You have to have a tough skin to online date.

There’s going to be guys you’re just not into.

The reason why we like other people because of something in our past, something that we saw maybe the way our dads look their build, or somebody wonderful saw it. Who knows? You can't ever take personally if if you're not a person's cup of tea

You don’t need to be everybody’s type.

One red flag - web-based phone numbers. Unless they’re from out of the country or just moved or something like that. Or they have a good explanation.

It usually means they’re hiding something. Sometimes Mary Beth uses one to avoid giving out her real number.

Sometimes you’ll meet a good guy, but it’s just not going to work. It’s okay to like somebody and care about somebody but not want to be with them. 

Look past aesthetic things that you might not like as much if they’re a good person. Because if they’re a good person and treat you with respect you should give them a chance.

You can't love a perfect person. But you can love an imperfect person perfectly. 

A good way to tell what a person is like: go out to dinner with them and eat the way you would eat if you’re with a girlfriend. Eat the bread. Drink the soda (or second glass of wine.) and make sure they don’t try to judge.

Every aspect of life is pleasant. So you might as well find your joy in what you find joy.

Make sure they don’t judge your hobbies or activities. Julie is obsessed with Disney and Harry Potter. Even if a man doesn’t find them interesting, he should be respectful enough to appreciate there’s something that gives her joy.

If they think it’s stupid, don’t tell the person. Because they care about it.

it's really important if you're going to be out there dating that you have somebody you can share your stories with and things often because it's going to not make sense half the time,

The other night Mary Beth was having a conversation with a guy, and he told her that she can call him Daddy.

at the end of the conversation, I said, well, Bye, daddy. And he's like, that wasn't sexy. We're gonna have to work on that. No, okay. That's strike number two.

You want a guy who thinks that funny and likes the weird stuff about you.

Don’t date somebody who tries to put you down when you do something a bit eccentric.

If you don’t find yourself pretty enough for somebody - you are. And find someone who will appreciate that.

Model Guy

May Beth was talking with this guy, and he would send her a good morning text every morning.

Except it was very impersonal, and she could tell he was copying and pasting it to other girls.

For older people trying to date, you might have zero clue what you’re up against. You think that you can trust people and you think they’re telling you the truth.

A lot of people lie while online dating. 

When you match with somebody and they start a conversation, some of them are just interested in the conversation for attention. They’ll even take you all the way to a date and then ghost you.

If they delete themselves so they’re off your profile and have deleted a conversation, you can no longer see where they are. But if they leave themselves on, you can see where they are.

Another big indication that they’re still looking for people after you’ve moved off the dating site is if he changes his profile picture.

Give them the benefit of the doubt at first, but if they’re changing it after a couple of weeks or more you should bring it up.

On that note, don’t just let the conversation continue for weeks on end without setting up a time to meet in real life. Mary Beth usually wants to have a date with a guy within the first week of talking online.

Because, well, if when someone deletes themselves from your queue, you can't report them anymore. So a catfish will, as soon as they get your other phone number and get off the because you can talk to people on the app, as soon as they get your real phone number. So your real text number, they will delete themselves from the app because that way you cannot report the captcha and once you find out that they're a catfish, or they're doing something sketchy. You can't report them because the information is gone. So that's why that's such a big red flag.

in general, if they cancel if they make a date with you, and then they cancel that first date. I'm out

Oh, the players and the playboys. But mostly the Well, yeah. Either one. They are always going out of town.

you can draw your own conclusions why that is

If you’re feeling stressed out about finding someone online because everyone you know is getting married, don’t believe everything you see.

Social media only shows the positives of a relationship, so don’t feel like there’s something wrong with you. You just haven’t found your person yet.

you shouldn't have to settle. You know, there's not anything wrong with you. But like, you have to tell yourself and you remind yourself that there is nothing wrong with you.

we all have weird habits. We're all human. We're allowed to have emotions. We're allowed to do things. We're allowed to make dumb mistakes.

Mary Beth’s friend (and her three kids) moved from Canada to live with a guy in Palm Beach. She thought he was wealthy enough to give her and her kids the support and experiences they needed. But she found out his house actually belonged to his mother, and he had no money.

That scared Mary Beth.

Mary Beth doesn’t drink, smoke, or watch pornography. When she told this to the model guy, he started making sexual references to her (but that went away after a little bit.)

A couple of nights later, he told her she was beautiful like a porn star.

Don’t love someone just for the sex. 

Never feel desperate.

The best thing to do

Have self confidence

Make a list of things you’re not willing to accept

Make a list of the things you don’t like about somebody if you’re trying to work up the confidence to separate from someone

Be self-aware

So remind yourself when you get screwed over by a player or something like that, just like they're, you're gonna end up happy, not them. 

Everyone makes mistakes

Remember the red flags (consult the previous episode)

Don’t invest too much too soon.

Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about yourself.

If you don't love yourself, you can't love somebody else.

So every time she asked me for advice, I'll give her I give pretty good advice. But I don't always make the best dating decision. So that's why I always say Do as I say, not as I do.