A lot of people want to know what to do when in an abusive relationship, but hardly do we hear someone ask what they should try to avoid. This episode with Danielle Esplin will touch on the biggest mistakes made by those who find themselves in an abusive situation.

It's imperative to know that no one can cause abuse but the abuser him/herself. This episode discusses tips and helpful pointers so that you can look after yourself, be safe, and that you can navigate your way out of the toxic environment.

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In this episode, we discuss the following:

[00:00 ] Intro: Mistakes dealing with abuse

[00:31 ] Abuse is not your fault.

[01:05 ] Subtle behaviors of an abuser

[03:05 ] Mistake 1: Pleading

[04:32 ] Mistake 2: Self Blame

[05:58 ] Abuser’s logic

[06:20 ] Mistake 3: Appeasement

[07:10 ] Mistake 4: Denial

[09:13 ] Mistake 5: Explaining and Defending

[10:05 ] Mistake 6: Withdrawal

[11:10 ] Mistake 7: Reacting immediately

[11:49 ] Mistake 8: Romanticizing Abuse

[13:19 ] A Quick Recap

[13:36 ] What you should do — Stopping the abuse

[14:52 ] Setting boundaries and Disengaging

[15:5]} Planning to leave the abusive relationship

[16:16 ] The Gray Rock Method

[17:07 ] Outro