Is your identity narcissistic or community based?
The tides always change. Until recent our identities have been defined by intangible items like purpose, community, morals and how can I give make to the community. Even asking questions like, "why am I here on Earth, to do what?"
Our focus on our identity has now become narcissistic, focusing to much on the self, not able to be uncomfortable. The identity has now become the obsession with gender, sexual orientation and even pronouns. Again, all focused on the self.
To reach wholeness and contentment the identity has to be anchored in intangible items, otherwise it's superficial and narcissistic.