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Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love, Honor and Vacuum--the blog!
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Natalie Hoffman joins us today to talk about her INCREDIBLE memoir All the Scary Little Gods. Natalie escaped an abusive marriage, and now coaches other women in similar situations.  In her memoir, she invites us to listen to the story from the point of view of Little Natalie, and using IFS (Internal Family Systems) to see it from all of her parts. And as we understand our stories, we make it so that we won't recreate the problems.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Links We Mentioned:Natalie Hoffman’s book All the Scary Little GodsNatalie’s website Flying Free, and her Flying Free podcastThe first podcast Natalie did with me–how Christian books made me stay in an abusive marriageNatalie joined us on our podcast about the book Lies Women BelieveRichard Schwartz' book No Bad PartsJenna Riemersma's book on IFS Altogether YouFuture Speaking Events:Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! March 23, 2:30-4:30 pm. Q&A, crafts with toxic books, and more.More information here. Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
So many people resist admitting that they are actually egalitarians, because they think they have to be complementarian--even if they don't act like it. Today Sheila and her husband Keith dissect the arguments that are often used to say "we're really complementarian"--even when they're objectively not. And we invite people instead to preach what they practice.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in the Podcast:The Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood's statementOur podcast with Nancy Pearcey where we explain how  complementarians act as egalitariansThe interview with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and Robert Wolgemuth The Great Sex Rescue, with our findings about decision-makingRebecca Groothuis' article about equalityJonathan Leeman's article (and video) about a husband's authorityResources about the Biblical Argument for Equality:Marg Mowczko's site--amazing short articles on virtually every bible passage about gender. Our podcast with Philip Payne, and his book The Bible vs. Biblical WomanhoodTerran Williams' book How God Sees WomenTerran Williams' series refuting Mike Winger's videosJulie Zine Coleman's book On Purpose Future Speaking Events:Grand Rapids, MI: Sheila and Rebecca will be at Calvin University on March 13 and 14 . March 13 at 4:30; March 13 at 7 pm for a panel discussion; and March 14 at 7 pm. More details here.Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! March 23, 2:30-4:30 pm. Q&A, crafts with toxic books, and more.Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
The Great Sex Rescue turns 3 this week! And it's been a super eventful three years. So much has changed. So let's talk about the feedback we've had, what we've done since, what people are saying--and where we're going from here.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch at our store, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in the Podcast:The Great Sex Rescue!  Learn more, or get it right from Amazon.Our Healthy Sexuality Rubric where we scored the books we looked at for The Great Sex Rescue.The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to tell others about our findingsOur podcast where we discussed how the authors we critiqued had responded to The Great Sex Rescue.The article on Julie Roys' site about Focus on the Family deleting comments on the Reel where Juli Slattery used our talking points. Juli Slattery's reel on Focus on the Family's Instagram pageThe Bodies Behind the Bus podcast where Joy tells her story about The Great Sex Rescue (we're near the end) (and here's part 2!)Future Speaking Events:Grand Rapids, MI: Sheila and Rebecca will be at Calvin University on March 13 and 14 . March 13 at 4:30; March 13 at 7 pm for a panel discussion; and March 14 at 7 pm. More details here.Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! We'll have blackout poetry crafts and other paper crafts to do with toxic books (bring them along!), a silent auction, a Q&A, and more. March 23, 2:30 - 5:00 pm. All welcome.Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Would our reaction to Christian marriage advice change if we realize how many people who write that advice are actually in abusive or destructive marriages? What if people in those marriages are more drawn to write marriage advice to process how they're feeling?Today we look at two different women that Focus on the Family have held up to be emulated. One is a woman who has written prolifically for them, and when you look at her articles and what she reveals about her relationship, a TON of red flags are present. The other is a woman whose husband was jailed for domestic violence, but then she prayed, he repented, and now they lead Love & Respect seminars together. And Focus on the Family thinks this is a positive message.Today Sheila Gregoire is joined by her husband Keith and by abuse educator Sarah McDugal.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch at our store! Things Mentioned in the Podcast:The article in the Revealer about Elisabeth Elliot's marriageMy article detailing Focus on the Family's Facebook post praising the man who was jailed for domestic violence, as well as the letter I sent to Jim DalyMy article on TradWife influencers and my concern for themOur podcast on Power of a Praying WifeOur one sheet download on Love & RespectFocus on the Family's article "It's the Little Things"Our Open Letter to Focus on the FamilyFind Sarah McDugal:Follow Sarah on FacebookFind her at Wilderness to WildJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth taught concerning things about shame, trauma, and even what God is like. On today's podcast, we're joined by Becky Castle Miller, a doctoral student looking at emotions in the Bible, and Helen Blake, a licensed counselor in Sydney, Australia, to discuss some of the damaging teachings--and point us to a Jesus who understands and sympathizes with our struggles.Things Mentioned in the Podcast:To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch at our store! Our Downloadable Onesheet:Download our One Sheet on Lies Women Believe, looking at the problems with the bookOther Things We Talked About:Last week's podcast on Part 1 of Lies Women BelieveFind Becky Castle Miller on InstagramScot McKnight's book King Jesus GospelJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth is one of the most popular women’s bible study books used in churches across North America. But what does the book actually teach about marriage? About sex? About divorce and abuse? It’s scary, and today Gretchen Baskerville and Natalie Hoffman join host Sheila Wray Gregoire to analyze the harmful messages in Lies Women Believe.Things Mentioned in the Podcast:To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work Or, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation Our Downloadable Onesheet:Download our One Sheet on Lies Women Believe: Natalie Hoffman's Information:Natalie’s Podcast Flying Free, and her website Natalie Hoffman’s book Is It Me: Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage Gretchen Baskerville's Information:Gretchen Baskerville’s site The Lifesaving Divorce: Gretchen Baskerville’s YouTube channel:Gretchen’s book The Lifesaving DivorceOther ResourcesOur podcast on The Power of  a Praying Wife (featuring Gretchen): Our podcast telling Natalie’s story: Our book She Deserves Better, which deals with Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ book Lies Young Women Believe: Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:First, support us!Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work Or, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation Check out our Merch!Our ResourcesSign up for Rebecca’s Friday emails The Orgasm Course (there’s also an add-on for husbands) She Deserves Better bookThe Studies We Looked At:Time Use and Feelings of Love “Women Get Worse Sex: A Confound in the Explanation of Gender Differences in Sexuality “Popular Psychology Through a Scientific Lens: Evaluating Love Languages From a Relationship Science Perspective”“Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Desire”, How to Understand Statistics Podcast (and how statistics can be misused): Want to be part of our research team?If you're a grad student, prof, or other academic, check out our job opportunities to help with peer reviewed research papers:Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work https://patreon.com/baremarriageOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation: https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruitsCheck out our Merch–including our Love & Respect His & Her mugs: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/shop/his-hers-love-and-respect-ceramic-mugs/Sign up for Rebecca’s Friday emails: http://eepurl.com/z0VFnThe Great Sex Rescue: https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex: https://baremarriage.com/good-girls-guys-guide-great-sex/Gary’s article “Young Husband: It Might Not be Her; It Might be Her Situation” https://garythomas.com/2017/06/29/young-husband-might-not-might-situation/Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work https://patreon.com/baremarriageOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation: https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruitsCheck out our Merch–including our Love & Respect His & Her mugs: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/shop/his-hers-love-and-respect-ceramic-mugs/Emerson Eggerichs’ reel where he talks about relationships https://www.instagram.com/reel/CxL4Lm6pDo7/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==Our summary of the issues with Love & Respect https://baremarriage.com/2023/01/summary-problems-love-and-respect-emerson-eggerichs/ Our Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect https://baremarriage.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/(All of our other posts are linked there)Our podcast looking at the way he downplayed abuse in a sermon series at Houston First Baptist Church https://baremarriage.com/2021/03/podcast-on-emerson-eggerichs-gaslighting-emotional-abuse-victims-and-stop-seeing-women-as-dangerous/Our look at how Emerson Eggerichs misuses Scripture in Love & Respecthttps://baremarriage.com/2023/01/emerson-eggerichs-twists-scripture-love-respect/The problems with hierarchy in marriage (Keith’s Danvers statement series) https://baremarriage.com/2023/06/danvers-statement-series-complementarian-problem-1-men-dominating-their-wives/Check out Andrew Bauman’s Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma: https://christiancc.org/Andrew J. Bauman’s website https://andrewjbauman.com, or follow him on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/AndrewJamesBaumanJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our Facbook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more!Thanks to everyone who helped us reach our fundraising goal! You can give to our work and get tax deductible donations (within the United States) by donating to the Good Fruit Faith initiative of the Bosko Foundation. Check out our Merch at our store, including our biblical womanhood and biblical manhood merch, our new Jezebel merch, and more!Join our email list so you don't miss one of Rebecca's great Friday emails, or any chances to be in new surveys, etc.Mark Gungor's clip about preferring a dog to a wife who talks to  youThe Halo 3 study about female voiced playersJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Partner with us at Good Fruit Faith, an initiative of the Bosko Foundation, as we help impact future church leaders with our data and our message (tax receiptable within the U.S.): https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruitsJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts! https://patreon.com/baremarriageFind Scot McKnight and Laura Barringer’s book Pivot: https://amzn.to/3ToOKiV, along with their first book together A Church Called Tov: https://amzn.to/41nRsrdOur first podcast together about their book A Church Called Tov: https://baremarriage.com/2021/04/podcast-a-church-called-tov-and-matthew-18/Find Scot McKnight’s New Testament bible study series: https://amzn.to/46Zc5uWLaura Barringer on Threads: https://www.threads.net/@lauraebarringerScot McKnight on Threads: https://www.threads.net/@scotandkrisMe on Threads! https://www.threads.net/@sheilagregoireJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Our marriage survey is still open! We’re looking for married couples to take it. https://baremarriage.com/grimJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our incredible Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more! https://patreon.com/baremarriageHelp us raise $52,000 by Christmas to expand our reach and make inroads into academic circles! BOSKO LINK HERELaura Anderson’s book When Religion Hurts You https://amzn.to/3sB0ZhsFind Laura on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauraeanderson/Our Merch: order before December 10 to use it as Christmas gifts! https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/merchandise/Our book She Deserves Better, outlining some of the trauma messages teen girls receive, and our book The Great Sex Rescue, outlining vaginismus as a potential trauma responseJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Things mentioned in this podcast:Our survey link! Couples are invited to take our marriage survey (you take it individually and it’s confidential): https://baremarriage.com/grimJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work! https://patreon.com/baremarriageJoin our email list and get Rebecca’s awesome Friday emails as well as a roundup of our best posts and podcasts: http://eepurl.com/z0VFnSarah’s Wilderness to Wild program: https://wildernesstowild.comNo Eden Elsewhere blog talking about small group abuse at Watermark Church: https://noedenelsewhere.com/the-aftermath-stories-from-former-watermark-church-members/Dee Parsons from The Wartburg Watch on why you shouldn’t sign a membership covenant: https://thewartburgwatch.com/2023/09/11/smart-christians-need-to-think-carefully-before-joining-a-church-with-a-membership-covenant-which-is-a-legal-contract/ and how to resign from a membership covenant: https://thewartburgwatch.com/permpage-how-to-resign-from-a-church-whether-or-not-you-are-under-church-discipline/Our podcast with Naghmeh Panahi: https://baremarriage.com/2023/10/naghmeh-panahi-bullied-leaving-abusive-marriage-podcast/Biblical Counseling post on 98 ways you can sign against your husband: https://baremarriage.com/2019/06/sinning-against-husband/The consent form you sign for biblical counseling: https://baremarriage.com/2019/03/question-your-biblical-counsellor/John MacArthur Sermon Clip: https://www.gty.org/library/sermons-library/70-54/bible-questions-and-answers-part-77Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Take our marriage survey! We’re looking for couples to fill out our marriage survey: https://baremarriage.com/grimJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and support our work, while getting access to our awesome Facebook community! https://patreon.com/baremarriageOur Merch makes great Christmas gifts! Order before December 11 to guarantee delivery by Christmas: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/merchandise/Andrew Whitehead’s book American Idolatry: https://amzn.to/3SubmhI, and Andrew Whitehead’s book with Sam Perry, Taking Back America for God https://amzn.to/3FU84NeJoin Andrew’s substack! https://andrewwhitehead.substack.com/Follow Andrew on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ndrewwhitehead/ Listen to Andrew’s 4 part series on Christian nationalism: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-idols/id1706355168Our book (co-authored with Joanan Sawatsky) The Great Sex Rescue https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Our survey link! Couples are invited to take our marriage survey (you take it individually and it’s confidential): https://baremarriage.com/grim/Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work! https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe article where you can find the Elisabeth Elliot quote on the essence of femininity: https://www.crossway.org/articles/the-essence-of-femininity/Holly Furtick’s reel on being grumpy: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CtnHKVJOOOI/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==Holly Furtick’s reel on not fussing and just praying:https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cm1oSdNBGB3/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==The study on why sweating the small stuff is important:https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18361676/Get help for religious OCD at NOCD.com -- Licensed therapists using evidence-based techniques.https://nocd.comJohn Gottman’s book The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work:https://amzn.to/3Mxzc8hJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work! https://patreon.com/baremarriageLisa Weaver Swartz’ book Stained Glass Ceilings: https://amzn.to/3suzUfJA write-up of the amicus brief submitted on behalf of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary to deny victims the right to sue the organizations that failed to report and failed to protect: https://www.courier-journal.com/story/news/2023/10/27/southern-baptists-response-to-sex-abuse-in-kentucky/71343874007/Our book She Deserves Better: https://baremarriage.com/she-deserves-better/Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and support our work and research, while getting access to our Facebook group, unfiltered podcast, merch discounts, and more! https://patreon.com/baremarriageSign up for our email list to hear about when our next study is out! http://eepurl.com/z0VFnThe study that people say claim 75% of women divorce for lack of commitment (it doesn't really say that): https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4012696/The study on how men are six times more likely to leave when one spouse is diagnosed with a life-altering disease: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19645027/She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes in the Sink: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288 Plus Matthew Fray's book This Is How Your Marriage Ends: https://amzn.to/45PSM6wCaylee Cresta's Instagram channel about mental load and taking out the trash: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CrQx8-sMKL9/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==Check out our Boost Your Libido Course https://baremarriage.com/boost-libido-course/ and our Orgasm course: https://baremarriage.com/the-orgasm-course/Check out our books The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: https://baremarriage.com/good-girls-guys-guide-great-sex/Check out The Great Sex Rescue https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/The study that found that women do more housework the more they out-earn their husbands: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3028208/Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon and get access to the best place on the internet! https://patreon.com/baremarriageCheck out our Domestic Violence Awareness Merch and our Breast Cancer Awareness Merch--20% of profits go to support charities involved in fighting DV and breast cancer: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/limited-edition/See Naghmeh's book I Didn't Survive: https://amzn.to/3MgUpmPListen to the audio of Franklin Graham confronting Naghmeh--and Naghmeh standing her ground on Scripture: (at the bottom of this post): https://julieroys.com/panahi-graham-bullied-salvage-savesaeed/Read a synopsis of Naghmeh's story on the Roys Report: https://julieroys.com/panahi-graham-bullied-salvage-savesaeed/ or the Washington Post: https://www.washingtonpost.com/religion/2022/06/20/franklin-graham-domestic-abuse-abedini/Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our amazing Facebook group and unfiltered Sheila & Rebecca! https://patreon.com/baremarriageChrista Hardin's new book The Enneagram in Marriage: https://amzn.to/3SmZyxRChrista's podcast The Enneagram and Marriage:https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/podChrista on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/The study we analyzed:https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jomf.12863Our new Biblical Manhood Merch:https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/biblical-manhood/Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon group for as little as $5 a month and be part of the most amazing place on the internet: https://patreon.com/baremarriageJoin our email list so that you'll be notified when I'm in your area--and so you don't miss any of Rebecca's amazing round-ups: http://eepurl.com/z0VFnKristin Kobes Du Mez' Twitter thread: https://twitter.com/kkdumez/status/1709746160120795295Josh Howerton's sermon where the clip came from: https://subspla.sh/c7tmk53 (starting around timestamp 12:30)Last week's podcast with Terran Williams on changing his mind and the impact on his family: https://baremarriage.com/2023/10/terran-williams-sets-out-to-prove-complementarianism/Tim Little's bio at Faith Baptist Theological Seminary: https://faith.edu/faculty/dr-tim-little/Gary Thomas' article where he misunderstands modern neuroscience: https://garythomasbooks.substack.com/p/every-mans-battle-yes-and-every-womansOur podcast where Rebecca and Connor go over the meta-analysis on the differences between male and female brains: https://baremarriage.com/2021/09/pink-brains-blue-brains-gender-differences-neuroscience-podcast/ And the 2019 meta-analysis that we quoted from: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6681749/ and the 2021 meta-analysis: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763421000804Rachel Joy Welcher's review of Shannon Harris' memoir in Christianity Today: https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2023/september-web-only/shannon-harris-woman-they-wanted-memoir-purity-culture.htmlCheck out our new Biblical Manhood Merch! https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/biblical-manhood/Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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Myriam

I find it funny(tragic), that the people (men) who are the most likely to yell about children needing two parents are the ones to think that women need to be the only ones to care for the children.

Oct 16th
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Myriam

Love how she sais this book is reseach based, when she basically asked men if they prefer chocolate or vanilla icecream, and then infired that women just like the opposite of men. Thank you for pointing out all those flaws.

Sep 26th
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Sarah Poffenroth

So brave! God bless you, Alyssa.

Jun 16th
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mockingbird lane

at some point can we get Conner his own podcast? he cracks me up and he's so on point (although all of you are to be fair)

Apr 9th
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mockingbird lane

"If we apply ourselves, we can be just as tough as women." <- Connor is the best! 😄

Oct 28th
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mockingbird lane

Men and boys don't have a problem expressing themselves at all. They express joy, anger, depression very well. And ones who get violent are absolutely expressing themselves. Let's no longer pretend that's men's issue instead of the WAY men choose to do it. also, heartily disagree that women don't appreciate men enough. Wives make post after post after post about how blessed they are because for horribly bare minimum stuff like their husbands not cheating, not abusing them, or putting the dishes away like he's supposed to.

Oct 7th
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mockingbird lane

re: secular people, for the most part that's not true at all. the women come back because they like the guy or are desperate (since we're taught we're not worth much without male validation). or more sinisterly, the guy is very manipulative, possibly a red piller or PUA, pretending he'll love her if she sleeps with him, or using games (pretending he's unimpressed with her so she'll work to do what he wants). also, many men don't really care if other men don't make their wives/gfs orgasm and some even admit this. the failure will fall on the women, not the men

Aug 26th
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mockingbird lane

"why is [him being bad at pleasing her] never an option?!" because society raises men to be sexually selfish, see his own orgasm as the point of sex. :(

Aug 26th
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mockingbird lane

you're not "supposed" to want sex; it's not a duty. it's completely up to the couple

Aug 17th
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Sarah Poffenroth

This episode is amazing! Well done Sheila for standing up for what is right.

Aug 16th
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mockingbird lane

Holding your wife responsible for your anger is not just dangerous for her but demeaning to their relationship! What are they, a couple or a mother with her child?

Jul 10th
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mockingbird lane

"If he wanted to, he would." He can see that pile of dishes; he just doesn't want to do them. that's not "man bashing", that's lazy person bashing.

Jul 9th
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mockingbird lane

I love suits too but the guy is right, it's not comparable to formfitting leggings. It's the equivalent to a cocktail dress or evening gown. Think Grace Kelly's stunning costumes in her Hitchcock roles! I have never met a woman ever who was physically aroused by suits. Attracted? Absolutely. But a woman a man finds hideous can still turn him on if she's got a body type he likes and is wearing leggings.

Jul 6th
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mockingbird lane

the proverb about dripping rain is actually not as bad as it sounds initially. as Giselle from Nagging Thoughts wisely pointed out, it's a woman trying hard to fix a problem that her husband is deliberately ignoring, much like the widow consistently coming at the judge to fix her problem like he should.

Jun 23rd
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mockingbird lane

"withholding" implies she has something he is owed. no man on earth is entitled to sex or any part of a woman's body.

Jun 22nd
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mockingbird lane

thank you so much Rebecca!! that is precisely why I dressed somewhat immodestly in some of my teen years. I had been bullied before over my looks and clothes and it left me anxiety ridden. Dressing that way was how I tried to protect myself.

Jun 22nd
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mockingbird lane

That commenter was so right on! and yeah, I think if most men actually cared about their wives' needs, they would ask. If he cared, he'd make an effort. Men aren't stupid. Women have been patiently explaining ourselves till we're blue in the face and told we're wrong about our own needs, bodies, and sexualities and of course God. If he wanted to, ladies, he would! I love Sheila but I do think she's a bit too nice to men, and in a way male authors rarely are to women.

Jun 18th
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mockingbird lane

That "ENTJ" is 100% not a ENTJ. Can't commit? Craves adventure? A thousand hobbies? That the exact opposite of high Ni. Ni focuses on a singular goal and finds it super hard to waver. They are committed,particularly when combined with Te. He is clearly an ESFP. The wife could be an ISFP but in guessing she is an ISFJ because she sounds- from what I can guess from the limited info- focused more on group harmony (Fe) than values (Fi). this is why we study the functions 😄👍

Jun 18th
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mockingbird lane

also Sheila I'm quite sure you're an ESFP or ESTJ! xNTJs are very rare and most people mistype as them. I think you work well in the moment and are a genius at reading the room, you judge things by your values and it's great!

Jun 18th
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mockingbird lane

hey! I know this is a little off topic but as a huge mbti fan, I'd like to say please do not take those online quizzes seriously. They're heavily biased against sensors, extroverts and feelers, and greatly mistype women as "feelers" and men as "thinkers" due to sexist stereotypes and gender roles. I mean, I'm an ISFP and it typed me as an ISFJ! Please, everyone, study the cognitive functions! It's not only much more it but accurate and be far less likely to mistype! I'm better this lady is no more a feeler than her husband. Men have just been trained to think they're inherently more logical which obviously untrue.

Jun 18th
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