DiscoverState ShiftersSSS 184: Why You Shut Down in Relationships (And How to Stay Open)
SSS 184: Why You Shut Down in Relationships (And How to Stay Open)

SSS 184: Why You Shut Down in Relationships (And How to Stay Open)

Update: 2025-11-15
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What's up, legends? Got the whiteboard out today because we're breaking down why you emotionally shut down in relationships - and more importantly, what you can actually do about it.


This is the core of what makes or breaks your relationships. Not communication tactics, not date nights - your ability to stay emotionally open when things get intense.


Here's what we'll cover in this podcast episode:

✔️ The nervous system trauma responses (fight, flight, freeze, appease)

✔️ Why shutdown is instinctual survival, not personal failure

✔️ How your parents' relationship with emotion shaped yours

✔️ The difference between shutting down vs. slowing down

✔️ Why hearing the pain (not the blame) changes everything

✔️ New identity = new frequency = new reality


Your ability to stay emotionally open when things get intense is what makes or breaks relationships. Not communication tactics, not date nights - this right here.


The core truth: how someone feels around you determines the quality of every relationship in your life. When you shut down emotionally, the depth you can reach with your partner gets cut off immediately.


Most of us learned unhealthy emotional patterns from parents who weren't emotionally attuned themselves. They passed down unconscious behaviors around emotions, and now you're dealing with the consequences in your adult relationships.


Define your new response: Who do you need to be for the relationship you want? Someone responsive, clear, relaxed, and calm. Someone who leans into emotional intensity instead of resisting it.


The breakdown became the catalyst for breakthrough.


Remember: you don't practice this when things are going great. You practice your new identity when things go wrong. That's your training ground.


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ABOUT ME

Jordan Candlish is a men's coach, speaker, and creator behind the Embodied Entrepreneur. A former semi-pro soccer player turned corporate escapee, Jordan helps high-performing men reconnect with purpose, master their emotions, and build a life that actually feels good—not just looks good on paper. His content blends mindset, embodiment, and spiritual


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SSS 184: Why You Shut Down in Relationships (And How to Stay Open)

SSS 184: Why You Shut Down in Relationships (And How to Stay Open)

Jordan Candlish