TPJ 111: HELP! I HATE MY CHILD (What to do if you dislike your child)
Feeling hatred toward your child is a symptom of a different problem.
This is a controversial and taboo topic, but it's not that uncommon for parents to sometimes feel disgusted and think or say "Go away!" "Leave me alone." "I don't like you." "I don't want you." "I don't love you." "I hate you!" towards their kids.
So what's causing that very uncomfortable sensation and feeling? Don't stay stuck with the feeling that there's something wrong with you or something wrong with your child - let's break this down:
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[02:14 ] Feeling hatred toward your child is a symptom of a different problem
[03:59 ] 1. This is normal
[05:57 ] Even though it's normal there are things we can do about it
[07:25 ] 2. Change is constant
[10:35 ] 3. Your child might be going through a hard time right now
[12:37 ] 4. YOU might be going through a hard time right now
[14:43 ] 5. You don't hate your child; you hate their behaviors or temperament
[17:12 ] 6. Take a break
[19:03 ] 7. Coach yourself
[20:16 ] 8. Inhibit yourself
[21:28 ] 9. Imagine it’s your last day on earth
[22:42 ] 10. Envision your golden moments with your child
[24:00 ] 11. List out the things that are awesome about your child
[24:41 ] 12. Reframe their bad traits
[26:28 ] Correct their shadow side and celebrate their light side
[27:01 ] Traits we find difficult in childhood are often assets in adulthood
[27:20 ] 13. Engage in baby bonding behaviors
[28:22 ] 14. Use humor
[29:34 ] 15. Love is a choice
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