In Episode 2 of The Science-Help Show, James dives into the messy, nuanced science of relationships, identity, and psychological reactance through a powerful real-life question from a very thoughtful listener trying to stop oversharing self-help insights with her spouse. James breaks down psychological reactance—the brain's automatic resistance to being told what to do—and explains why pushing, suggesting, or sharing "helpful" information often backfires in couples, even when the intention is love. He also unpacks the two forms of narcissism (grandiose and vulnerable), how family-of-origin patterns shape adult roles, and why "fixer" identities form early and persist. The episode reveals how different partners grow at different speeds, why that creates friction, and how to shift from persuasion to connection so real change can happen. It's a deep exploration of why we fall into patterns we don't want… and the brain-based strategies that actually break them.