Live Show: Yung Pueblo on Relationships, Change, and Mindfulness
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This podcast features a conversation between Forest Hanson and Diego Perez (Young Pueblo), a meditation practitioner. Perez recounts his upbringing in poverty in Ecuador and his struggles with substance abuse, detailing how meditation became a transformative tool for self-improvement and healing. He explains how meditation increased his self-awareness, leading to more authentic relationships with his family and wife, Sarah. The conversation explores the importance of preventative communication, open-handed love, and releasing attachment. They discuss the challenges of maintaining a beginner's mind, navigating conflict, and the transformative power of long meditation retreats. Practical advice is offered on relationship check-ins, repairing past hurts, and managing social media's impact on mental well-being. Perez's pen name, Young Pueblo, symbolizes his belief in humanity's ongoing growth and maturation.
Outlines
Introduction & Young Pueblo's Journey
Forest Hanson introduces the podcast and a live conversation with Young Pueblo, detailing his journey from poverty and substance abuse in Ecuador to finding healing and self-acceptance through meditation.
Meditation's Impact on Relationships & Self-Acceptance
Perez discusses how meditation fostered self-awareness, leading to deeper, more authentic relationships by addressing superficiality stemming from self-disconnect. He highlights the role of self-acceptance and compassion.
Transformative Communication & Open-Handed Love
The conversation focuses on the transformative power of honesty and vulnerability in relationships. They discuss preventative communication, moving from blame to open dialogue and "loving with an open hand."
Beginner's Mind & Spiritual Arrogance
The discussion shifts to the importance of maintaining a beginner's mindset in personal growth and relationships, avoiding the pitfalls of expertise and assumptions. Perez emphasizes continuous learning and the limitations of universal application of personal experiences.
Navigating Relationship Challenges & Conflict Resolution
Perez shares a specific instance of miscommunication with his wife, highlighting the importance of ongoing adaptation and understanding. They discuss preventative communication and the transient nature of emotions.
Long Meditation Retreats & Embracing Impermanence
Perez describes his experiences with extended silent meditation retreats, emphasizing the transformative power of confronting impermanence and releasing attachment.
Practical Relationship Advice & Repair
Hanson and Perez offer practical advice on relationship check-ins, emphasizing a low-stakes approach. They discuss honesty and forgiveness in repairing past hurts.
Social Media & Mental Well-being
The conversation concludes with reflections on navigating social media and balancing online engagement with self-reflection and real-world connections. Perez shares the meaning behind his pen name.
Keywords
Preventative Communication
Proactive communication to prevent misunderstandings and foster support.
Open-Handed Love
Vulnerability, acceptance, and letting go of control in relationships.
Relaxing Attachment
Reducing emotional clinging to foster flexibility and adaptability.
Impermanence
Accepting the transient nature of all things to reduce suffering.
Beginner's Mind
Approaching situations with openness and a willingness to learn.
Self-Compassion
Treating oneself with kindness and understanding.
Vipassanā Meditation
A form of Buddhist meditation focusing on direct observation of reality.
Young Pueblo
Diego Perez's pen name, reflecting his commitment to personal growth.
How to Love Better
Refers to Diego Perez's book on building healthier relationships.
Relationship Repair
Strategies for rebuilding trust and addressing past hurts in relationships.
Q&A
How can individuals incorporate preventative communication into their relationships without it feeling overly formal or stressful?
Start with casual, unprompted check-ins about emotional states.
What are the key steps to rebuild a relationship after past hurt?
Honesty, sincere apologies, forgiveness, and a commitment to changing behavior.
How do you navigate the challenges of social media while maintaining mental well-being?
Build discipline, set boundaries, and prioritize self-reflection and real-world connections.
How do you and Sarah argue, given your advanced meditation practice?
While conflict still arises, the intensity is lessened due to reduced clinging to emotions; they focus on problem-solving.
Show Notes
Forrest is joined by poet and author Diego Perez - better known as Yung Pueblo - for a live conversation recorded at City Arts & Lectures in San Francisco. They reunite the sensitive boys club to talk about how inner work transforms our relationships, what it means to love with an open hand, and the difference between attachment and commitment. Diego shares how his meditation practice reshaped his life and partnership, how he and his wife built a new culture of honesty together, and why real love always shows you what you need to work on.
About our Guest: Yung Pueblo is a poet, meditator, and the bestselling author of five books, including How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion.
Key Topics:
0:00 : Introduction
4:55 : Diego’s personal background, and how he came to meditation
9:25 : How meditation affects your relationships
13:40 : Attachment vs. commitment, and developing comfort with receiving love
20:50 : The student mentality, spiritual arrogance, and ‘don’t know mind’
26:45 : Preventative communication
30:40 : Being in a relationship when both partners are constantly evolving
35:55 : What happens on a silent retreat
40:45 : How “advanced meditators” argue, and how to have a low stakes relationship check-in
47:45 : Rebuilding after past hurt
54:50 : Diego’s relationship with the internet, and why he goes by Yung Pueblo
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