Lee & Josh, have a take on when your in relationships & you begin to seek significant others, and they don't seem to work out but one significant other at the time had kids and you are the individual that stepped into be that parenting figure that they were looking for. Stop shaming and blaming when that person walks away because they are tired of the abuse, tired of seeing the kids suffer, and tired of feeling like they are to blame because they put their sanity first. We as humans have to be able to accept our wrong doings before shaming and blaming others especially when a relationship door has closed, we have to be open to feed back and acceptance of looking at ourselves in troubling times rather than looking to blame people who just want to be there for our children during what could be the hardest and hardest times of our lives. We as people have to look at all the vulnerability of situations and become vulnerable ourselves.