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The Cost of Being a “Good Girl”

The Cost of Being a “Good Girl”

Update: 2025-07-21
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In today’s episode, Dominique sits down with award-winning researcher and best-selling author Dr. Chelle McQuaid, whose work dives deep into how women can break free from lifelong patterns of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and silencing themselves to keep others comfortable.


From early childhood conditioning to the cultural expectations still placed on women today, Dr. Chelle shares surprising insights from her global research, including the role estrogen plays in helping us shed the "good girl" persona and step into a more authentic, empowered self.


In this episode, Dominique and Dr. Chelle discuss:

  • How “good girl” conditioning begins in childhood and gets reinforced in adulthood
  • The connection between menopause and breaking free from self-silencing behaviors
  • Why women often struggle with setting boundaries and asking for what they need
  • The three biggest ways the “good girl” mindset shows up: perfectionism, people-pleasing, and emotional suppression
  • How self-compassion, secure self-attachment, and self-leadership can change everything
  • Why “not yet” can be the most powerful phrase for growth
  • A calming somatic practice (the “butterfly hug”) to ground yourself in moments of fear or self-doubt


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The Cost of Being a “Good Girl”

The Cost of Being a “Good Girl”