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Perfect is the Enemy of Kind: 3 Ways Perfectionism Blocks Your Compassion

Perfect is the Enemy of Kind: 3 Ways Perfectionism Blocks Your Compassion

Update: 2026-03-23
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Perfectionism might seem like a strength, but it could be the very thing holding you back from real connection, empathy, and kindness. In this episode, Shola Richards reveals how perfectionism creates impossible standards, fuels self-criticism, and ultimately makes it harder to show up for the people who matter most.

 

Drawing from personal stories and hard-earned lessons, Shola breaks down how perfectionism can quietly damage your relationships, limit your empathy, and keep you from showing up when people need you most. You will learn three practical strategies to shift from perfection to genuine kindness, without lowering your standards or sacrificing excellence.

 

If you have ever felt stuck, overly critical, or hesitant to show up unless everything is just right, this episode will challenge you to rethink what it really means to care.

 

The Kindness Strategies:

  • The Humanity Check Framework
  • The Self-Compassion Protocol
  • The Good Enough Compassion Practice

 

Timestamps:

00:00 Perfect Is Keeping You From Kindness

05:01 How Perfectionism Turns Into Judgment

08:25 Shame Blocks Empathy

13:29 Prioritizing Looking Good Over Connection

16:55 Overcoming Perfectionism For Kindness

 

For speaking requests or collaborations: https://sholarichards.com/speaking/?utm_source=kindness_extremist&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=ep52

🔗 Connect with Shola:
Instagram – @sholarichards
Website – sholarichards.com

Read more on Substack.

This podcast is produced by MicMoguls.

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Perfect is the Enemy of Kind: 3 Ways Perfectionism Blocks Your Compassion

Perfect is the Enemy of Kind: 3 Ways Perfectionism Blocks Your Compassion