Why You Keep Falling Back Into Old Patterns: The Stories We Inherit | Lisa Olivera
Description
What would it be like to treat yourself as someone worth knowing?
In this powerful and heartfelt conversation, I’m joined by the brilliant Lisa Olivera — therapist, writer, author, adoptee, mother, and lifelong seeker of depth and truth. Lisa’s work centers on the lifelong process of healing, self-compassion, and rewriting the stories we’ve been handed.
We go deep — from abandonment and shame to self-worth and presence. We talk about what it means to unravel from old beliefs, navigate the fear loops so many of us feel in midlife, and how motherhood (and perimenopause) can act as an initiation into a new version of ourselves.
If you’ve ever felt disconnected from who you are, overwhelmed by your emotions, or stuck in a pattern you desperately want to change, this episode is your invitation back to yourself.
We talk about:
Rewriting the stories we never consciously chose
Why fear is often wisdom in disguise
Inner child work and reparenting
The trap of “going back to who you were”
Self-compassion as a daily, gentle practice
Why healing doesn’t mean perfection
You will walk away from this episode feeling seen, softened, and equipped with small, doable ways to meet yourself where you are.
🌀 Connect with Lisa:
Instagram → @_lisaolivera
Website → lisaolivera.com
Substack → Human Stuff
✨ Connect with me and my work:
My Instagram → @chels_holland
Brand Instagram → @notyoung.co
Website + Blog → notyoung.com
The Baseline (my hormone-free, naturopath-formulated support for perimenopause) → Shop here
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