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EPISODE 76

Do you constantly forget your accomplishments while ruminating on what’s gone wrong? You might be experiencing "success amnesia" - the tendency for trauma survivors and ADHDers to completely forget positive achievements while remembering every mistake.

In this episode of the Feel Better Every Day Podcast, I (trauma therapist and ADHDer, Eve Menezes Cunningham) explain why success amnesia is so common in ADHD brains and share a simple daily practice to counter it.

Learn how to build authentic confidence by remembering what you've actually accomplished, even the small things. Using my Feel. Love. Heal framework, I share how to:

• Recognise and welcome your current feelings without judgment
• Connect with your inherent worth beyond achievements
• Use success tracking to support your efforts at collective care and empowerment

This isn't about fake positivity - it's about training your brain to remember the full picture of who you are and what you've done. Perfect for anyone struggling with low self-esteem, imposter syndrome, or feeling "not enough."

Timestamps, resources, and show notes available here

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Learn from the Self (for that highest, wisest, truest, wildest, most joyful, brilliant and miraculous part of yourself) and self-care practices the professionals depend on. With a mixture of solo and interview episodes I (your host, Eve Menezes Cunningham (author of 365 Ways to Feel Better: Self-care Ideas for Embodied Wellbeing) share trauma-informed and VAST / ADHD-friendly self and Self* care ideas through the lens of the Feel. Love. Heal. framework to help you:

• Feel. Regulate your nervous system, work with your energy and do the things that help you create a life you don’t need to retreat from

• Love. Accept yourself completely with love, compassion and kindness – you don’t need to do a thing and

• Heal. Collective care to turn what hurts your heart into action to support your family, organisations, communities and the world at large

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CHAPTERS

(0:00 ) Countering Success Amnesia

(0:39 ) Welcome to the Feel Better Every Day Podcast

(1:25 ) The Feel. Love. Heal. Framework

(3:04 ) Autumn Equinox and International Day of Peace

(3:27 ) What Is Success Amnesia?

(5:27 ) Why Acknowledging Your Achievements Matters

(6:23 ) Feel: Active Self-care and Processing Emotions

(10:28 ) Love: Accepting Yourself as Enough

(12:38 ) Heal: Collective Care and Post-traumatic Growth

(14:34 ) A Daily Practice to Overcome Success Amnesia

(16:18 ) Coming Up Next Week: Tend and Befriend

DISCLAIMER

The content I share is not a replacement for one to one trauma therapy (etc). While you can do an enormous amount to support yourself, please always seek appropriate medical advice. Thanks for watching. Please subscribe / follow and share with someone who you think will benefit from this episode.

FULL TRANSCRIPT

As in, I'm going to recommend a daily practice you can do to counter “success amnesia”. It's a wonderful way for building confidence in a really authentic way. It's not like, “Wow, I'm brilliant!” or anything like that.

It's just like, “Oh, wow! I did these things today that I had forgotten. And, yeah, that makes sense as to why I was working late or why I was tired or why...” Whatever it might be, it's helping you take a breath, pause before you move on to the next thing and how you need to just do, do, do, do.

Hi, you're listening to the Feel Better Every Day Podcast. I'm your host and producer, Eve Menezes Cunningham. I'm a trauma therapist and survivor, a clinical supervisor and supervisor's supervisor. An author, columnist, self-care coach, where I integrate the psychosynthesis counselling, the yoga therapy, EFT, NLP, crystals and more, NLP. And I'm also an ADHD-er.

And I'm also Rainbow Magnificat's human. She was really shy for all the cat episodes, but here she is now.

Every Tuesday, I share new episodes of the Feel Better Every Day Podcast. And in each episode, I go through whatever the theme is, using my Feel. Love. Heal. Framework. This makes it something that's accessible for yourself to work with. Whatever you're working with. The Feel element is to do with active self-care. That's that lowercase s, self-care.

The Love is the acceptance, the connection with Divine Love, loving yourself and recognising you are part of the divine. That connecting with your miraculous Self, that highest, truest, wisest, the uppercase S. That remembering you don't need to do a thing. You're already enough. You're not too much. You're worthy. You're lovable. You're part of the divine. You're all made of stardust. Connecting with that around whatever issue you're facing, it can help you.

I don't know if you can see little Rainy here. Connecting with that divinity within yourself and everyone can be really transformative and a peaceful way of going through life.

The Heal element is the collective care. The co-regulation. The, when you've had enough time to deal with things, to let yourself just be, to regulate all those things. It can be then that post-traumatic growth, that co-regulation. The looking into ways to turn what's hurting your heart into a way to improve things for yourself, your family, your communities, the world at large.

For today's episode, episode 76, we're celebrating the Autumn Equinox, a time of balance and harmony, on the 21st September. We're also celebrating the International Day of Peace.

That might sound quite strange because of everything that's going on in the world so I'm going to share a resourcing technique today around “success amnesia”.

Of all the things I've learned as an ADHDer, the term “success amnesia” explains my entire life. And like kind of having low self-esteem for so long and self-loathing for so long and all the rest of it. And then realising how that is so common with ADHD and trauma, with working memory issues. We can do good stuff and completely forget it. I forgot I wrote a book. I've forgotten I've edited journals. I've forgotten columns. I've forgotten huge pieces of work or other things that were tough in life. Success amnesia is the phrase that explains why it's so prevalent for ADHDers.

By working with your own success amnesia, and I'll share some ways in this episode, it can not only boost your own self-esteem and confidence, or at least start chipping away at some of that self-loathing and internalised ableism, but it can also empower you to feel better, able to speak up, to help others. To navigate so much of the insanity we're facing in the world and things that we thought everyone had a