Have you lost someone you love? Recently, or not, it never stops hurting because you never stop loving your lost loved one.  In this podcast episode, Beth Goshow, of Daughters Without Moms, shares her insight about grief.  Beth has experienced a lot of loss in her life, and she has some wisdom to share about how to move through grief with self compassion.  

Take-Aways

1. Time does not heal all wounds.  Losing a loved one leaves a big scar that you will have the rest of your life.
   
   


2. There is no one-size fits all way to work through grief. Everyone’s grief journey is different, and people go through the 6 stages at different times and in different sequences.
   
   


3. A good first step to processing your grief, is to be kind to yourself and listen to your needs rather than pushing them aside.
   
   


4. Working moms have an extremely challenging time prioritizing their needs because of all of the demands placed on them.  It’s crucial to their healing that they take care of themselves and make space for their grief journey.
   
   


5. There is no way to get around grief.  Ignoring your grief and not dealing with what is going on, can be toxic.  By doing this, it remains a secret, and the longer you don’t deal with it, the harder it becomes.
   
   


6. Having a safe place to share what you are experiencing is important. Identify your support network, the people in your life that you trust, and who love you and care about you. Reach out to them and share with them what you are going through. They want to help and you are not a burden.
   
   


7. Joining a grief support group, can help you make connections and talk about what you are going through with people who can relate to you.   See the show notes for the link to the Daughters without moms facebook group.  It’s for anyone who has experienced loss, not just daughters without moms.
   
   


8. Culturally, we have done a poor job of giving people the space they need to decipher their own grief.  The bereaved feel obligated to put on a happy face because their grief makes others feel awkward or uncomfortable.
   
   


9. One way you can support someone who is grieving is by giving them a safe space where they can show their emotions, talk about their experience, and share memories and stories about their lost loved one.  It’s important to not make them feel ashamed or embarrassed when they open up because this will add more pain to their grief.  Just listen, and encourage them to openly talk without trying to fix or rationalize their loss with platitudes.
   
   


10. People lost a lot of things in 2020 - not just their loved ones.  They lost their jobs, their homes, their senior year, their college graduations and their dream weddings.  We need to stop comparing our loss to other people’s loss.  Make space and allow yourself to process your feelings so that you can heal. 

Beth's Book recommendation : Emotional Agility by Susan David  

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