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With the Help of Strangers

With the Help of Strangers

Update: 2020-12-094


This episode contains descriptions of domestic violence.

In 2013, Courtney Queeney published an essay about surviving domestic violence and the legal proceedings that followed. She described going to a courthouse every two weeks to renew her emergency protection order against her ex. It was during this period that she found “scattered bright spots” — things to laugh about when everything seemed unfunny. She found comfort in the woman who shared her court schedule; her lawyer, whom she revered; and the judge who made her crack up.

Today, we hear about how Courtney has worked through the experience and aftermath of her abuse — and where is she now.

Featured stories:

  • “The View From the Victim Room,” by Courtney Queeney
  • “Held by String,” by Eliza Rudalevige

Courtney's story was recorded by Audm. To hear more audio stories from publishers like The New York Times, download Audm for iPhone or Android.

You can find more information on today's episode here.

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Comments (1)

awake yet?

Courtney Queeney's essay on her harrowing experience with domestic violence is worth listening to. I loved the part where the judge mocks her ex's 'death threat/love letter' which is made more funny because her ex claimed himself to be a writer. Courtney described the death threat as so terribly written that it sounded more like a childs diary! Beyond...I can't. 👏🏻🤣

Jan 27th
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