Metta - Loving Kindness Equally to Oneself and Others | Ajahn Dhammasiha Dhamma Talk at Dhammagiri
Metta, Loving Kindness, is also known as 'Appamañña-Vihāra', a limitless abode, an unrestricted, unlimited dwelling place for our mind. We develop it to all beings throughout the universe without any distinction, discrimination, conditions or expectations of getting anything in return.
However, we ourselves are also living beings, and to make our practice of metta complete and successful, we have to include ourselves in our unconditional good will. Although we ourselves are only one of trillions of beings throughout the universe, that doesn't mean that we give only one trillionth of our Mettā-Energy to ourselves. Instead, it may be helpful to start by spreading Mettā equally between ourselves and others, with a ratio of 50/50.
Later, we can vary the proprtions as required, until we're finally don't even distinguish anymore between 'me' and 'others', and just radiate mettā universally.