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You Can’t Heal What You Don’t Name: Rural Moms, Digital Threats, and Legal Gaps

You Can’t Heal What You Don’t Name: Rural Moms, Digital Threats, and Legal Gaps

Update: 2025-04-07
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⚠️ Content Warning: This episode includes discussions of cyberstalking, grooming, legal system failure, and trauma - particularly involving minors. Listener discretion is advised, especially around children.

In this powerful and courageous episode, Thea Larsen and Lana Wilkes sit down with Cathy Holman, also known as Prairie Wife, to unpack a reality that one rural family was quietly living through: cyberstalking, grooming, online harassment, and a justice system that doesn’t show up for our children.

Together, they open the door to a deeply personal and brutally honest conversation about what happens when women refuse to stay silent. Cathy shares how her family was targeted, the legal and emotional battles that followed, and why she’s speaking up now, not just for her kids, but for every family.

In this episode:

  • What it’s like to face harassment in a tight-knit, rural community.
  • The legal gaps in stalking and child protection laws and how they’re failing families.
  • The emotional toll of advocacy and the personal cost of courage.
  • Why silence and image-protection often enable predators.
  • What it looks like to advocate for systemic change while raising children and running a household.

Whether you're a mother, a teacher, a friend, or a woman trying to raise kids in a digital world, you need to hear this.

Links:

Following are the links to the timelines and victim impact statements Cathy mentions in our conversation.



You can follow developments in the case and the media coverage as Cathy and Brandi are working to bring awareness to the need law changes by following Cathy on Facebook at Prairie Wife or on her blog at Prairie Wife In Heels.


If this episode sparked questions, reflections, or fire in your gut … don’t keep it to yourself. Tag @cowgirlsovercoffee on Instagram with your takeaways or questions. This isn’t a one-and-done conversation. We’re committed to keeping the spotlight on this issue, supporting needed changes, and creating a space where conversation leads to action.


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You Can’t Heal What You Don’t Name: Rural Moms, Digital Threats, and Legal Gaps

You Can’t Heal What You Don’t Name: Rural Moms, Digital Threats, and Legal Gaps