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The Real Work of Love: Healing Attachment Wounds & Choosing Growth in Relationships w/ Mark Groves

The Real Work of Love: Healing Attachment Wounds & Choosing Growth in Relationships w/ Mark Groves

Update: 2026-03-12
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When one person pulls away and the other leans in harder, the result is often frustration, confusion, and emotional exhaustion. In this episode, Julie & Yue talk with Mark Groves—human connection specialist, author, and founder of Create the Love—about what it takes to step out of the anxious–avoidant cycle and into a more secure form of partnership. Drawing from both research and lived experience, Mark shares how taking responsibility for his own triggers and emotional responses transformed his relationship. This conversation reframes healing not as fixing your partner, but as changing the patterns you bring into connection.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why runner–chaser dynamics feel so hard to escape

• How anxious and avoidant patterns reinforce each other

• What self-responsibility actually looks like in relationships

• Why awareness and repair matter more than blame

• How secure relationships are built through choice, not chemistry

To learn more about Mark Groves, follow him @itsmarkgroves and visit https://www.createthelove.com/



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The Real Work of Love: Healing Attachment Wounds & Choosing Growth in Relationships w/ Mark Groves

The Real Work of Love: Healing Attachment Wounds & Choosing Growth in Relationships w/ Mark Groves

Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu