What To Do When Families Become Estranged [Re-Release]

Update: 2025-11-25

Description

This series is sponsored by Mira and Daniel Stokar, and this episode is sponsored by Dr. Leah Younger of Younger Psychology.

In 2023, we talked to psychologist Dr. Joshua Coleman, about the nuances of familial estrangement and reconciliation.

We also heard from mindset coach Jason Blau and translator Izzy Posen about how these issues play out within the Jewish community. In this episode we discuss:

What strategies can be employed by families carrying the burden of strife and negativity?
What are the common triggers of family estrangement, and how can those in strained relationships move forward?
What is the role of family in a world of optionality?

Tune in to hear a conversation about how we can make peace with the “ghosts” of our past.

Interview with Joshua Coleman begins at 8:54 .
Interview with Jason Blau begins at 54:42 .
Interview with Izzy Posen begins at 1:15:42 .

Dr. Joshua Coleman is a psychologist in private practice and a Senior Fellow with the Council on Contemporary Families, an organization of sociologists, historians, psychologists and demographers dedicated to providing the public with the latest research and best practice findings about American families. He has written for The New York Times, The Atlantic, and other publications, and often speaks on television about issues of estrangement, relationships, and families. Dr. Coleman also writes music for television which has been used on many shows.

References:

“Of Ghosts and Ancestors” by Ari Berman

“The Power of Vulnerability” by Brené Brown

Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day by Anne Katherine

Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner

The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner

Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties and How to Heal the Conflict by Joshua Coleman

When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along by Joshua Coleman

“The Family Reunion” by Izzy Posen

Genesis 46

“הַמַּלְאָךְ" by Izzy Posen

"Daddy Come Home" by The Yeshiva Boys Choir

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