In today’s episode, we cover emotions and empathy with Karla McLaren, a renowned expert in emotional intelligence and empathy development. As an award-winning author, educator, and social science researcher, Karla dedicated her career to helping individuals and organizations understand and harness the power of emotions. She developed the "Six Essential Aspects of Empathy" model, which breaks down empathy into accessible and actionable steps, making it possible for everyone to enhance their emotional skills. Karla's books, including "The Language of Emotions," "The Power of Emotions at Work," and "Embracing Anxiety," offer transformative insights into revaluing even the most challenging emotions, turning them into pathways for self-awareness, effective communication, and healthier relationships. 

Join us for an enlightening conversation with Karla McLaren as she unpacks the intricate language of emotions and the vital role they play in our daily lives. Ever wondered why certain emotions feel so overpowering or why we struggle to articulate what we're feeling? Karla breaks down the complexities of emotional intelligence and empathy, offering practical tools to expand your emotional vocabulary and improve your communication skills. We explore how emotions are not the enemies of rationality but essential allies in decision-making and relationship-building. Discover how to manage challenging emotions like anger and jealousy, set healthy boundaries, and develop a deeper connection with yourself and others. 

What to Listen For

Introduction – 00:00:00

• Why do we often feel strong negative emotions even in our most loving relationships?


• How does vulnerability play a crucial role in the intensity of emotions experienced in close relationships?


• Introduction to Karla McLaren and her journey into exploring the language of emotions and empathy.

Understanding Emotions – 00:02:46

• What are emotions, and why are they essential to our rationality and decision-making?


• Why is it unhelpful to label emotions as simply ‘good’ or ‘bad’?


• How does expanding your emotional vocabulary improve your self-awareness and emotional regulation?

Building an Emotional Vocabulary – 00:05:28

• What are the benefits of having a broader emotional vocabulary?


• How can identifying the intensity of emotions help you manage them more effectively?


• Practical steps to enhance your emotional vocabulary and how it can lead to better communication.

Anger and Boundaries – 00:16:01

• What is the true purpose of anger, and how does it relate to setting boundaries?


• Common misconceptions about anger and how they can lead to unhealthy expressions or repression.


• Strategies for managing anger constructively to maintain and reinforce personal boundaries.

Resist Emotional Manipulation – 00:27:20

• What easy questions can you ask yourself to figure out if/how someone is trying to convince you to do something or think a certain way?

The Role of Jealousy – 00:32:36

• What triggers jealousy, and why is it considered a crucial social emotion?


• How to differentiate between healthy jealousy that sets boundaries and unhealthy reactions driven by insecurity.


• Tips on addressing jealousy in relationships through clear communication and understanding personal needs.

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