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Is it "OK" to "Offend" Your Partner?

Is it "OK" to "Offend" Your Partner?

Update: 2021-02-23
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In this episode, Mark and Steve address some very poignant questions submitted by a listener:

"What do you do when the proof is in the pudding that your partner is a sexual addict but they refuse to acknowledge it?I asked him for a separation at the beginning of Dec hoping that would shake him up a bit …  He has agreed to couples counseling but is "offended" at my suggestion that he has a sex addiction. There have been many discoveries over our 17 years. Is there a way to help him see or are we a lost cause?"

-  We have NO control over (and must surrender) another's feelings, even our partner's.

-  We tell the truth at any cost!

-  The focus in true Intimacy is on Authenticity, NOT on preserving/protecting/enabling unacceptable behaviors.

-  LOVE cannot be LOVE if it is robbed of truth!

-  FEAR can derail authenticity.

-  We CAN help a spouse "see" the reality of their addiction, BUT we cannot force them to recognize it. We can be consistent and bold with boundaries and consequences. We can "hold up a mirror." And, we can love him or her enough to let them be uncomfortable.

-  How to use "outside voices" and "other messengers" to help an addict spouse come to a place of vulnerability, acceptance and accountability.

Find out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension Counseling

Learn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Here's a great article on the "Brain Science" behind porn and sex addiction—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/brain-science-porn-sex-addiction

Here's an article about healing Betrayal Trauma—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/healing-betrayal-trauma-video

Want to learn more about HOW to break free from porn?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/overcome-porn-sex-addiction

Wondering if your marriage can survive porn and sex addiction? This article will give you some hope—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/can-marriage-survive-porn

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Is it "OK" to "Offend" Your Partner?

Is it "OK" to "Offend" Your Partner?

Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman