Never Go "Nose Blind" to Verbal Abuse. Smell It For What It Is! Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
Have you heard that TV ad for air freshener that implores you to notice that you may have gone "nose-blind" to the unpleasant smells in your kitchen, garbage, basement, or car? Well, I think people go "nose-blind" to verbal abuse...and, to emotional abuse, too. It's time to stop!
Today, I'm talking about the ways you might be justifying the bad behavior of a #Hijackal in your life, a relentlessly difficult, usually self-centered person who wants power and control over you...always. It's not just occasional. It's a way of life for them, and they have endless expectations that you will not only allow their verbal abuse, but you'll begin to believe you deserve it. YOU DON'T!!!!
If you've had a #Hijackal parent, an emotionally unavailable parent who had unreasonable expectations of you, you may subconsciously be so used to the behavior that you don't see it in all it's awfulness. You're used to it, and even though it makes you uncomfortable, it is still "comfortably uncomfortable." It's familiar. And, that can change. (And, I hope today's episode will keep you on that change train, too. )
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Constantly being told you are worthless, or thoughtless, or even much less, wears away self-esteem, and with it goes your self-confidence. Especially if a parent emotionally abused you, you are groomed to accept this behavior from others. You believe the abuser. Please DON'T!
(Yes, I know, you don't want to think that about your parent, but you're an adult now. You need to call it what it was...and deal with it.)
If you're wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up. Hijackals have to believe they are always right, and the smartest person in ever room, at all time. So, they give you false messages about yourself. Time to examine those and stop believing them.
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- Why verbal abuse may have become something you're "nose-blind" to
- Why you simply cannot excuse their behavior because "they're having a bad day"
- Why it is NOT YOU who has to change
- How it's possible to have a wildly successful career and still be abused at home
- How to stop being "Nose blind" and wake up smell the herbal tea...lol
YAY! Step up today and don't let anyone put you down ever again. OK?
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Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,
The Relationship Help Doctor
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