Digest

This episode of Girls Gotta Eat! is a special birthday celebration for Raina, filled with hilarious anecdotes and insightful conversations. Raina recounts her first matchmaker date, revealing she wore khaki pants and a Reformation top, and discusses her ever-changing hair color throughout the summer. She also shares a hilarious story about her boyfriend's urgent need to pee outside a motel, highlighting their contrasting approaches to bathroom breaks. Jared joins the conversation, sharing his unique coffee preferences, including his aversion to ice in his coffee, and his thoughts on the current dating scene. He believes that meeting people organically is more exciting than swiping through dating apps and expresses his frustration with the lack of single men in his age group in New York City. The episode concludes with a discussion about wedding attire and the challenges of navigating dress codes with a chaotic bride. Jared offers advice on how to meet men in the wild, suggesting that women should go to male-skewing vacation towns during the day, where they can be their most confident selves and lower the stakes. He also introduces the "aunt theory," which suggests that meeting someone through friends creates a sense of accountability and prevents people from acting wildly. The episode ends with a discussion about a listener's experience on a girls' trip to Miami, where she had a one-night stand and was met with disapproval from her friends. Jared and Raina analyze the situation, highlighting the importance of prioritizing your own happiness and not letting others dictate your actions. They discuss the potential for jealousy and the importance of understanding the dynamics of female friendships. The episode ends with a discussion about a listener's question about wedding etiquette and whether a boyfriend should pay for his girlfriend's travel expenses to a friend's wedding. Jared and Raina offer their perspectives on the situation, emphasizing the importance of communication and understanding in relationships. They discuss the potential for insecurity and the importance of being open and honest about financial expectations. The episode ends with a discussion about the "big dog" theory, which suggests that all men, regardless of their outward appearance or profession, are ultimately driven by the same primal instincts. Jared shares his personal experience with a woman who overuses the term "big dog" in her relationship, and Raina and Jared discuss the importance of building up your partner and finding the right balance in communication and intimacy.

Outlines

00:00:00

Birthday Greetings and Summer Dating

This Chapter begins with Raina celebrating her birthday on the podcast. She discusses her recent matchmaker date, revealing she wore khaki pants and a Reformation top. She also talks about her ever-changing hair color throughout the summer, explaining that she's going for a bright blonde look. The conversation then shifts to a hilarious story about her boyfriend's urgent need to pee outside a motel, highlighting their contrasting approaches to bathroom breaks.

00:32:28

Jared's Coffee Preferences and Dating Insights

This Chapter welcomes Jared Fried, a frequent guest on the podcast, who shares his unique coffee preferences, including his aversion to ice in his coffee. He explains that he prefers his coffee hot and strong, and that he's a slow sipper. The conversation then shifts to the current dating scene, with Jared expressing his belief that meeting people organically is more exciting than swiping through dating apps. He also shares his frustration with the lack of single men in his age group in New York City, and discusses the challenges of finding potential partners in a city where many people are either very young or very old.

00:22:10

Wedding Wardrobe Chaos

This Chapter focuses on Raina's upcoming trip to Tuscany for a friend's wedding. She discusses the challenges of navigating dress codes with a chaotic bride who has provided conflicting information about the attire for the rehearsal dinner and the wedding. Raina shares the bride's confusing instructions, which include references to a "white party" and "Talented Mr. Ripley vibes," and expresses her frustration with the lack of clarity. The conversation highlights the difficulties of coordinating outfits with a bride who is prone to sending random and nonsensical texts.

00:45:22

Meeting Men in the Wild

This Chapter delves into the topic of meeting men organically, with Jared offering advice on how to approach men in casual settings. He suggests that women should go to male-skewing vacation towns during the day, where they can be their most confident selves and lower the stakes. He also introduces the "aunt theory," which suggests that meeting someone through friends creates a sense of accountability and prevents people from acting wildly.

00:49:12

Advertisement: Armra Colostrum

This Chapter is an advertisement for Armra Colostrum, a bovine colostrum supplement that claims to strengthen immunity, improve gut health, enhance fitness and metabolism, and improve skin and hair. Raina shares her personal experience with the product and highlights its benefits.

00:51:25

Advertisement: Shopify

This Chapter is an advertisement for Shopify, a global commerce platform that helps businesses sell at every stage. Raina and Ashley share their experience using Shopify to run their businesses, Girls Gotta Eat! and Vibes Only, and highlight its ease of use and comprehensive support system.

00:52:52

Summer Dating Strategies

This Chapter continues the discussion on summer dating, with Jared offering more specific advice on how to approach men in casual settings. He emphasizes the importance of being your most confident self and lowering the stakes, suggesting that women should go to male-skewing vacation towns during the day, where they can be their most confident selves and lower the stakes. He also introduces the "aunt theory," which suggests that meeting someone through friends creates a sense of accountability and prevents people from acting wildly.

01:14:46

Analyzing a Listener's Summer Trip

This Chapter focuses on a listener's email about a recent girls' trip to Miami, where she had a one-night stand and was met with disapproval from her friends. Jared and Raina analyze the situation, highlighting the importance of prioritizing your own happiness and not letting others dictate your actions. They discuss the potential for jealousy and the importance of understanding the dynamics of female friendships.

01:17:04

The "Big Dog" Theory

This Chapter introduces Jared's "big dog" theory, which suggests that all men, regardless of their outward appearance or profession, are ultimately driven by the same primal instincts. He argues that even the most sensitive or artistic men can be "big dogs" at their core, and that women should not be afraid to embrace this reality.

01:28:30

Analyzing a Listener's Girls' Trip

This Chapter focuses on a listener's email about a recent girls' trip to Miami, where she had a one-night stand and was met with disapproval from her friends. Jared and Raina analyze the situation, highlighting the importance of prioritizing your own happiness and not letting others dictate your actions. They discuss the potential for jealousy and the importance of understanding the dynamics of female friendships. They also discuss the importance of communication and setting boundaries in friendships.

01:36:48

Wedding Etiquette and Financial Expectations

This Chapter focuses on a listener's question about wedding etiquette and whether a boyfriend should pay for his girlfriend's travel expenses to a friend's wedding. Jared and Raina offer their perspectives on the situation, emphasizing the importance of communication and understanding in relationships. They discuss the potential for insecurity and the importance of being open and honest about financial expectations. They also discuss the importance of setting boundaries and expectations in relationships.

01:44:54

The "Big Dog" Theory and Relationship Dynamics

This Chapter continues the discussion about the "big dog" theory, which suggests that all men, regardless of their outward appearance or profession, are ultimately driven by the same primal instincts. Jared shares his personal experience with a woman who overuses the term "big dog" in her relationship, and Raina and Jared discuss the importance of building up your partner and finding the right balance in communication and intimacy. They also discuss the importance of being authentic and genuine in relationships.

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Q&A

• What is Raina's unique morning routine in a relationship?

  Raina starts every morning in a relationship with a blow job, which she considers a way to rev up the engines for the day.

• What is Jared's unusual coffee preference?

  Jared prefers his coffee straight up, without ice, even in the summer. He believes that ice waters down the coffee and makes it less enjoyable.

• What is Raina's biggest takeaway from her boyfriend's urgent need to pee outside the motel?

  Raina realizes that her boyfriend is incredibly patient and understanding, as he chose to pee outside rather than interrupt her coffee break in the motel lobby.

• What is Jared's perspective on the current dating scene in New York City?

  Jared believes that meeting people organically is more exciting than swiping through dating apps. He also expresses frustration with the lack of single men in his age group in New York City, and the challenges of finding potential partners in a city where many people are either very young or very old.

• What is the source of Raina's wedding attire confusion?

  Raina's friend, the bride, has provided conflicting information about the dress code for the rehearsal dinner and the wedding. She has mentioned a "white party" and "Talented Mr. Ripley vibes," but the official website and invitation indicate a black tie dress code.

• What is Jared's advice for meeting men in the wild?

  Jared suggests that women should go to male-skewing vacation towns during the day, where they can be their most confident selves and lower the stakes. He also emphasizes the importance of being open-minded and not taking things too seriously.

• What is the "aunt theory"?

  The "aunt theory" is a dating strategy proposed by Jared Fried, suggesting that meeting someone through friends creates a sense of accountability and prevents people from acting wildly. The theory is based on the idea that if you meet someone through a friend, you are more likely to be held accountable for your actions and less likely to engage in inappropriate behavior.

• What is Jared's perspective on dating apps?

  Jared believes that dating apps are for people who need crutches for their social life and that they can create a sense of artificiality and detachment. He prefers meeting people organically and believes that it leads to more authentic connections.

• What is Jared's advice for dealing with the anxiety of dating?

  Jared encourages people to lower the stakes in their minds and not take things too seriously. He suggests that women should focus on having fun and being their most confident selves, regardless of whether they are looking for a relationship or not.

• What is Jared's perspective on the listener's experience on a girls' trip to Miami?

  Jared believes that the listener should not feel guilty for prioritizing her own happiness and having a one-night stand. He suggests that her friends may have been jealous or insecure, and that she should not let their opinions dictate her actions.

• What is Jared's perspective on the listener's question about wedding etiquette?

  Jared believes that the boyfriend should pay for his girlfriend's travel expenses to the wedding, as he is the one who invited her. He emphasizes the importance of communication and understanding in relationships, and suggests that the boyfriend should be open and honest about his financial situation.

• What is Jared's perspective on the "big dog" theory?

  Jared believes that the "big dog" theory is a valid concept, but that it should be used sparingly and with sensitivity. He shares his personal experience with a woman who overuses the term "big dog" in her relationship, and suggests that it can be off-putting and even disrespectful.

Show Notes