In this highly anticipated Part 2, Lawrence Joss and Dr. Nima Rahmany explore the unconscious dynamics that make relationships feel like a painful dance, especially in the context of family conflict and parental alienation. Dr. Rahmany breaks down the tension between the two core relational fears, abandonment and engulfment, that create the exhausting push-pull pattern in partnerships, and with your children.

Key Takeaways

• Many of us were born into cultures and societies where we had to choose attachment over our authentic truth.
• We are conditioned to fawn for safety.
• Fawning is a performative self abandonment that we do to feel safe.
• The codependent is the one that fawns, abandoning themselves for attachment.
• Deep down, every time you fawn, there's a little resentment towards the person you're fawning.
• People pleasing is a response that can lead to losing one's identity.
• Clients often express that they don't even know who they are anymore due to people pleasing.
• Cultural conditioning plays a significant role in shaping our behaviors.
• Self-abandonment can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics.
• Understanding these patterns is crucial for personal growth.

Chapters
0:00 - Abandonment Meets Engulfment: The Cycle
0:25 - Mission, Community, and Parental Alienation Support
3:20 - Living the Pain and Grief of Alienation
5:10 - Defining The Push-Pull Pattern
8:15 - Becoming Trigger-Proof And Repair
10:25 - Enmeshment And Boundary Walls
12:07 - Alienation As A Repeating Pattern
18:05 - Shadow Work and Owning the Parts We Hide
23:35 - Authenticity And Secure Bonds
27:08 - Fawn Response Explained
32:00 - Health Costs Of People-Pleasing
35:02 - Boundaries And Nervous System Safety
38:24 - Breaking Cycles Through Parent Healing
41:28 - The Trigger-Proof Experience Overview

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