In this episode of The Phil Bohol Show, Phil breaks down the myth of work-life balance and reveals how chasing this elusive "balance" could be destroying your family's future. Using his own journey of building multiple seven-figure businesses while becoming a father during a global shutdown, Phil uncovers the mental shifts and actionable strategies that allowed him to create generational wealth, strengthen his family bonds, and live with purpose.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.

(00:00 ) Introduction

(00:34 ) The Myth of Work-Life Balance

(01:33 ) Personal Journey and Choices

(02:22 ) The Struggle with Balance

(05:00 ) Realizations and Shifts

(07:57 ) Integrating Family and Work

(10:34 ) Teaching Through Example

(13:48 ) Application and Morning Rituals

(16:42 ) Final Thoughts and Call to Action
 

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What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullshit you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

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Work life balance is a lie that's destroying your family's future. Since the global shutdown a couple of years ago, I've built multiple seven figure businesses while becoming a father twice over. And today I'm going to show you why balance itself is the wrong goal and what to do and what to focus on instead.

So in this video, you're going to learn 

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a couple of things. 

First thing is why work life balance is actually hurting your family. 

Then I'm going to talk to you about some of the shifts; three shifts I had to make to strengthen the bond and the relationship with my daughters. 

How you can continue to build generational wealth, especially if you come from a third world country like me, while being more present and the exact framework I use making 

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multimillion dollar decisions without sacrificing family time.

I just got done playing in the snow with the girls. 

When my first daughter Ariella was born, it was the start of the global shutdown and I had a choice to make. 

Am I going to live a life of mediocrity and give that to them? 

Or am I going to find a way to live a life that most people can only dream of, of excellence, 

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something to be proud of. 

This is what I've built.

Coming from a third world country, coming from poverty, I was able to build something like this. 

Most people told me that being a new dad is going to be very stressful and you got to take the safe route. 

I chose not to take the safe route and we're all better off for it. 

But you have to understand that when I tried to go against what was calling to me, that's 

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where I really started to lose myself.

I was so focused on, well, how do I be present with my wife? 

She's got the baby in the tummy, baby's on the way. 

How do I balance that with work? 

And what happened was because I kept listening to the noise of the world, I kept listening to people that were unsuccessful. 

In, in, in terms of how I viewed them, I was listening to them and they were pulling me to this, this mediocre state 

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that I needed this balance.

And every time I tried to seek balance, it felt like I went off balance because as business pulled me one direction, I kept going against that, trying to achieve balance. 

And because of that, then I would give to my family, but then I'd be so distracted because I wanted a balance. 

Thanks.

Working, hustling, building the thing that was going to secure safety and security, especially in a world of chaos, literally world of chaos.

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And that's the guilt that we can feel as fathers, as entrepreneurs, as business owners, that we're trying our best for our family, but we also have to be present for the family because it kind of doesn't make any sense to say that we're doing all of these things, we're building business, we're making money, we're making changes.

For the family it doesn't really make sense to say that and then on the other side of it not see them to neglect them.

And so you got to understand that you're killing yourself trying to 

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balance this thing when it's not balance that you need. 

It's not balance that's gonna get you to break through. 

It's not balance that's gonna give you the ability to grow business. 

While being present, the more you battle this, the more it's going to hurt.

And the more you do this, the more you're going to be distracted. 

You're going to be a state of limbo. 

And eventually as your kids grow older, 

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they're still going to feel like they didn't get enough of you. 

They didn't get the best of you because while you were in. 

When you felt so guilty because you weren't with family that you didn't do the work, you didn't push yourself to achieve greatness.

And when you're with your family, because you weren't pushing yourself to achieve greatness in your business, 

You're always distracted with them, and that's not a way to live. 

And that's what happens when people try to balance things, work life balance. 

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And the more that I did that, what happened was, I kept having this emotional turmoil, as we led closer and closer to my daughter being born.

And when she was born, man, like…

It felt like I was so behind on building a safety net, a security that the first year I wasn't as present as I am today.

Because now we have another daughter, Alessia, and she just turned one. 

And this time around it's very different because of the lessons that I've learned.

So I really want you to pay attention 

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because we never get that time back. 

And you gotta start asking yourself, don't you get tired of the guilt trip your wife doesn't give you? 

Your kids don't give it to you, but you give you. 

You got to shift the mentality because that first year of birth for my first born, and there's a lot of times that I missed because I was so caught up in emotional distress.

I was so caught up in my head that 

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as much as I thought I was present, I wasn't. 

And that's why I want you to understand that as you kind of move forward away from the world of work life balance, the more that you kind of think about, well, if I'm going to give time to my family, if I'm gonna give time to my kids, quality.

Which one do I have to choose? 

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Which one do I have to give? 

Do I give them quality time, less time, but it's quality time? 

Or do I give them quantity time, but less quality because I'm distracted? 

See, this is the thing that people think they have to choose from. 

Just like work life balance. 

Do I have to choose work?

Do I have to choose life?

Do I choose quality?

Do I choose quantity?

It doesn't have to be that way.

There's no choice that has to be made in those spaces, but you have to allow yourself to think differently.

And this is when I started to realize that 

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I was actually holding myself back because I was building 

my first business and it required me to be on camera, it required me to be on zoom calls.

They required me to be on phone calls, and I used to feel like I was doing something wrong or I was being unprofessional.

If I had my, my daughter with me or if I had my wife in the background or family was happening behind the scenes.

Then one day I realized why, why am I so worried and concerned about how this looks?

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My family needs me right now, and if they're walking around behind me, what's so unprofessional about that?

We're in the middle of a global shutdown.

Everybody's remote.

This doesn't make any sense.

Why am I doing this to myself?

Then I started to realize that I was overcomplicating the whole thing.

I was trying to make a choice when no choice had to be made, and that's when I started changing everything.

I started to actually involve 

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my family in during my times of work, but I had to look at things different.

I obviously had to still perform.

I had to put food on the table.

Absolutely.

But what I did was when I made that realization, I stopped trying to balance