-step habit-building system to give you the confidence to succeed with Habyts.

 

1. Prepare Purposely– get clear on what success looks like for you and your family
2. Automate Quickly – see how to address specific concerns in a consistent way
3. Celebrate Smarter – make habits stick by reviewing progress and celebrating success
4. Experiment Together – be ready to handle any setbacks (it’s actually a GOOD thing)

 

Incorporate Play into your rituals and over celebrate the wins.

 

The next step after that needed to be positive to help my child to come off their screen.

 

Debi: We’re using PLAY and CONNECTION as the MOTIVATION for change.

 

The bond you’re creating will help the child to instal that new habit.

 

Show Notes:

 

Intro:

Thank you to the listeners who’ve been sharing and reviewing this Play Healing Podcast, the reviews have been seriously out of this world! Each week I’ll be announcing at the end of this podcast who I’ve chosen to receive a lovely little gift from Neils Yard. Just leave a review to be in with a chance of winning.

2.45 How Cynthia and I met.

4.05 Founders Story - I have 3 boys - 20,18 and 8 years old. Talking about her struggle with screen time as the boys were growing up and the impact on relationships and motivation.

Her BIG Question when they were growing up? How do you get kids to think about the things they do to move towards the relationships and goals they want?

6.17 At Play Healing it’s all about connection. Talking about resilience.

 

6.45 Bigger issues we must address as parents. What are the goals, structures, rituals, routines we want to put in place?

 

8.11 Ned Halliwell’s research mentioned. How to develop deeper connection. ADHD Researcher.

 

9.40 Debi ‘The act of PAUSING to take action and change a routine or rhythm takes so much energy.’

80% of the coping mechanisms have been stripped away - see Linkedin article.

Problem solving and creativity takes energy. 

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/lockdown-parenting-from-stress-fest-revolution-debi-john

 

11.00 The structure needed around habit forming.

 

12.59 There’s a sense of security when you have that structure in place. 

 

13.25 Talking about connecting over the dinner time with teenagers. Cynthia then adds to this structure in preparing the food together. 

The developmental importance of kids being included and taking a role to do chores around the home.

 

18.30 The power of singing at the top of your voice! Talking about how music lifts our mood. Silliness is great.

 

20.00 The impact of being on your phone and computer all the time in contrast to seeing parents being playful.

 

21.30 The power of a 3rd party / app when we’re overwhelmed with work ourselves.

 

24.30 Modelling flexibility and changing things that don’t work. Including kids in the family plan/ framework. 

 

25.29 Simplifying your life. 

 

26.00 The emotional a practical impact of Corona19 and how flexible approach has been such a healthy approach.

 

28.08 Example of helping a child to come off screens and then celebrating with quality time and play. Moving from something that they were enjoying into something they also enjoy.

 

Outro:

 

This week I want to read out a very moving review from Cathy.

 

“Excellent calm, grounded advice. Practical ideas and tips that will really help busy parents and remind them to PAUSE and be kind to themselves. Thank you Debi for sharing your expertise. “

 

To thank Cathy for that lovely review I’ll be sending her a ‘Women’s Balance’ Aromatherapy Remedy to Roll - AND a White Tea Facial Mist that’s given me a boost this week during the podcast launch.

uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn

Remember to PAUSE and look after yourselves guys x Serious love to you all x Debs x 

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Podcast Production:

Special thanks to Pete Sene for producing this podcast and to the amazing people who funded the production in my GoFundMe Campaign. You are all angels x