"This is the video I wish I had when I started my dating journey". Ollie delves into his personal experiences dating in the religious or "frum" dating scene. This video is aimed primarily at those navigating this world, particularly if they did not grow up as an observant Jew. For Ollie, the religious dating process is far more sane and healthy than secular dating, but equally he feels there are some tips and insights that could hopefully help people on the religious dating journey.

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0:00 Intro

1:10 The video I wish I had when I started dating

4:10 Religious dating process makes more sense than secular dating

5:55 Topics I want to cover

6:48 Purpose and mindset when dating

8:37 Something bothers you and people say "grow up!"

10:00 What to look for

12:00 A shadchan's (matchmaker) involvement

19:45 Rejecting someone/when they reject you

23:08 Telling others about your dates

25:26 Never compromise

26:13 Knowing where they want to live before first date

26:46 Physical looks/pictures

32:33 The speed of dating and staying relaxed

37:44 The 'checklist'...

40:40 "Frum from birth" not wanting to date "baal teshuvas"

41:28 Sharing your deepest secrets

43:06 Managing social pressure to get married

48:36 Handling dating burnout

51:16 Getting put into boxes/labels

52:59 Your questions