S3 | E187: Hustling for Emotional Validation: Performative Friendships
Description
Whew, Boo… this one’s tender. If you’ve ever found yourself over-explaining your heart, over-giving in friendships, or bending your boundaries just to feel seen, this episode is your mirror moment. Today, I’m getting real about hustling for emotional validation—that sneaky habit of performing for love instead of resting in it. We’re unpacking how it shows up, why it’s rooted in survival, and the exact steps to stop performing and start being again.
This is the sacred work of becoming the woman who no longer hustles to be chosen: she knows she already is.
✨ WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:
✅ What “emotional hustling” really is (and why it’s so hard to spot)
✅ How unmet childhood wounds keep you over-functioning in relationships
✅ The four hustle reflexes your nervous system uses to feel safe
✅ How to self-validate and cultivate joy without external applause
⏳ TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — Life update + BGSW Conference wins ️✨
06:25 — What is “hustling for emotional validation”?
10:18 — The sting of performative love
13:09 — Why love that must be earned isn’t love at all
17:22 — Your Hustle Reflex & how it hijacks your peace
20:45 — How depletion fuels the hustle reflex
23:41 — Joy micro-bursts: retraining your nervous system
28:07 — Dopamine stacks for hard days
️ RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Take the Hustle Trigger Quiz: Identify your unique hustle reflex → detox.hustlerehab.co/hustletriggers
️ Explore The Hustle Rehab™: Your blueprint for breaking free from hustle fatigue → learn.miliancollective.com/thr
Follow along on Instagram: @hustlerehab
TRY THIS THIS WEEK:
Choose one Joy ritual to practice daily:
• One-song dance party while you make coffee
• Light a candle + breathe for 90 seconds ️
• Write a one-line journal celebrating you ✍
• Schedule one “Joy Appointment” that’s non-negotiable
JOURNAL PROMPT:
Where in my life have I been hustling to feel seen, instead of resting in the truth that I already am?
CONNECT WITH ME:
→ Instagram & TikTok: @hustlerehab
→ Explore more: hustlerehab.co
→ Take the Hustle Trigger Quiz: detox.hustlerehab.co/hustletriggers



