The Love With Intelligence Podcast

Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle of relationships that leave you unfulfilled or drained? Today's enlightening discussion unveils the hidden impact of childhood experiences on our adult connections. Together, we'll explore the mysterious link between parents with low emotional intelligence and your own quest for love, navigating the complex waters of emotional validation, codependency, and the challenging task of breaking free from these cycles. By shining a light on these shadows, we'll equip you with the knowledge to forge paths toward healthier and more fulfilling partnerships.Strap in for a heart-to-heart on the arduous path of healing from trauma and the grasp of narcissistic relationships. We share the poignant journey of a client battling abandonment issues and the paradox of prioritizing oneself in relationships that seem to punish self-care. We'll dissect the nuances of complex PTSD and how past pains can hijack your reactions to present-day triggers. This chapter is a beacon for those navigating the murky waters of the dating scene and a guide for those aiming to align their partner choices with their deepest values for lasting love and compatibility.Closing the loop, we address the foundation of healthy relationships and the transformative journey of confronting and mending childhood wounds. In this honest conversation, I'll guide you through the signs of over-giving, the struggle with trust, and the tendency to be overly agreeable—which can inadvertently beckon manipulative partners. Discover how embracing vulnerability and asserting personal needs can open doors to emotional safety and genuine connections. Plus, we introduce Love IQ membership, providing tools and community support to encourage healthier relationship patterns and embolden you to step boldly into a future brimming with genuine connection and emotional security.Click here to claim 7 days free access to The Love IQ Membership on us: https://www.lovewithintelligence.com/IQWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

Have you ever wondered why swiping right doesn't bring Mr. or Ms. Right into your life?Our latest podcast episode peels back the layers of online dating and self-identity, guiding you towards a path of self-discovery and meaningful connections. Diving into the heart of what makes relationships tick, we unpack the significance of understanding yourself and your past traumas to navigate the digital love terrain with clarity and purpose. With insights from relationship experts and life coaches, this isn't just a talk about finding love; it's about reshaping your approach to foster genuine partnerships and steer clear from the clingy grip of codependency.Let's talk about the four C's—no, not diamonds, but something just as valuable for your relationship: compatibility, consideration, communication, and collaboration. Our conversation explores the compatibility matrix, a tool that's about to become your best friend in the quest for love. It's not about the numbers game but finding someone who truly aligns with your values and dreams. We'll dissect the patterns that may have led you to play the hero in past relationships and how you can break free from these cycles. Listen in as we share strategies that can revolutionize your approach to dating, turning it from a maze of misconnections into a journey of joint discovery.Wrap up your headphones, because we're bringing the finale to your relationship woes with a discussion on the most crucial part of any connection: communication. Learn how to lay the foundation of happiness within yourself before even stepping into the dating scene. We break down why the Love IQ assessment and an 11-part strategy are the roadmaps you need to navigate the complex world of modern dating with finesse. Plus, get the scoop on how to make conversations sizzle with authenticity and intention. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to meet someone extraordinary and cultivate a love that's as rewarding as it is resilient.As promised links below relating to this episode: Discover Your Love IQ Assessment: https://loveiq.scoreapp.comCompatibility Matrix: https://www.lovewithintelligence.com/meet-the-oneWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

What if the key to navigating the complex world of dating and relationships lies in understanding our childhood experiences and attachment styles? Imagine being able to recognize the impact of your attachment style on your relationships, and reshape your approach to love based on this understanding. In this episode, we embark on a journey to explore the deep-seated influences of our early years on our adult relationships, focusing on the four main attachment styles - secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized.Do you find yourself falling in love with potential instead of reality, often leading to a cycle of disappointment and heartbreak? In today's discussion, we expose the potential pitfalls of this approach and steer you towards a new perspective, emphasizing the significance of day-to-day happiness in relationships. We also explore how attachment styles can often be misused as an escape route to stay in unhealthy relationships, stressing the need for clear communication and understanding of your own needs to ward off feelings of insecurity and anxiety.Our conversation doesn't end there. We delve deeper into the realms of empathy and compatibility, two crucial elements in fostering healthy relationships. Discover how empathy can help you better understand your partner's emotions and needs, and why compatibility plays a pivotal role in ensuring the longevity of a relationship. As we wrap up, we leave you with a powerful thought - using your emotions as a guide in seeking a fulfilling relationship. So, tune in and let's decode the intricate world of relationships together.Website: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

As your guide through the labyrinth of narcissistic relationships, I am Lily Walford, an international relationship and dating coach. I’ve walked this path, from the murky depths of toxic relationships to the refreshing breath of authentic love, and my journey has equipped me with insights that I am eager to share with you. In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the intricate psychological mechanisms that narcissists employ, broadening our understanding of dangerous power dynamics that they use to entrap their victims. We delve into the unsettling world of narcissistic manipulation, unmasking the distressing reality of trauma bonds. By drawing from my comprehensive research and personal experiences, we dissect the striking contrasts and disturbing similarities between healthy and unhealthy relationships. You will grasp the toll that a toxic relationship can inflict on the nervous system, precipitating complex PTSD and emotional damage. However, we don't dwell on the gloom - this episode also shines a light on the path to healing and moving on post-narcissistic relationships.Finally, we navigate the riveting landscape of love after narcissism. Together, we stress the significance of setting healthy boundaries and fostering a supportive social environment. We craft a tailored dating strategy focused on cultivating a lasting relationship. By probing your past relationships and childhood experiences, we aim to understand how they influence your choice of partners. As we wrap up, you will feel enlightened about narcissistic relationships and empowered to foster healthier, happier relationships.Website: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

Are you ready to liberate yourself from the shackles of toxic relationships? In today's episode, we are taking a deep dive into healing, self-discovery, and transitioning to healthier relationships after surviving a toxic one. We'll journey through the complexities of trauma bonding, the impact of toxic relationships on our perception of reality, and the power of placing yourself as the priority. Often, we find ourselves stuck in a purgatory of dating, not quite understanding how to navigate through the murky waters of emotions and desires that are aftermaths of toxic relationships. By shedding light on this often-overlooked struggle, we aim to equip you with the tools to identify and break free from such chains. We will guide you on how to reclaim your autonomy, understand and manage your triggers, and redefine your desires, ultimately paving a path towards a healthier and happier you.As we transition from discussing the trauma of toxic relationships to the peace of healthier ones, we'll explore how to recognize potential toxic partners and trust your intuition. We'll also delve into the transformative power of dating in healing and moving on from the shadows of your past. We believe everyone deserves to experience love and companionship without the strain of toxicity. Let's break away from past distortions and prioritize self-care together. Tune in and join us on this journey towards healing, self-discovery, and healthier relationshipsWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

We all know that good communication is key to any healthy relationship but how can you use it to enhance and increase intimacy and connection on a daily basis with ease? In this episode we deep dive into how communication can enhance trust, create interdependence and also cultivate a powerful level of intimacy with ease. -----Lily Walford - The Love and Intimacy MentorSupporting singles and couples to find and develop deeper levels of love and intimacyEveryone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts.Website: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

Sex is one of these huge taboo topics but what if sex could tell you how your relationship is going? Imagine being able to use sex as the barometer of your relationship and learning how it shows you the various things that you are doing well at in your relationship and also the things that you could improve on too. In this episode we also dive into various ways that you can improve your love life and your sex life too. How important is sex in a relationship? Tune in to find out now...----Lily Walford - The Love and Intimacy MentorSupporting singles and couples to find and develop deeper levels of love and intimacy Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts.www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

Tell me who doesn't want more love and intimacy in their relationship or future relationship because everyone does. But the problem is, not everyone knows how to create that for themselves and their partner. In this episode I am diving into the most easy and natural way to create more love and intimacy in your relationship so you can enjoy the most deep, powerful connection with your partner. -----Lily Walford works with individuals and couples to find and develop deeper levels of love and intimacy.Website: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

In this episode we are going into a topic that's not often talked about but it creates a significant difference when it comes to our relationship and our connection to feeling loved as men and women because we both need very different things. Be prepared to see relationships in a whole new light and get ready to enjoy more love in your life as a result.-------Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology. Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts. www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

We are sharing the secrets behind our client's success as over 78% of our clients meet their long term partners through working together but what do all of our clients have incommon? In this episode we share some BIG truths about the industry which may cause some jaws to drop. Get your notepads and pens at the ready, as you'll be wanting to take some notes in this episode. Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology. Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts. www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

Narcissistic relationships are never fun, you lose so much of yourself in those relationships and you can be left ruminating over certain memories wondering how you could have made things better or avoided that relationship all together. Get ready to learn how the mind of a narcissist works and how you can spot them in a matter of minutes so you have the choice to avoid them all together. ----Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology.Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts. www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

We all want to experience more emotional intimacy in our relationships and we all know that we can't do that without vulnerability....but how do you do that in a healthy way without oversharing? In this episode we share how you can create a deep emotional connection without the need of sharing painful memories or events and instead creating that intimacy from a happy, healthy and inspiring place. Be the one to remember.---Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology.Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts.www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

EVERY and I repeat EVERY relationship goes through conflict and some stage and there's a few important things to know if you want to manage conflict successfully in your relationship so you can both come out feeling closer, stronger and more love. In this episode I share the true secret of a long lasting relationship and how to minimise the damage that conflict can have on your relationship. Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology.Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts.www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

We all love that magical moment of enjoying that spark with someone, there's almost that electrical feeling to it when we feel that level of chemistry. But what is a spark? Can healthy relationships have sparks? And if so how is it really created and maintained in relationships?In this episode we answer all those questions in greater detail.Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology.Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts.www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

Trauma....what is it? And can some relationships cause it? In this episode we talk about the many ways we can experience trauma in relationships and we also share the many ways that you can heal from it too. Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology.Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts.www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

Is it just you that’s finding yourself in that place where you spend time on dating apps, psyching yourself up to respond to the millions of “hey how are you messages” which leaves you scratching your head wondering how is this going to get you closer to meeting your match. Spoiler alert it isn’t. In this episode we will talk about why and what you can do about it. Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology.Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts. www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

In this throwback episode Lily and her partner interview Scott Rouse from the Behavior Panel specifically on PSYCHOPATHS! You will discover how the mind of a psychopath works and how you can avoid them in future!Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology.Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts.www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

In this episode we dive into how must people fall into narcissistic relationships and how you can start to heal and forgive yourself after being in these types of relationships. The truth is if you've been in these types of relationships it's not because you are not intelligent.....it's because narcissists use the most powerful way to influence and manipulate people by using empathy. Learn how they do it and how you can avoid these situations in the future.Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology.Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts.www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

Often we hear so many people talking about boundaries, what do people mean by them, do we really need them and how do they affect our everyday lives (especially our love life!) We dive deeply into what it is you really need to focus on and how to place boundaries in a way that's aligned to who you are.Website: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment

Being cheated on and betrayed in relationships is one of the most heartbreaking and soul wrenching experiences we can go through, especially when we weren't expecting it to happen from someone we love. What's the truth about cheating and betrayal and how can you get over it? How can you learn to trust again? And how can you move forward and experience real, honest and genuine love that lasts?This is exactly what this episode is all about. Lily Walford is an international relationship and dating coach who has supported so many professionals to heal from toxic relationships and to claim the love life they truly deserve through using behavioral psychology.Everyone deserves love but not everyone knows how to get it, so tune in if you are ready for undeniable love that lasts.www.LoveWithIntelligence.comWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.comBook a free 15min call hereSingle? Download Our Meet The One Guide Find Your Love IQ Here: Your Love IQ Assessment