Ever wonder who you’d be without the wine?

In this personal and powerful episode, I reflect on how creating a sacred space for women—where we gather weekly over iced tea and flowers—revealed the essence of my own transformation. What started as a dream of women’s retreats manifested in a flower farm. And what I thought would be found through achievement, I discovered through simplicity, presence, and letting go of alcohol.

Midlife sobriety is more than just quitting drinking—it's a rite of passage we were never taught to honor. And when you pair it with the hormonal shifts of perimenopause and menopause, something magical happens: you reclaim your energy, your intuition, and your power.

We explore:

• What it really means to meet your future self
• Why letting go of outcomes opens the door to unexpected joy
• How sobriety teaches you to trust your desires more than your conditioning
• Using perimenopause as a sacred portal, not a problem to fix
• Replacing perfectionism with consistency and self-compassion
• Optimizing energy (not balance) as a woman in transition
• Tapping into your intuition as your ultimate guide

✨ The woman who confidently orders iced tea instead of wine?
She’s the wise one. The whole one. The next evolution of you.

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A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.