When Kids Pull You Apart: Staying United as a Couple While Parenting
Description
Are your children creating division in your marriage without even realizing it? Whether it's different parenting styles, exhaustion from the daily grind, or simply getting lost in the roles of "mom" and "dad," many couples find that kids can unintentionally drive a wedge between them.
In this episode, pastors Bryce and Colette Schaffer share practical, biblical wisdom from nearly 30 years of marriage and raising three children. They discuss:
- How different parenting approaches create conflict between spouses
- The danger of losing your identity as husband and wife in the chaos of parenting
- Why waiting to work on your marriage "when the kids are older" is a costly mistake
- Practical strategies for presenting a united front to your children
- How to disagree about discipline without undermining each other in front of the kids
- Creating boundaries so children can't manipulate or play parents against each other
- Keeping physical and emotional intimacy alive during the demanding parenting years
Whether you're navigating blended family dynamics, dealing with toddler-stage exhaustion, or raising teenagers, this episode offers hope and practical tools for keeping your marriage strong while being great parents.
Remember: Your children feel safest when they know mom and dad's relationship is solid. The best gift you can give your kids is parents who love and respect each other.
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