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Quickie w/Yue: What I Learned When I Stopped Being Proud of Being Intimidating

Quickie w/Yue: What I Learned When I Stopped Being Proud of Being Intimidating

Update: 2026-01-25
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With the throwback to 2016 trend, Yue reflected back to what she was like during that time when dating. As someone who was often told she was "intimidating", she shares how she used to view this as a badge of honor and as a way to attract men, but now realizes it was code for being emotionally unavailable and attracting all the wrong types of people. She shares why this actually held her back in dating, the shifts she made, and why she wants to be viewed as open and available instead. Enjoy!

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Quickie w/Yue: What I Learned When I Stopped Being Proud of Being Intimidating

Quickie w/Yue: What I Learned When I Stopped Being Proud of Being Intimidating

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick