Brown boys can send n*des in 0.2 seconds, but ask us to say “I’m not okay” and suddenly it’s impossible.
In this episode, I dive into the messy, hilarious, and painfully relatable reasons why vulnerability still feels illegal for so many Brown men — especially queer South Asian men trying to survive culture, community, and club culture at the same time.

I unpack why we were raised to be stoic, “strong,” and emotionally silent in conservative desi households… only to grow up performing masc online, hiding our softness, and pretending everything is fine while our group chats say otherwise.

We get into:
✨ Why Brown men fear emotional honesty more than sending nudes
✨ How conservative Indian norms teach boys to shut down feelings early
✨ “Masc” performance in queer spaces — even when you’re secretly femme
✨ The mentally ill desi struggle: attachment issues, chaos, over-functioning
✨ Grindr-at-the-club culture and the fear of being seen as “too much”
✨ The disconnect between online façades vs. real emotional needs
✨ How queerness exposes the cracks — and offers softness as a way out

This is part cultural critique, part chaotic storytelling, part group therapy for Brown boys who pretend they don’t need group therapy.

If you’ve ever been the “strong” son, the masc-coded queer, the emotionally constipated Brown adult, or the gay at the club scrolling through Grindr while dissociating… this one’s for you.