In this powerful episode of the Shame(less) Podcast, host Ken Freire sits down with Dustin Alley, the founder of Men After God, to discuss turning past regrets into a God-given mission. 

Dustin shares his raw and unfiltered testimony, from his wild teenage years influenced by the Jackass-era subculture to his struggles with addiction, pornography, and dysfunctional relationships. 

But his story doesn't end in shame—God transformed his life, leading him into a redemptive journey of ministry and marriage restoration. If you’re a man struggling with regret, addiction, or the weight of past mistakes, this episode will show you that God’s grace is bigger than your failures.

Topics Covered:

✔️ Overcoming addiction, lust, and the past that tries to define us
✔️ The dangers of "functional dysfunction" and how we normalize sin
✔️ How porn rewires your brain and distorts intimacy in marriage
✔️ What real repentance looks like: Godly sorrow vs. worldly sorrow (2 Cor. 7:10 )
✔️ The importance of discipleship, accountability, and mentorship
✔️ Practical steps for men to break free and lead their families well
✔️ Why self-forgiveness is often harder than accepting God’s forgiveness
✔️ How to rebuild emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy in marriage
✔️ The birth of Men After God and why every man needs a mission

Key Quote from Dustin Alley:

“If I choose to hold past sin over my head, I’m putting myself in the place of God and doing something He doesn’t even do with me. If I have confessed and repented, I am forgiven—so I need to live in the light of that forgiveness.”

Resources Mentioned:

🔗 Men After God: https://menaftergod.net
📖 Dustin's Book - Becoming a Man After God: Available on Amazon
👥 Join the Men After God Facebook Community: facebook.com/groups/menaftergod
📖 Recommended Reading: Respectable Sins by Jerry Bridges, The Mortification of Sin by John Owen

Practical Action Steps for Men:

✔️ Own Your Mistakes – Sit down with your wife and confess where you’ve fallen short. True leadership starts with humility.
✔️ Pick One Area to Improve – Don’t get overwhelmed. Choose one practical way to strengthen emotional, spiritual, or physical intimacy.
✔️ Surround Yourself with Godly Men – Accountability is key. Join a brotherhood that will call you higher.
✔️ Stop Managing Sin—Kill It! – Repentance isn’t about behavior management; it’s about putting sin to death through daily submission to Christ.
✔️ Lead Your Family with Intentionality – Whether it’s praying together, doing devotionals, or scheduling date nights, start leading with purpose today.

Connect with Dustin Alley:

📘 Facebook: facebook.com/TheMenAfterGod
🎙️ Podcast: The Men After God Podcast (Available on Spotify & Apple Podcasts)
🌎 Website: https://menaftergod.net