DiscoverDateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationshipsS22E2: What We've Gotten Wrong About Attraction, Choosing The Right Partners & Long-Term Connection (According To Science) w/ Paul Eastwick
S22E2: What We've Gotten Wrong About Attraction, Choosing The Right Partners & Long-Term Connection (According To Science) w/ Paul Eastwick

S22E2: What We've Gotten Wrong About Attraction, Choosing The Right Partners & Long-Term Connection (According To Science) w/ Paul Eastwick

Update: 2026-02-172
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We're back with one of our most popular guests Dr. Paul Eastwick to debunk some of the biggest myths – from the outdated "dating market" mindset to gender stereotypes – that hold us back from finding great partners and realizing we have the attributes that make us a good partner as well. We break down the real science behind the importance of the qualities we think make someone attractive, what ultimately makes someone a good long-term partner, and how to use this information to date in a way that leads to better long-term success. Enjoy!

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S22E2: What We've Gotten Wrong About Attraction, Choosing The Right Partners & Long-Term Connection (According To Science) w/ Paul Eastwick

S22E2: What We've Gotten Wrong About Attraction, Choosing The Right Partners & Long-Term Connection (According To Science) w/ Paul Eastwick

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick