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Providing guidance on creating healthy limits, a core concept for dealing with unsolicited romantic advances.

1. Defining the Problem (and Your Rights)

• Clarity vs. Politeness: The episode emphasizes that the adult responsibility is clarity, not politeness. You do not owe an explanation or a soft rejection to someone who is making you uncomfortable.
• The "Boundary Bill of Rights": A quick list of things you are allowed to do, such as: walking away, blocking a person immediately, asking a manager/bartender/HR for help, and setting a firm boundary without debate.

2. Practical Lifehacks: The Scripts

• The Public/Workplace Script: "I'm not interested in discussing this with you. Please do not contact me outside of work."
• The Repeated DM/Text Script: "This is a boundary violation. Stop contacting me." (Followed by blocking).
• The In-Person/Social Script: "I'm sorry, I'm not feeling this connection. I need to go now." (And then actually leaving).

3. Handling the Pushback

• The Guilt Trap: Discussing the common feeling of guilt that comes with saying "no" and how to mentally reframe it as self-preservation and a necessary part of adult self-care.
• Escalation: Providing tips for when an advance becomes harassment—knowing how to file a report, document interactions, and utilize safety resources.