When Honor Fills Up Our Home 

Intro:

There is a principle of heaven that the enemy resists more fiercely than any other — the principle of honor. Honor is the culture of heaven. 

When honor fills a home, it does more than bring peace — it brings restoration between generations. Honor is the bridge that connects hearts that time, pride, or pain have separated. It softens what rebellion hardened and rebuilds what silence tore down. 

In God’s design, honor is not only about respect; it is about reconciliation. Every generation carries both the scars and the promises of the one before it. When honor is lost, the flow of blessing is interrupted; when honor is restored, riches flow again. Where there is honor, forgiveness replaces accusation, gratitude replaces entitlement, and hearts are turned into testimonies of reconciliation.

Honor makes the culture of heaven invade your family, so let Your house be filled with honor today.

The Principle of Honor

There is a principle of heaven that is deeply resisted by the evil one. It is the principle of honor.

When we speak of honor, we speak of the very culture of heaven — the way the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit relate to one another in perfect love, submission, and mutual glorification.

Jesus Himself revealed this heavenly culture when He said that He did nothing on His own but only what He saw the Father doing.

John 5:19 “Truly, truly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of his own accord, but only what he sees the Father doing. For whatever the Father does, that the Son does likewise.”

Even the Son of God walked in honor and dependence. Why do we try something else? 

Luke 4:1“And Jesus, full of the Holy Spirit, returned from the Jordan and was led by the Spirit in the wilderness.”

That is the culture of the Trinity — a culture of honor.

However, hell operates by the opposite culture: dishonor, rebellion, and rivalry. It is a kingdom divided against itself, where pride and self-promotion are the norm.

In organized crime, each gang wants to dominate a certain neighborhood, a block, or one corner where they can sell their illegal drugs. They are driven by greed, pride, and a desire for power. If one group gains influence, the other immediately plots to take it back.

That is exactly how hell operates. Like a mafia war for control, demons fight for dominance, constantly competing and destroying one another. Tragically, that same culture can infiltrate a home when honor is absent.

Matthew 12:25-26 25 Knowing their thoughts, he said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself is laid waste, and no city or house divided against itself will stand. 26 And if Satan casts out Satan, he is divided against himself. How then will his kingdom stand?

When comparison replaces contentment, when complaint replaces gratitude, and when criticism replaces recognition, that home begins to look like a spiritual battlefield. Such a culture has no future.

But it's time to change that. 

Matthew 16:18 “I will build my church, and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.”

Where the culture of honor takes root, the gates of hell lose their claim.

Honor is most revealed when shown downward.

The principle of honor is truly tested not when we have someone stronger, wiser, or more intelligent above us, but when we choose to honor those who seem below us.

It is easy and even expected to honor someone greater; such honor is natural. Inspired by fear, maybe for the concern of losing privileges in a job position.

When Jesus was only twelve years old, He was left behind by His parents in Jerusalem. 

He, the Creator of the universe, the very finger of God who wrote the Law, was sitting in the temple, not teaching and lecturing the religious leaders, but asking questions.

Luke 2:46 –47 “After three days they found him in the temple, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions. And all who heard him were amazed at his understanding and his answers.”

Even though He astonished the religious leaders with His insight, what is most astonishing is what He did next. Jesus — God made flesh — chose to honor His earthly parents, ordinary and simple people from Nazareth. The One to whom every knee would bow humbled Himself to obey them.

Luke 2:51 “And he went down with them and came to Nazareth and was submissive to them. And his mother treasured up all these things in her heart.”

This is the highest expression of honor: when divinity bows before humanity out of love. 

Why? Because that is the heavenly culture. Jesus, who owed obedience to no one, submitted to authority so that we could learn heaven’s way.

Jesus was blessed in His ministry because He chose to submit to someone less than Him.

John the Baptist himself declared that he was not even worthy to untie the straps of Jesus’ sandals. Yet Jesus humbled Himself to be baptized by John — a man He created.

Matthew 3:13 –15

13 Then Jesus came from Galilee to the Jordan to John, to be baptized by him.

14 John would have prevented him, saying, “I need to be baptized by you, and do you come to me?”

15 But Jesus answered him, “Let it be so now, for thus it is fitting for us to fulfill all righteousness.” Then he consented.

Honor is submission. 

That honor’s culture brought divine confirmation over Jesus' ministry. The Father’s public affirmation came after the act of honor. Heaven’s voice always follows submission.

I often wonder how many of our LifeGroup leaders could experience greater blessing, growth, and prosperity if they walked in that same spirit of honor.

Sometimes, honor is tested not in grand acts but in small obediences — such as aligning with the message God is speaking to the church that week. When we honor the spiritual direction that God gives through the pastor — the “word of the week” or “newsletter of the week” — we come under the same anointing.

It is not about suppressing creativity; it is about channeling creativity through unity.

There is no favor in independence; God blesses agreement.

1 Peter 5:5–6

5 Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you.

You cannot honor someone without recognizing their authority.

Etymology of Authority

The English word authority comes from the Latin auctoritas, derived from auctor, “originator,” “promoter,” or “one who causes to grow.” The Greek root verb is augēre, meaning “to increase, to make grow, to cause to prosper.”

So at its root, authority has nothing to do with control or domination. It literally means “the power to cause growth.”

Submission is not inferiority — it is the recognition of divine order.

A wife honors her husband when she recognizes his leadership, not because he is perfect, but because God placed him there.

A husband honors God by covering, not controlling, his wife.

Children honor their parents by obeying even when they disagree.

Parents honor their children by giving them space to grow without manipulation.

Honor and Family

You only truly Love What You truly honor

Honor magnifies love. To love someone deeply is to give them weight and value in your heart and words. Dishonor, however, diminishes affection; it turns praises into criticism and respect into resentment. 

If you do not feel privileged and deeply blessed to have your spouse, you are missing the favor of God. Marriage is not sustained by compatibility or convenience but by honor and gratitude.

Proverbs 18:22 22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

The moment you begin to compare your spouse with someone else or allow criticism to take root in your heart, you step out of grace and into the territory of self-righteousness. 

James 4:6 But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

Self-righteousness always says, “I deserve better.” It weighs the other’s faults against our own merits. But grace is the opposite. The favor of God rests only on those who remain in the posture of the undeserving—those who recognize, “I am far more blessed than I could ever earn.”

Honor grows when there is gratitude. Thanking one another regularly — for food, for service, for presence — breaks the curse of dishonor.

Romans 12:10 10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.

We can only love what we bless and honor. When one decides to honor, problems end.

1 Corinthians 13:4–5 4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.

Every relationship has specific protocols. The family has procedures. Couples have inner rules. One protocol that you can’t miss in your family is honor. Honor is the protocol of Heaven.

Honor is shown in small gestures — tone of voice, listening, serving, and preferring the other.

A husband walking with his wife instead of ahead of her.

A wife who does not interrupt when the other speaks.

Remembering to give the best seat or best portion as an act of preference.

It is a simple daily custom of heaven’s