When HIS love fills our home

“BE NICE To your kids they choose your nursing home.”

“Behind every GREAT MAN is a woman rolling her eyes.”

“Never LAUGH at your wife’s choices. You are one of them!”

This fasting is for your family. We understand that many relational issues can be worked through with wise counsel, patient listening, and intentional care. Yet I am absolutely convinced that the greatest power for true transformation is found in the prayer of the righteous.

James 5:16 16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working..

 When husbands and wives, parents and children, lift their voices together before the Lord, something shifts in the atmosphere of the home. 

Problems that once seemed immovable begin to break. 

Walls of offense begin to fall. 

Hearts that were hardened begin to soften.

Only the love of Christ, the consciousness of how much we are loved, can we build up our homes with healing, joy, and lasting peace.

Christ at the center

Ephesians 5:22-26 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,

Christ at the center of your life and home changes everything. 

Notice that it is all about Christ.

If the love of which husbands must love is the same as Christ, then all husbands need is to be aware of this love God has shown us in Christ. 

I insist that only the identity of the beloved son is what will sustain you during the deserts of life and during intensified prayer seasons such as this one.

Matthew 3:16 - 4:2 16 And when Jesus was baptized, […] a voice from heaven said, “This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased.”

Matthew 4:1-4 Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. 2 And after fasting forty days and forty nights, he was hungry.

3 And the tempter came and said to him, “If you are the Son of God, command these stones to become loaves of bread.” 4 But he answered, “It is written,

“‘Man shall not live by bread alone,

but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.’”

Be conscious of His love every day.

I am totally forgiven.

I am highly favored

I am profoundly loved.

When the husband embraces his biblical role, the whole household flourishes.

Husbands are called to love their wives sacrificially, not as a mere duty or obligation, but as an overflow of the grace they have already received from Christ.

1 John 4:19 19 We love because he first loved us.

This love is self-giving, patient, and anchored in the gospel.

Wives, in turn, are called to submit as unto the Lord, recognizing that submission is not about inferiority but about divine mission-order—choosing to honor Christ by honoring the role God has established.

When both husband and wife focus on their God-given callings instead of competing with one another or keeping score, the marriage is lifted out of tension and rivalry and into harmony.

(Joshua 24:15 ) …as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

The Husband’s Core Identity: Priest, Protector, Provider

• As Priest, the husband leads the family spiritually—prayer, Scripture, worship.

• As Protector, he guards emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

• As the Provider, he works diligently and faithfully to support his home.

However, all is the result of the presence of God in your home.

 A man’s faith is tested first in his household—how he loves, disciplines, and provides. 

This week, I read an article in the New York Times about a remarkable effort in Buffalo, New York, in the aftermath of the tragic 2022 supermarket shooting. The report told the story of how a threat made by a troubled young man on a school bus mobilized 106 people—police, counselors, agencies, and community leaders—to intervene before another act of violence could take place. For more than two years, they surrounded this young man with supervision, therapy, and programs. He wrestled with depression, anger, confusion, and instability, showing just how fragile his inner world was.

Their efforts worked—he stayed in school, graduated, and never carried out violence.

And as I reflected on it, one thought stood out: more than 100 professionals worked hard to fill the gap, but what he lacked was something far simpler and more powerful—a strong household, a father’s presence, and the stability of love at home. No program, no agency, no team of experts can replace the divine design of a mother and father who love, nurture, and guide their children in the Lord.

The heart of a child is meant to be shepherded by the love, discipline, and presence of a father and mother.

When homes fail, communities scramble to compensate. The strength of a home cannot be substituted—because it was God’s chosen design from the beginning.

Ask, “If my role in my house were the only sermon my children ever heard, what would they see?”

Bring God's Presence Home

What is the manifested presence of God?

God’s will is not behavior management by rules but transformation by His manifest presence.

It is more than omnipresence. It is the presence that makes us conscious of His love and blessings. 

David longed to bring the ark of the covenant—the symbol of God’s manifest presence—back to Jerusalem, to restore God’s centrality among His people (2 Samuel 6). Yet when he tried to carry it the wrong way, on an ox cart like the Philistines, tragedy struck as Uzzah reached out to steady the ark and died.

In fear, David left the ark at the house of Obed-edom.

Obed in Hebrew means “servant” or “worshiper.” Edom means “red,” but is also connected to dam (“blood”) in Hebrew. His name could mean “servant of the blood,” pointing to the covenant covering. 1 Chronicles 15:18 , 24 and 1 Chronicles 26:4–8 says hw was a Levite from the Korahite clan, later appointed as a gatekeeper of the ark and as a musician. Jewish historian Josephus states that this blessing was accompanied by great prosperity. Some rabbinic traditions claim that his family multiplied in both number and influence.

(2 Samuel 6:11 ) And the ark of the Lord remained in the house of Obed-edom the Gittite three months, and the Lord blessed Obed-edom and all his household.

In just three months, the Lord poured out such favor and blessing on his household that it became clear: where God’s presence is welcomed, His blessing overflows.

We are still in the year of Restitution. October, November and December are more than enough for God to change your lot.

Many have already experienced supernatural provision this year. Some got a new car, a new house, a new job, a new family. Others are still waiting. Don’t stop believing. 

In these next 21 days, invite the presence in your marriage, over your children, over your house, and you will see a complete restitution taking place. 

How can you become more aware of this presence? In these days, ask God for His ways, not your way. 

The presence must be carried God’s way, not on “ox carts” of worldly methods. Obed-edom’s house was blessed because he did not treat the presence of God as ordinary, familiar and usual.

Uzzah had likely spent nearly 20 years in the house of Abinadab seeing the golden box of the ark, and over time, he grew familiar with it. That familiarity dulled his reverence, so when the moment came, he touched the ark as if it were ordinary—and it cost him his life (2 Samuel 6:6–7).

God’s presence was never meant to destroy but to bless, restore, and bring life. Yet many believers today fall into the same danger: they are surrounded by the things of God, yet treat His presence as common, ordinary, or merely religious. Instead of experiencing the manifested presence that brings blessing, they settle for routine, even imitating the world’s way.

Many families today unknowingly try to carry the presence of God on “ox carts”—human substitutes that can never sustain His glory. Instead of cultivating intimacy with the Spirit, they rely on worldly means like pornography, entertainment, or unhealthy coping methods to keep their homes together. These ox carts may promise quick fixes, but they only produce emptiness and death, just as Uzzah’s carelessness did.

When God’s presence becomes familiar rather than treasured, devotion is emptied of awe—and the blessing that should overflow remains hidden.

When we invite the Spirit Himself to manifest in our homes, we experience not just survival but supernatural blessing—the same way Obed-edom’s household flourished for three months simply because the ark rested there, remove the ox carts, and welcome the presence.

“above reproach”

1 Timothy 3:2-5 2 Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, 3 not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. 4 He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, 5 for if someone does