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Happy & Healthy with Jeanine AmapolaJeanine Gets Real: Moving, Pregnancy Struggles, Making New Friends in Your 30s & My BEST Advice!
Jeanine Gets Real: Moving, Pregnancy Struggles, Making New Friends in Your 30s & My BEST Advice!
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Let’s catch up… Jeanine opens up about moving, pregnancy struggles 30 weeks pregnant, and advice for you for starting over in a new city and all her BEST advice for all of these topics. Hope you learn something new and encouraging! See you all next week!
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apply available to us addresses only. I was so comfortable in Dallas but that's the thing is
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comfort is scary because I looked at my life, I looked at myself spiritually and I was like
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I'm not growing here I just don't want anyone to think that I was forced to move here like that's
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just ridiculous and when again you start to feel maybe there's a string in your spirit of like
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is there more? There probably is so I kind of want to talk about pregnancy a little bit because I
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sure a lot online but I haven't really shared you know the rawness of what's been going on.
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Something that I think is a little toxic online that I've noticed of quite a bit is that you almost
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feel like you're not able to either complain or have a certain feeling because someone just dismisses
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you and just is like it doesn't matter you're growing a child so shut up don't let the world
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in society and social media scare you out of something that could be the biggest blessing of
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your life and this is something I want you to pray about. When you move to a new city or when you
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are "starting over" pray before you go that God is going to prepare the way for you and open doors
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for you and go before you. What's up guys and welcome to happy and healthy I am your host Janine
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and I am the host but my husband does come on quite a bit and I am currently 30 weeks pregnant so
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pretty crazy and I'll share more updates on that later and I just want to sit down and kind of catch
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some things that you guys are you know usually wondering about and we'll kind of just hang out
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help help.com/happyhealthy take that first step towards being your best self I moved to Oklahoma
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last week and it's been pretty crazy I am currently in our house filming with this new studio
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and it's a makeshift studio I literally just kind of made it happen I don't think this studio will
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be finalized so it may have some changes coming up soon but for now this works and we're pretty happy
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with the way it looks but yeah I'm having a baby in two months and I also just moved to Oklahoma
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so there's a lot of adjustments happening still and I don't feel settled yet but it's also
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been really really fun this has been my first full week here in Oklahoma and for those that don't know
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it's only a three hour drive back from Dallas which is where I'm from and I honestly am like really
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happy about this move I could only have ever dreamt about a house like this truly we've talked about
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this but like your money does go so much further here in Oklahoma and so we were able to buy just a very
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beautiful home and I'm just so grateful for this I truly am I mean I literally couldn't have done
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this without you guys and the Lord truly and the Lord really did bless us with this home and there's
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a lot of rooms to fill but I know we will and we're having our baby in this house not like literally
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in this house I'm gonna go to the hospital but we're gonna be raising our son in this house and
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I'm just so excited and I love decorating I love styling and it does feel a little bit overwhelming
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because I hate there's nothing more that I hate than buying furniture and it's too small or it doesn't
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look good or I'm like oh now I gotta return this or figure out what to do with this and like I just
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hate like wasting money so I'm trying to be very like slow and methodical on what I do and so currently
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I'm planning on baby boys nursery um trying to plan that all out on my canva app because again I don't
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want to buy something and build it only for it not to work or fit or look good so I'm taking my time
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we still have a lot to do I've only been here a week and you know I think anytime you move
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somewhere it is always scary I remember when I moved to Austin I cried because I was like oh my
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gosh what did I just do I'm like moving to this new city and it felt so scary and it was scary
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and then I made friends and I got over it and it was great and then I moved to LA I moved back to
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Dallas and it was scary and then I moved to LA and it was even more scary and so you know I've had
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people say like oh you don't seem happy there and I'm like wait what I don't know how given that
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perception but I'm very happy I love being here I'm really excited for this new journey like truly
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and I think people you know they think that I they feel bad for me because I have to like quote-unquote
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start over but this isn't the first time I've started over like I've started over multiple times
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in my life and it's also just part of life it's part of life of picking up and going and trusting
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the Lord and making new friends and being social and um it's really not that scary for me now obviously
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I'm almost 31 my birthdays in like two weeks and obviously no one wants to start over when you're
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30 but like I'm not scared and I'm not like you know having this like what was me mentality of like oh
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I have to start over it's encouragement for any of you guys that if you are starting over you the
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Lord's gonna bless that and you can still find friends and there's still amazing people in any
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place that you go you just have to kind of make an effort to make friends and reach out and all of
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that stuff you know and so um I don't want anyone to think that I'm sad or that um that I'm not happy
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here because it is something that was different for me and yeah you might have seen me like cry in
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my YouTube videos or whatever and that's just because like moving is always a better sweet thing like
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you all should have seen me when I move from LA bawling my eyes out and the two feelings
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can coexist where you can be like man I'm gonna miss this place I love this place um it was great
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thank you thankful for the memories but also know that that chapter needs to end and that's where
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I was at is I was in Dallas for four years and to be honest I felt very very very stagnant in my faith
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and I just had so many people encourage me moving out of Dallas is gonna be so good for you even if
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it's for a short time being I truly wholeheartedly believe this is going to bless our marriage so much
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this is going to bless our baby so much and we love our neighborhood I love just like that there's
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pools and there's pickleball around and there's like you know there's just so much community aspect
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and let me tell you guys like even just being in Oklahoma for this last week people are so unbelievably
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nice like it's like honestly shocking people have been so helpful and kind and reaching out and
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giving me recommendations and like people just talk to me here and I never got that in Dallas like
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Dallas I get it you know it's it's gotten very like big and I don't know I'm from Dallas like I'm
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not talking on it but the city has 100% changed people don't talk to you really like I know it's
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the south but it doesn't feel like the south there's some different energy here like I'm at the
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grocery store and people are like oh my gosh you're new you're like welcome local home I like check
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out this restaurant or whatever like everyone is so friendly here and I've had multiple people
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that I didn't even know live here that I've known and they're like oh my gosh I saw you moved here
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welcome Oklahoma like let's get coffee I want to help you like people are so friendly here like this
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genuinely does feel like the south and I'm excited like I'm hopeful was it hard to leave 100% like
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duh like when you're comfortable I was so comfortable in Dallas but that's the thing is comfort
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is scary because I looked at my life I looked at myself spiritually and I was like I'm not growing here
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and yes I had amazing community yes I had you know my parents there my brother and his family was
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there but like I was craving more in life I was craving more consistency with community more
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consistency and just you know community with churches and like I wanted to raise my baby in an area
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that just felt a little bit more slow paced and that's that's Oklahoma and so I don't want anyone to
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look at our life or look at what I'm doing and pity me or be like oh my gosh poor thing
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her husband dragged me there that's just that's just furthest the furthest thing from the truth
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we prayed about this for so long and my husband would never drag me anywhere Caleb told me so
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many times like babe if you don't want to move I will never make you do something you don't want to do
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I need you all to know like Caleb did not drag me here I willingly did this I was so excited every
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time he came and looked at this house I was so pumped I was like this feels right I started to get
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really excited and so you can you can simultaneously you know be excited and thankful for
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the new season while also still being like man I'm gonna miss my old life but I'm also ready for
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something new like I feel like that for your gap or that for your mark is when you're kind of like okay
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I'm settled I'm good like it's time for something new and maybe you're in that maybe you're in
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that for your mark where you're like I'm ready for something new for a change and maybe that's just
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like getting in a new apartment or trying out a new church or something or maybe you feel just stagnant
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or you're not growing and that's truly where I felt I felt like I wasn't growing spiritually and
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that's the the toughest part for me is I never want to be stagnant in my faith and I think there's
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going to be seasons where you are stagnant or maybe you don't feel as close to the Lord or maybe
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you don't feel as like drawn towards him I wouldn't necessarily say that's how I was feeling but I
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was just kind of feeling like I wasn't being challenged I wasn't being pushed and I wanted something that
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would put push me and challenge me and this whole season has moving to a new state is not easy
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faith wise because yeah sure you want your comforts of like I want this preference and I want to move
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to maybe I want to move to Nashville whatever which again so funny that so many people were like I
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know she's moving to Nashville psych I wasn't um but I just yeah I I wanted to be challenged and I
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think that this is going to do it and it's not like I'm being super super stretched here but it does
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require me to rely upon the Lord more and I'm about to be a mom like you know I I know that there's
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a perception again that people are like oh man she has to raise this baby all by herself or whatever
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that's just not true we have so much support here my family is three hours away my sisters are going
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to come visit me and they've offered they've already asked me like when can we come we want to come
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visit you so like I'm not alone and I also have the Lord I also have an incredible husband and so
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I'm not really that scared I'm really really not and I tried to be an optimistic person when I'm
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naturally not an optimistic person and that's like a red flag of mine like I am naturally a negative
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person I will naturally shift towards what is hard what's scary what's the negative aspects of
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a situation versus like what could go right what could be the best thing ever and I think when
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this move happened sure I weighed the pros and cons and I was like okay this is different it's the
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south it's lower paste you know I am starting over but I didn't see that as like a reason to not go
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you know what I mean like I didn't see that as a reason to like yeah just be like no we're not doing
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that like I was like you know what let's try it like I was kind of ready for a change and I wanted some
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I wanted a little bit more space in the house especially raising a baby and so I don't know I'm just
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excited and I do feel really thankful being here I've already tried new gyms out and new grocery
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stores and new coffee shops and I'm excited y'all like I really want you to know that and even though like
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again I cried that was just because I was like man I was so thankful for the memories and all the
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things that God had done in Dallas for me because God did do a lot in Dallas for me I you know lived with
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my best friend she pushed me in ways that were so unimaginable I never knew that you know living with
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Maddie would shape my life into the best thing possible as much as it did and she really made me a
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better stronger Christ follower and I made him as amazing friends and church and just oh there was
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so many amazing things that had happened but all you know all good things come to an end and every
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season eventually needs to shift away and when again you start to feel maybe there's a stirring
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in your spirit of like is there more there probably is and there's probably more that God wants for
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you and God wants you to go deeper and that's what I was feeling and so I don't I just don't want
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anyone to think that like I was forced to move here like I would that that's just ridiculous like
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we willingly did this decision together and we were so excited and yeah I'm here now and I love
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and I love my area I love my neighborhood we've already met neighbors they're so sweet and I'm
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just excited to meet this sweet little boy inside of my stomach my little baby boy so I kind of
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want to talk about pregnancy a little bit because I share a lot online but I haven't really shared
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you know the rawness of what's been going on and I'm also 30 weeks pregnant now and so I think the
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last time I really shared some updates was a while ago and so let's talk a little bit about pregnancy
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and some things that I have been going through and things I've been you know feeling as well
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all the time and I'm like I can't believe I'm literally growing a child and he kicks a lot y'all
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like literally he was kicking already earlier now his kicks are getting strong like full force
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punching my stomach were like I'll literally just feel his foot just like sticking out and I'm like
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and I'll let kind of push back and I'm like get back in there um but it's so cute to me and like I
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just think it's like the sweetest little thing like I know he's active and he's happy in there and
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I just will say like the the body aspect thing I know so many pregnant women talk about this
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or just women that have had babies or whatever like anyone any woman that has gone through this
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um it's so weird seeing your body change the way that it does like stretch marks um
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you know your girly girls get massive like so many new changes that I was never expecting and like
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I didn't know what my body was gonna do and thankfully I'm not gonna lie like I wouldn't say my
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pregnancy has been like that hard but I definitely like I have still trouble sleeping sleeping is
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getting definitely way harder um wearing clothes shopping for clothes is super weird and just random
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pains throughout my body like my whole pelvic area like weird pains all the time motivation to work
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out definitely not there as much like going on walks is now really hard for me which is so weird
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like I before when I go on walks I'm a runner I'm a track star like I was just I'm booking it down
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the sidewalk oh you will see me full on waddling struggling like like trying to breathe because
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walking is so hard now for me I'm like when did this happen it's just so funny um but like I definitely
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have some pains but like I wouldn't say that my pregnancy has been that hard and I'm really really
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thankful for that like truly and I've been very very active as much as I could be active um but it
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is weird like there's this weird constant dichotomy between like okay I'm so thankful my body
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was able to bear child that there's a child in here that you know hopefully he's healthy
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like we have an anatomy scan next week and I'm praying that everything still looks good and we
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pray over him all the time um you're just so thankful that like okay I can carry a child
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but then you also at the same time you're like oh my gosh like my body my body is not what it is
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and the worst thing that I could do to myself is look at old photos and I do a lie and I think that's
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where like I've just got to like let that go but the reason why I'm sharing this is because I know
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that most women go through this where you go through this weird grieving process like I was talking
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to Maddie just the other day and she was like dude it's so weird like your body just doesn't look
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the same it's so weird and I think that's the worst thing I can do is I look at myself and I look
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at old photos and I'm like dang and it's so easy to want to just like go back to that and just be like
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I just need to get back to that as soon as possible and I almost like that's like not a healthy mindset
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because what we do as women it's a gift is we sacrifice for our child's like that is what we do like
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that's why like a mother is so amazing is like you literally lay your life down in your body
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down for your child when you're nursing you get stretch marks and it hurts and labor I mean all
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these things like it is a sacrifice and so in some senses you you have to say goodbye to your old
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body and be okay with saying goodbye and I just like look at my old life and I'm like you know what
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I had a very great healthy life and I'm so thankful for that past body what that did for me but I'm
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also grateful for this body I'm grateful that this body is able to carry a child and hopefully
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successfully bring it to term and that it can do that but of course like any woman would be lying
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if you didn't look at yourself or look at old photos and be like this is so weird like I'll never
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maybe have that again and maybe you will I don't know like everyone's body is so different
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but that's like why you also really can't compare your journey and your story to someone else is
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because like there's some women that online they showed themselves like bouncing back to like I got
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my body back I'm tan I'm fit whatever and some women are like what the heck that's not fair that's
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her journey you know like it also kind of depends on like your pregnancy but some women aren't
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even able to work out in their pregnancies like thankfully I've been able to but it's really hard
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you just cannot compare your journeys like I remember even looking at people that I knew and I'm like
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dang like you know she carries so well and I didn't feel like sometimes I was carrying very well
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where I was like all men like you know my arms got so big and hers did and or whatever you just can't
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do that like God wired all of us so differently and our body is so differently and like I'm shorter
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and my torso is shorter like dutch and you're gonna carry differently and so the same time like I'm
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talking about like you know you can have two feelings that co-exist at the same time you can you can
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simultaneously be so grateful for your current body and like wow I'm carrying life I'm carrying a
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child will also be like dang I may never look like that again and like you you do have to process that
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like you'd kind of be crazy if you didn't because it is a very strange process that
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happens and there's just it's just so out of your control so like it's so weird when I look at my
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old body I'm like wow I thought I looked bad then and now I look like this and I don't I don't know
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I'm gonna look like postpartum and I'm like girl you're crazy like I look at these photos and I'm like
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girl you were crazy you thought you looked bad and it's just a reminder to be like so grateful for
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where you are now because there's a future self of you that's looking at a past self wishing I wish
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I didn't take that for granted I wish I was more grateful I wish I just thanks my body for this
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current state that it was in and I want to make sure I remain present to do that like even just today
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you know I looked at my belly I turned to the side and I was like dang this thing is growing you know
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like I was like holy moly like I don't know you'll probably can't see because I'm sitting from
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the front but like from the side like baby boy is like boom like he has he's popped um and it's so
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weird like it's so weird looking at my body and being like what is this like what is happening
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but then I literally looked at it and I was like wow I am growing a child that's so fire you know like
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that's dope I'm growing a child and so you just gotta be so grateful and be just thankful
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and I think I think something that I think is a little toxic online that I've noticed
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them quite a bit that I find very frustrating is that you almost feel like you're not able to
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either complain or have a certain feeling because someone just someone just dismisses you and
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just is like it doesn't matter you're growing a child so shut up like you should be grateful period
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and yes 100 percent I completely agree with that but you're allowed to have feelings you're allowed
00:26:05
to like greed you're allowed to kind of be like whoa this is weird or like I don't know I don't
00:26:10
like the dismissive just because someone has this doesn't mean that you can complain you know I don't
00:26:16
like that or just because you are growing a baby doesn't mean that you can't talk about how hard it's
00:26:22
been or grieving your old body or whatever like I don't I don't like that I think your feelings
00:26:27
should be validated and you shouldn't constantly live in those thoughts you shouldn't constantly
00:26:32
try to ruminate on negativity or whatever but I still feel like you're allowed to talk about it
00:26:39
and be honest because there's so many women that probably feel that way
00:26:42
that feel dismissed or like they can't share that because someone's dismissed their feelings of like
00:26:48
nope you can't talk about it because you're growing a baby you should just be grateful
00:26:52
and I really I just don't like that mentality for anything now I'm not saying yeah just sit
00:26:58
around and complain and whatever like mope I'm saying like definitely be grateful but also
00:27:04
acknowledge that this is hard like this is a very hard process of looking at your body changing and
00:27:11
knowing your life is about to change and you will never just have you in your spouse ever again
00:27:17
it'll never just be you in your spouse there's so much processing that goes in this process that
00:27:24
you do need to prepare for and you do have to think about that you do have to grieve that a little
00:27:29
bit and I think some people will be like why would you grieve that like girl get over yourself
00:27:33
no you do need to because your life is literally forever about to change it is no longer just about
00:27:40
you your life is now a sacrifice you are sacrificing your body if you choose to nurse I've heard
00:27:46
that that is just an insane process and I'm trying to nurse as much as I can it's something you do
00:27:55
have to process and so I feel like thankfully the Lord gave you nine months sometimes ten
00:28:02
to fully process that because there's so much that has to go in on this of like
00:28:08
what products do I buy and what is postpartum gonna be like and what if I have postpartum depression
00:28:13
and hormones and how's this gonna affect your marriage and what are ways you're gonna keep your
00:28:18
marriage healthy and how do I want to raise godly kids and do I vaccinate do I do I not vaccinate
00:28:23
I mean there's so much to think about but there's no like perfect way to do it I think the internet
00:28:30
can be so shameful on moms and parenting and yes obviously there's like a blatantly like wrong like
00:28:37
duh if you're abusing your children and you're just like you know you're just fully neglecting your kids
00:28:42
like that's a different story we're not talking about that but when it comes to like parenting styles
00:28:47
or choosing things differently I don't like the mom shame that I see and it's different if it's
00:28:54
if it's if it's advice where someone's like genuinely like how I want to give you help because
00:29:00
you know that's not good for your baby um but sometimes it's just like a preference thing that
00:29:04
someone wants to throw out an opinion and you're like wait whoa whoa whoa like this is my preference
00:29:09
and so ultimately like god entrusted me to this baby god entrusted you to your future babies or
00:29:16
to your current babies and I just pray that like you try to let the Lord lead you in that and
00:29:22
that you're going to the Lord on Lord how do I parent this baby what do I do how do I do this the
00:29:28
best of my ability and I think that's the best thing you can do is like seek advice from parents
00:29:33
that you admire and that you want to parent the way that they do and and ask for advice in the
00:29:38
best way you know how to from the people around you but ultimately trusting that the spirit of
00:29:43
God lives inside of you like God's going to show you what to do as a mom as a future parent I think
00:29:49
there's so much fear mongering about parenting and shaming people for wanting to have kids or maybe
00:29:57
they had kids six months into marriage and why would you do that like I just don't understand
00:30:02
the perspective of like condemning someone or shaming someone for their decisions if it's not
00:30:10
blatantly hurting somebody like if someone wants to have a baby three months into marriage or they
00:30:14
had a honeymoon baby like so be it that child's a blessing like welcome into the world versus
00:30:20
condemning someone for that you know and if someone again is not blatantly trying to make poor
00:30:26
decisions that would be harming themselves or their child like I don't know why so many people have
00:30:30
so many opinions and you know I sometimes think things were about how people I know parent or whatever
00:30:36
and I'm like I wouldn't necessarily do it that way you know I wouldn't probably do it that way myself
00:30:41
but I'm not going to go to them and be like you're an awful parent that's crazy like I just wouldn't
00:30:46
do that again unless I genuinely thought they were like fully abusing your child like that's just
00:30:50
cuckoo but I just feel like there's so much fear mongering around parenting and about being a mom
00:30:57
and I've had several people just ask me like how did I know I was ready to be a mom and they say that
00:31:05
you never are actually fully ready and I wouldn't say that I felt 100% fully ready because like how can
00:31:12
you be fully ready for something you've never done before it's the whole process you're on like it's
00:31:17
nine months of preparing for this and there's still stuff I want to learn you know and so like I think
00:31:21
it's an ever growing ever learning process of being a mom being a parent knowing when the time is
00:31:29
right but sometimes I feel like you've just got to jump in feet first and I'm just someone who trust
00:31:36
the Lord so much with my life and even though it may be scary it may be not perfect it may not
00:31:41
flesh out perfectly I'm like I'm going to do this because I don't want to lose this chance
00:31:46
and I didn't know I didn't know if I had fertility issues I didn't know if I would get you know
00:31:51
pregnant on the first try or six months later I didn't know and thankfully like I am so so grateful
00:31:58
it didn't take us long to get pregnant and so I just was like all right we're doing this like we're
00:32:04
pregnant let's go and so I didn't exactly know but I knew that I had a piece to start trying I knew
00:32:10
that I had a shift in my heart when I looked at baby clothes and I looked at other babies and I I
00:32:17
don't know my friends were all pregnant and I was just like you know what I want to do this like why
00:32:21
am I waiting why am I so scared and I'm also going to be 31 and two weeks like 31 is not necessarily
00:32:27
like uber uber young they can some states they might be like girl why didn't you wait till you were 37
00:32:33
and then in the Southern states I might be like you should have babies when you were 25
00:32:36
it's so relative to where you live and that's why you just cannot compare your life your your
00:32:44
timeline to anyone else's or any others thing that you see online because it is so subjective it is
00:32:50
so relative it is personalized to you and your spouse in between you and God and I've talked about
00:32:55
that in my in my book over and over and over because I just think it is so unhelpful to compare your life
00:33:04
to anyone else's your timeline what you're supposed to do to anyone else's because
00:33:08
there's just no perfect timing for anybody like my timeline is not the same as my best friends or
00:33:14
my sisters or my cousins or whomever like it was between me and Caleb and the Lord
00:33:20
and people have all sorts of perceptions on why I got pregnant I'm doing this because my friends
00:33:24
and I copied so and so and I'm just like first of all having a baby is not original like people have
00:33:30
been doing this for thousands of years like you know what I mean like if someone wants to have a baby
00:33:35
let him have a baby and never make a decision based off of someone else man never make a life
00:33:40
altering decision based off of someone else feel peace about it and I prayed and I prayed and I
00:33:46
prayed and I said God if you want me to have a baby show me and I was having dreams about babies and
00:33:52
I was feeling more tender towards it and I just knew God was showing me like Go Janine like it's
00:33:58
it's the time do this and so that's between you and the Lord I want you to pray and ask the Lord
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to reveal to you God search my heart change me see search search my heart and show me if I have
00:34:11
some sort of negative perception about parenting or motherhood or maybe there's a toxic mentality that's
00:34:16
been pushed in me from social media that I need to remove you know like I had some toxic ones I
00:34:22
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00:34:27
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I have a podcast coming soon with Tory Masters about motherhood and I'm not sure when that's going to be
00:35:50
posted but she really encouraged me in that podcast so much and my best friend Riley just had a baby
00:35:57
and I'm like dude you're so positive how are you doing this she was like it's about perspective
00:36:03
genie she's like I could look at these night feeds and I could look at this baby crying as a curse
00:36:07
and I could complain or I can see this as a blessing and how I can worship and I can pray over my baby
00:36:11
and I can use these moments to bond with her and pray over her and I was like I love that I wish
00:36:18
that was more the message than only showing the hard moments and yes you do need to see the hard moments
00:36:23
because they need to prepare you they need to show you the realities they need to kind of
00:36:28
give you an understanding of like okay this is what you're signing up for but it's not all bad
00:36:34
and just so many of my friends that have had babies they're like yes it's hard but it's the
00:36:39
best thing you'll ever do those are the messages I want to keep hearing even when it comes to labor
00:36:44
there's so much fear mongering about like about like unmedicated births and I haven't decided exactly
00:36:50
what I want to do yet but like there's so much fear mongering of like it's hard and it's going to be
00:36:54
painful and I guess it will be painful but there's so many women that have done this for thousands of
00:36:59
years like you know it just depends on what information you are taking in because that will be
00:37:06
the narrative that you tell yourself is if you are only taking a negativity and fear mongering
00:37:11
and women that are promoting certain like lifestyles that don't align with what the Bible says
00:37:15
or maybe what you believe sure you're going to start believing that because the Bible says
00:37:20
as a man thinks in his heart so is he so if you continue to perpetually feed yourself that
00:37:25
or intake these things the Bible also says out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks
00:37:30
but though heart is the wellspring of your life and so like what you're feeding your heart what
00:37:35
information you're flowing in what you input is what you output so you have to be so careful
00:37:40
to not input toxic things or things that don't align with you or things that you fully believe in
00:37:45
because you will live that out and so it's very very easy to kind of look at everything is only
00:37:51
negative and scary but is your God not bigger than all of that like is your God not on your side
00:37:58
do you have a spouse that loves you and hope you do that is your partner and that's going to
00:38:02
do this with you like if the answer is yes then you've got this you have got this like don't live in
00:38:10
fear any longer and of course feel peace and feel ready when you feel ready but like don't let the
00:38:17
world in society and social media scare you out of something that could be the biggest blessing
00:38:22
of your life and every time I see you know the women that I follow they're like man this is the
00:38:28
biggest blessing in my life I would never go back this is yes it's hard but it's such a blessing I
00:38:32
love my children and so I'm excited for that like I'm really really excited and it's going to be so
00:38:39
new it's going to be an adjustment I'm of course I'm going to be sharing that journey with you guys
00:38:43
and I don't want to like sugarcoat the moments of like it being hard but I also want people to hear
00:38:48
that this is joyful and this is beautiful and it is something that like God has prepared us women
00:38:54
to do our bodies were created to do this so like let's do it when you feel peace and you've prayed
00:39:00
about it and you and your partner feel aligned go for it but I don't want you to like miss out on
00:39:06
a moment because you're waiting for everything to be perfect and right because I don't think that
00:39:10
ever will be perfectly right like I moved when I was pregnant and anyone could say on the outside
00:39:15
looking in like why would you move when you're seven months pregnant we wanted to and it felt
00:39:21
right and we were able to do it and it's been great and like I have no regrets so there's never like
00:39:27
the quote unquote perfect timing of course there might be some circumstances you may want to get
00:39:30
fleshed out maybe you're you know you're still going through a very very stressful job or whatever
00:39:36
I don't know you know what that is for you but I don't want fear to stop you and prevent you from
00:39:43
doing things that you've always wanted to do or maybe you haven't wanted to do this and you're
00:39:46
still scared I say pray about it and ask Lord to change your heart and then you go full of faith that's
00:39:52
what faith is it's trusting in what you can't see and believing like God you're bigger than this and
00:39:58
you've led thousands of millions of women through this before so if they can do it so can I let's go
00:40:05
moms okay the last thing I actually want to talk about and I hope this encourages someone out there
00:40:11
because I get people that ask me about this all the time so as you guys know like I'm quote unquote
00:40:17
starting over in a city and I'm not really like I have my sister-in-law's here my my husband's
00:40:24
cousin's wife love her she's Brazilian we just click so so well like literally we're so similar
00:40:31
and I do know people here but in a lot of ways I am starting over and so maybe you're in that
00:40:38
situation where you're starting over you've moved to a city or you are you moved because your
00:40:44
husband's job or school or whatever or maybe you've just are like you know what I want to pick up
00:40:49
and leave like I want to start over I want to try a new city and maybe you're just in the same
00:40:53
situation as I am where you know it's a little scary and you don't necessarily know who to call and
00:40:59
whatever I just feel like again like I've talked to the beginning like I've done this before
00:41:04
and so here's kind of like my advice on doing that and again how it is such a perspective shift
00:41:11
because you can come from this with the perspective of like this is so hard and I have to start over
00:41:16
and woe is me and it's gonna take time but I've done this before and my my best recommendation again
00:41:24
this is a Christian podcast but like even if you're not a Christian I encourage you go to a church
00:41:30
and just say hey I'm new to the city I don't know what to do I don't know anybody can you help connect me
00:41:36
the church is literally meant for that they're meant to connect with you and help you and help you
00:41:43
meet people and get you plugged in and make you feel less alone like that's what the body of crisis
00:41:48
for is to help believers have a network of people where you feel safe and trusted and so that's like
00:41:54
my first goal is okay who do I know here and maybe you don't know a single soul but who do I know here
00:42:01
and I'm gonna reach out to them and say hey let's get coffee I'm getting coffee with a girl this
00:42:05
Friday and then I had literally like the craziest God story um last week and this is something I want
00:42:10
you to pray about when you move to new city or when you are quote unquote starting over pray before
00:42:18
you go that God is going to prepare the way for you and open doors for you and go before you
00:42:24
that like already God has people prepared for you he already has a church prepared for you he
00:42:30
already has whatever maybe a spouse for you maybe you're moving by yourself you just keep praying
00:42:35
that was my constant prayers like God I pray that you have people already waiting to be friends
00:42:42
with me there or someone that I already know or whatever I just kept praying over and over and over
00:42:46
and there was a verse I found I kind of I just in my journal I can't remember what it was but it was
00:42:49
basically about how God went before the people and prepared a way for them and so that was my prayer
00:42:57
I was like yes a name and Lord I want that to be your prayer too but I was at the grocery store
00:43:02
and I was my first mother grocery store my first Monday here and um our refrigerator had literally
00:43:09
nothing in it and I'm by the dairy section I'm literally listening worship music like I had my
00:43:14
airpods in and this girl comes up to me and I see her my peripherals and I'm like oh my gosh
00:43:19
my girl even so close to me and she's literally flabbergasted she's like and I look and I'm like
00:43:25
Ali and she's like Janine and this girl is the girl that got me into my Bible study in LA and the
00:43:34
Bible study that literally changed my life if you've read my book you know part of the story she
00:43:39
introduced me to this mentor Casey I was at this church she had a women's Bible study that started
00:43:44
off very small grew to over 40 people because of how many people needed community this was the girl
00:43:50
that invited me to her Bible study and that was when I didn't know anybody I was literally maybe in
00:43:55
LA for like I don't know four months and I also at that time prayed God I need friends bring me friends
00:44:01
this was that girl and we were like oh my gosh I was like what are you doing here she's like what are
00:44:05
you doing here and I was like I literally moved your last week she's like I moved here she's from
00:44:10
Oklahoma she's married she's like we need to get coffee and I was like yes please those are the
00:44:16
situations where it's like a God moment where you're like God you see me you know my desires you
00:44:22
know what I need before I even need it that to me is what I call the Godwink and I told Maddie about
00:44:28
that she was like that's a Godwink and I was like that's exactly what I said a Godwink moment
00:44:32
and so be praying for that be very intentional but maybe you don't get that be praying for God to
00:44:37
direct you to the right church or the right people at the gym or whatever like even just you're like
00:44:43
I said people are so friendly I already had people talk to me at the gym and be like hey if you need
00:44:48
any recommendations let me know like be willing to just be kind and say hi and ask for recommendations
00:44:55
and don't be scared to step out of your bubble or your comfort zone or be shy like just be able to
00:45:00
be like hi I don't know what I'm doing here do you have recommendations for coffee shops or gyms
00:45:05
or whatever like let people help you and know like this is going to take time because I've done this
00:45:10
before I know that this is going to take time and there's going to be hard moments where you're going
00:45:16
to feel maybe lonely or scared or you're lying awake at night and you're like did I make a mistake
00:45:21
or whatever it's all part of the process so don't be afraid of that feeling lean into it trust the
00:45:28
Lord and remember that God is with you like God says in Joshua 9 like for have I not commanded you to
00:45:34
not be afraid for the Lord your God is with you and I will be with you wherever you go you cling
00:45:40
to the truth you cling to those verses and know like God is with you and I'm excited like it's kind
00:45:47
of exciting I'm like okay God who am I going to meet here like maybe Caleb and I meet this insane
00:45:52
mentorship couple that pours into our relationship or maybe we meet our some best friends here with me
00:45:58
an awesome community at church like stay optimistic stay open stay open handed with the Lord like God you
00:46:04
could do anything here but no it's going to take time but it's also going to take you working with
00:46:10
the Lord and partnering God's not going to drop a friend through your chimney or have someone come
00:46:15
knock at your front door maybe he will I don't know but it's going to require you to leave your house
00:46:20
try new things say yes and be bold and so know like I'm doing this with you I'm trying new gyms
00:46:28
and all these things but it's also like kind of fun like it's like different it's like oh this is
00:46:32
kind of fun and I've been here before what's around this corner what's around this block you know like
00:46:37
it's it's it's all about how you look at it and so I want you to stay optimistic and positive and
00:46:42
know like maybe I find my best friend here maybe I find someone I didn't know I needed to meet here
00:46:48
that it's going to change my life and there's certain people for certain seasons there's certain
00:46:53
things for certain seasons God uses you know something someone for maybe a certain season to grow
00:46:58
you but he's like okay now we've elevated you we've promoted you to the next season let's go
00:47:02
so I just want us to be optimistic and be encouraged that like all good things take time nothing
00:47:11
overnight you know snap your finger and it just magically works if it does for you that's amazing
00:47:16
but it doesn't work that way for like most people like myself um it takes time it takes faith it takes
00:47:22
prayer it takes rely on the Lord and so anything you do rely on the Lord God help me I'm with you God
00:47:29
I I need you and I'm not doing this alone Lord I need you to go with me and walk alongside me
00:47:35
and when you seek the Lord like he blesses people that seek him and and fervently go after him
00:47:43
and that say God I'm willing to be used like I'm scared and I don't know what the heck I'm doing
00:47:49
truly I don't know what I'm doing but I know that I have you and if I have you then I have everything
00:47:54
and if I don't have you then I have nothing and that's all that matters is you have God on your side
00:47:59
which means you have everything you are blessed and so consider yourself blessed and so that's
00:48:04
my encouragement to you if you're moving to a new city the way that I am um anything could happen
00:48:10
that should excite you is that you say yes like I wrote in my book in the adventure chapter
00:48:14
say yes someone invites you somewhere yep I'm going if someone buys you do a new gym yes let's try it
00:48:19
someone wants you to go on golfing I'm different in golfing before but you know what I'm going to
00:48:24
try it say yes because you never know what your yes is going to lead to and so that is my soap box
00:48:30
in my encouragement I'm excited to be here it's fun it's definitely different it's slower pace
00:48:36
this is not Dallas but I'm really excited to raise our little baby boy here and our son
00:48:41
and just see the way that this also blesses my marriage I'm super pumped and Caleb is so happy
00:48:47
here I love seeing my husband happy and honestly like I'm kind of sick of the perception of people
00:48:53
saying like oh her husband seems so happy there and you don't seem happy I'm like what do you mean
00:48:57
like I am so happy I love you in this house like this house is like such a fun project for me
00:49:02
and I'm working so much and still writing my devotional like I'm so happy and I love my husband's
00:49:07
family I love my in-laws that's been such a blessing is that I have such an amazing family that I
00:49:13
married into that has been nothing but amazing and kind to me and accepting and like they're all
00:49:18
gonna help us with the baby like truly all I would not have that much help in Dallas with the baby
00:49:23
I would not and here it just feels like the right fit they're felt like the right timing and so I
00:49:28
just really I don't want anyone to have this like negative perception on like oh her husband
00:49:32
force should have moved there and she's gonna be all um nope not the truth shutting the done right
00:49:37
now because that's just not true um we both felt peace and I still feel so excited to be here so
00:49:42
anyway I've been on some tangents and I hope that you guys enjoyed today's episode kind of just
00:49:48
like a little girly chat and ramble but hopefully you guys got some nuggets of truth and encouragement
00:49:54
here because you know I'm in a transition season and maybe you're in a transition season
00:49:59
we're in this new house and I'm having a baby in two months so there's a lot of like new so bear
00:50:05
with me um but I'm very hopeful and even if I have moments that are hard or fearful or whatever
00:50:11
like I know God is good and God's on my side and um I can simultaneously again have some fear and
00:50:18
have some maybe this maybe this is hard but also I'm excited I'm hopeful and I hope that's where
00:50:22
you can be too so I hope you guys enjoyed today's episode I love you guys thank you so much
00:50:28
for hanging out with me on today's episode of happy nalthie and I will see you guys next week but
00:50:32
until then stay happy nalthie bye guys
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