S5:EP33 This Black Man Wants His Partner to Be Racist… I Had to Respond
Description
In this episode, I respond to a viral interview on the *Other People’s Lives* podcast where a Black man opens up about his desire for race play — and how he finds it more intense when he feels like his white partners are *actually* racist.
As a Black gay man, I had to unpack this — not to judge, but to reflect on how trauma, identity, desire, and race collide in ways that are uncomfortable… but very real. From the psychology of eroticized pain to the legacy of being fetishized, this is one of my most raw and honest episodes yet.
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👇🏾 CHAPTERS:00:00 – intro Clip from Other People’s Lives 05:25 – Clip from Other People’s Lives 06:43 – Race Play vs Real Racism 08:15 – Race Play is not new nor is it ok! 10:35 – The Psychology of Eroticizing Trauma 12:51 – Desire and Feeling Unseen 15:41 – But The Feeling Unseen Is Impactful 18:20 –Lets Talk About White Validation20:56 – Consent Isn’t Context-Free
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