This episode features speaker and author Jodi Mitchel Tolman, who shares how she and her husband navigated multiple paths over six years to build their family after facing challenges with fertility. Their family ultimately consisted of three children: one genetic child from a previous marriage, one adopted daughter, and one son born via donor egg. Now all grown, Jodi was inspired to write their story in her recently released book, One From Each Column: My 46-Year Trek from Abusive Childhood to Elusive Motherhood.

Throughout the conversation, Jodi details the various paths she took, starting with miscarriages, followed by unsuccessful IUI and three rounds of IVF using her own eggs. She recounts her "hair-raising" adoption story, which involved her daughter Chloe's birth mother changing her mind multiple times and an eight-month legal process, while emphasizing that this traumatic experience is infrequent and not the norm in adoption. She also shares the successful journey of having her youngest son, Jack, via donor egg at age 46.  

Jodi’s story not only tells of her road to parenthood, but explores how her early challenging life experiences fostered the resilience needed to overcome obstacles in family building. A key takeaway from Jodi's advice is that the ultimate goal is parenting and that there is zero difference in how you love a child regardless of the road they took to find their way home. 

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https://www.joditolmanspeaks.com. 

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/joditolmanspeaks

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TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

family building, adoption stories, infertility support, parenting journey, donor egg process, IVF experiences, secondary infertility, emotional support for parents, parenting through challenges, family dynamics, navigating adoption, fertility treatment, conversations with children about family, parenting goals, resilience in parenting, family building options, personal stories of motherhood, open adoption discussions, coping with miscarriage, family support networks, Jodi Mitchel Tolman, Adoption, Donor Egg, IUI, miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, resilience, One from Each Column, Parenting, family dynamics, communication, personal boundaries, support, birth mother, origin story, secondary infertility, normalizing conversations

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