TPP 051a: Asher and Debbie Talk About Handling Parent-Child Conflict
Today’s episode is a Kid’s POV Special episode featuring another conversation with 12-year-old Asher. Our topic? Conflict. More specifically, handling parent-child conflict between the two of us. We’re tackling this topic because I’ve been getting questions from listeners who want to know a) if we even have conflicts at all and b) if so, how we handle them.
The easy answer to the first part of that question is DEFINITELY. We DEFINITELY have conflict. I’m very human in that way, as is Asher. Today, we’ll spend the episode answering the second part of that question. We’ll talk about the kinds of things that crop up and cause conflict between us, and then we’ll share with you what that actually looks like in our world—what I do, what Ash does, and most importantly, how we move through and past it.
Pro tip: This is a good episode for co-listening! When Asher and I listen to podcasts, we dump a puzzle out on the dining room table and listen while building the puzzle. It makes for a nice combination!
About Debbie & Asher
Debbie Reber is the founder and CEO of Tilt Parenting and the host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast. 12-year-old Asher is Debbie’s child and is regularly featured on the podcast. Find out more by visiting the About Page.
Things you’ll learn from this episode
- The benefits of talking through and getting clear on expectations (for all members of the family) prior to leaving for a vacation
- A strategy for using the collaborative problem solving approach to identify, address, and pre-solve concerns ahead of time
- How to make departure day go more smoothly
- The benefits of exploring and researching aspects of a vacation time well in advance of the trip (including accommodations, activities, etc.)
- A strategy for using written schedules coupled with frequent reviews during a vacation keeps everyone’s expectations in check
- The benefits of bringing a child into the planning process (and letting them determine some of what will happen on vacation)
- Why it’s useful to work with your child to discover what they need most on vacation and then incorporating it into your daily plan (ie: rest, chill time, etc.)
Resources mentioned for handling parent-child conflict
- Download a PDF of our Family Goals Worksheet
- Download a PDF of our Vacation Concerns Worksheet
- Download a PDF of our Daily Vacation Planner Worksheet
- Look at our Departure Plan whiteboard
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