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The Weight of Shame: Gay, Latinx, and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself – Lucas Saiter

The Weight of Shame: Gay, Latinx, and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself – Lucas Saiter

Update: 2025-07-04
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Why is it still so hard to just be in your own skin when you’re a gay Latinx man? From religious guilt to macho pressure, the layers of shame and silence can run deep.

In this episode, therapist and NYU instructor Lucas Saiter joins us to unpack the mental health challenges gay Latinx men face—and how we can finally stop carrying everyone else's expectations.

Lucas brings powerful insight as a clinician, Latinx gay man, and community builder. From healing identity wounds to rebuilding intimate connections, he’s helping men take off the mask and find real belonging—in themselves and in their communities.

If you've ever felt like you're too much or not enough, this one's for you.

In this episode we:

  • Learn how to close the gap between shame and self-lov

  • Break the patterns of it being rude or disrespectful to discuss mental health in the Latinx world

  • Discover how vulnerability is a superpower



About Lucas


Lucas Saiter is the founder and director of Manhattan Therapy NYC and Adjunct Instructor in the Department of Applied Psychology at NYU.

In addition to working in a group practice in New York City, he also maintains his own private practice, supervising recent graduates obtaining hours for licensure. Clinically he has interests in many areas, including LGBTQIA+ individuals working on strengthening identity, Latinx individuals and couples, immigrants adjusting to living in NYC, adults and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, identity concerns, trauma, and relationship and intimacy concerns.

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The Weight of Shame: Gay, Latinx, and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself – Lucas Saiter

The Weight of Shame: Gay, Latinx, and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself – Lucas Saiter