Episode 175: Pleasure, Pain and Creepy Fantasy's with Nicoletta Heidegger 

 In this juicy + deeply validating episode, I sit down with the incredible Nicoletta Heidegger — Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#110256), award-nominated Sexologist, and host of the hit podcast Sluts & Scholars. Nicoletta specializes in sex therapy and Equine Assisted Psychotherapy, offering virtual sessions and sessions at her unique ranch office in Los Angeles. She’s Stanford and Pepperdine educated, holds a Master’s in Human Sexuality from Widener University, and is known for her shame-free, sex-positive approach to healing and pleasure.

We go all the way in on a topic so many women deal with silently:
Pelvic floor pain and shame around sex.

We unpack:

• Why pain during sex is actually not normal (even though many of us were told it is)
• How shame, fear, and survival responses show up physically in the pelvic floor
• Where pelvic tension, pain, numbness, or tightness actually come from
• How to begin healing through nervous system regulation + somatic release
• How to find the right pelvic floor therapist or sex-positive specialist
• What real embodied healing looks like — not just “relaxing”
• The power of fantasy, desire expression, and permission to be a little wild
• And yes… the unexpected serial killer fantasy conversation (you’re welcome 😈)

There are also some very real, very funny, very human moments — because healing can be messy, sacred, and hilarious all at once.

This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt:

• Shame around your pleasure
• Confused by your body
• Disconnected during intimacy
• Or like you were “broken”

You’re not broken. You’re just holding more than your body knows how to process — and that can change.

💜 Share this with someone who needs to know they’re not alone
 Your pleasure is not only allowed — it’s sacred.

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