What if the very thing you’re clinging to in co-parenting, the need for control, is what’s keeping you from peace?

In this episode, Michelle Dempsey-Multack unpacks why control in co-parenting is an illusion, how expectations create unnecessary heartache, and what true surrender looks like for divorced parents. Listeners will learn how to shift from frustration to freedom and create a calmer, more resilient environment for their children.

What You’ll Learn:

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  Why co-parents crave control after divorce and how it impacts anxiety

  
  


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  The difference between healthy influence and harmful attempts to control

  
  


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  How to respond when your ex behaves in ways you can’t change

  
  


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  Tools for modeling resilience and stability for your children

  
  


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  A practical exercise to release control and focus on what really matters

  
  

Episode Highlights:

• 00:00 – Why control feels like the only safety net after divorce


• 02:05 – The truth: you can’t control your ex, your child’s emotions, or transitions


• 05:15 – How expectations create self-fulfilling frustration


• 08:40 – What letting go really looks like in day-to-day co-parenting


• 11:25 – Surrender as freedom: shifting energy into peace, healing, and presence


• 13:30 – Final reflection: modeling resilience for your children

Tools, Frameworks, or Strategies Mentioned:

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  The “Expectation Audit” Exercise – writing down one thing you can’t control in co-parenting, and one thing you can control.

  
  


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  Modeling Resilience Framework – showing kids strength and calm through action rather than reacting to negativity.

  
  

Closing Insight:

“Your power as a parent doesn’t come from controlling every variable; it comes from modeling grace, resilience, and love.”

Letting go of control isn’t giving up, it’s reclaiming peace. Take a deep breath, release what isn’t yours to manage, and focus on what truly matters: showing up for your children with stability and love.

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