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Pendulation: Why Some Regulate Naturally & Some Don't

Pendulation: Why Some Regulate Naturally & Some Don't

Update: 2025-09-18
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Is nervous system regulation a natural skill or a conscious effort? In this episode, we delve into the skill of pendulation—the mindful shift between safety and defense—and explore why it appears effortless for some but feels impossible for others.

Discover the "carnival game" analogy for understanding your nervous system's capacity, learn how natural pendulation occurs in processes like grieving, and understand where you might fall on the spectrum of "stuckness." Justin breaks down how anyone, from those just "getting by" to those feeling deeply stuck, can learn to practice pendulation and transform it from a deliberate exercise into an automatic, embodied skill for living with more calm, confidence, and connection.

Resources:

🔸 Wondering what to do next? https://bit.ly/4ozbppZ

🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

Crisis resources:

  • National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
  • LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
  • National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
  • Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
  • Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

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Pendulation: Why Some Regulate Naturally & Some Don't

Pendulation: Why Some Regulate Naturally & Some Don't