It Starts With Attraction

In This AMA episode of It Starts With Attraction dive deep with Kimberly Beam Holmes exploring the four pillars of the PIES Method – the key ingredients for drawing in and developing magnetic connections. The best part? They're all rooted in self-compassion and growth.Embark on a journey of self-discovery, gently guided by the PIES Method. This framework can empower you to identify areas where your inner light might be dimmed, not with blame, but with a spirit of understanding and growth. Imagine yourself as a radiant beacon, and the PIES Method as a tool to help you fine-tune your frequency to attract fulfilling connections. With each step you take towards self-improvement, your inner magnetism strengthens, drawing those who resonate with your authentic self closer to you.Identify areas where your light might be dimmed. This isn't about judgment, but about understanding where you can nurture yourself for greater connection with the PIES Method as your guide.Discover the powerful link between physical well-being and emotional intelligence. When you feel good in your own skin, you naturally radiate confidence and vitality.Learn practical tips for building a healthy, sustainable routine tailored to your unique needs – no pressure, just progress!Explore the importance of cultivating both emotional depth and intellectual curiosity. Let's build meaningful conversations that ignite genuine connection.Discover strategies for navigating differences in interests with your spouse. It's not about finding someone identical, but about finding ways to celebrate your unique passions together.But this journey is about more than just attracting others. It's about attracting the right kind of connection, built on empathy and mutual respect.That's why this episode also tackles:Overcoming emotional unavailability – both yours and those you encounter.The power of setting healthy boundaries to protect your energy and create space for fulfilling relationships.Prioritizing quality sleep – because a well-rested you is a radiant you!The importance of self-care – because showing yourself kindness is the foundation of attracting kindness from others…And MORE!This episode is a warm embrace, filled with actionable advice and uplifting stories. Together, you'll break free from feeling invisible and cultivate the inner spark that attracts the love and connection you desire. You are worthy, you are seen, and you have the power to ignite your magnetic attraction!❓ SUBMIT YOUR QUESTIONS HERE 👇https://bit.ly/4426pQXYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.itstartswithattraction.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Is hospitality just about dinner parties and nice guest rooms? Or is there something deeper at play? Ian Simkins, joins Kimberly Beam Holmes of "It Starts with Attraction" as they explore hospitality through a powerful lens – the heart of God.They delve into how the story of the Prodigal Son reveals God's "lovesick" nature and the challenge of overcoming our "older brother" mentality. Discover how hospitality is a grand act of grace, echoing a greater story of welcome and belonging.This conversation will challenge and inspire you to:Rethink hospitality: Move beyond perfectionism and into meaningful connection.Embrace God's ways: Learn how grace and love reshape our interactions.Prioritize what matters: Find freedom in choosing the best over the good.If you long to be more hospitable with the heart of God, this video is for you! Dive into Christian hospitality and the gospel of grace and discover a way of life that reflects God's boundless love.The Bridge ChurchYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.itstartswithattraction.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

In this segment, Kimberly Beam Holmes discusses a profound study by Dr. David Matsumoto on how ending terrorism starts by improving the family unit. Dr. Matsumoto first appeared on Kimberly's podcast in the first year of the show. 📺 Watch the full 200th Episode here:https://youtu.be/wjEg61E1M0U🎧 Listen to the Dr. David Matsumoto episode here:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/it-starts-with-attraction/id1510016468?i=1000489764015Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: https://itstartswithattraction.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

Curious about the hidden forces that shape your relationships?  Explore the fascinating process of unraveling the science of attraction with Kimberly Beam Holmes on her podcast "It Starts with Attraction." In this highlight video, dive into transformative episodes:Dr. David Matsumoto: Discover the secrets of nonverbal communication and microexpressions, and learn how they influence who you're drawn to.John Gottman:  Shares thought-provoking insights that encourage married couples to nurture a happy and healthy marriage.Enjoy other highlights that make for a well-rounded sense of attraction!Want to delve deeper into the science of attraction?  Subscribe to "It Starts with Attraction" wherever you get your podcasts and unlock the mysteries of human connection.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.itstartswithattraction.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

Fitness coach Holly Baxter reveals the difficulty of perfectly balancing the 4 areas of attraction and the techniques she uses to become her best self.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.itstartswithattraction.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

We often think attraction is all about looks, but what if it's deeper than that? On today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes sits down with fitness coach Holly Baxter for a candid conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about beauty, self-worth, and building lasting attraction. Holly reveals:The Dangerous Side of Success: How achieving female bodybuilding goals paradoxically fueled her insecurities, low self-esteem, and an eating disorder. It was only by overcoming negative body image that she began to heal.Attracting What You Are: The mindset shift from focusing on external appearance to cultivating inner strength, and how that changed the kind of people she attracted.Faith, Fitness & Finding Purpose: Holly's journey to finding Jesus, how active faith and fitness helped heal past wounds, gave her strength in the face of divorce, and brought clarity to her life's purpose.True Beauty: How ditching unrealistic societal pressures, embracing self-compassion, and focusing on self-love unlocked Holly's most vibrant, attractive self.Body Image Battles to True Strength: Holly shares the practical tools she used to break free from the body image trap, the role of positive self-talk, and how true self-worth comes from within.If you're ready to break free from those old insecurities, find fulfillment beyond external validation, and discover the real secret to captivating attraction, don't miss this powerful conversation. Holly's story is proof that no matter what challenges you face – whether it's low self-esteem, struggles with body image, or life transitions like divorce – there's a path to finding your strength, your purpose, and a deeper sense of self-love.Holly's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HollyTBaxter 🔥BiaBody Website: https://bia-body.com/ 🏃‍♀️BiaFit App: https://bia-body.com/biafit/ 📱Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

Are you feeling anxious and searching for a natural way to transform your mental state? Dive into the power of breathwork with our enlightening video "Anxious? Induce Transformational Change with Breathwork." Discover the scientific backing and practical exercises that can significantly lower anxiety symptoms through intentional breathing techniques. From the physiological sighs recommended by experts like Andrew Huberman to the calming effects of box breathing and belly breathing, learn how to harness the power of your breath to initiate transformational change in your life.Studies have shown that intentional, slow breathing can decrease anxiety in both older and younger adults, offering a simple yet profound tool for emotional regulation. Explore various breathwork methods such as cyclic sighing, box breathing, and the intriguing benefits of integrating breathwork into your exercise routine. Understand why focusing on the exhale can lead to the highest increase in positive effect and how breathwork can enhance resilience and clear the amygdala, leading to improved mental health.This video is perfect for anyone looking to find peace, reduce anxiety, and foster a greater sense of well-being through the science and practice of breathwork. Whether you're new to breathwork or looking to deepen your practice, there's something here for you.LINK TO THE FULL EPISODEYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

Have you ever felt a knot in your stomach from worry?  Racing thoughts? A heart that won't slow down?  Kimberly Beam Holmes knows exactly how anxiety feels.  She shares her deeply personal journey with anxiety, starting from childhood experiences that laid the foundation for her struggles.  If you or someone you love grapples with adult anxiety, this video is for you!Kimberly discusses specific anxiety disorders like generalized anxiety disorder, separation anxiety, phobias, and hypochondria, explaining how they manifest and impact our lives. Discover how anxiety affects the body, potential causes, and why it's more common in women.  In this episode, she delves into managing anxiety through uncertainty and the broader topic of stress management.Don't let anxiety control you! Kimberly reveals actionable strategies to manage your anxiety, including:- The Power of Self-Care: Practical tips to nurture your mind and body.- Mind Over Matter: How cognitive-behavioral techniques can rewire your thinking.- Move Your Body, Calm Your Mind: The science behind exercise as an anxiety-buster.- Breathe Deeply: Simple breathwork techniques for anxiety relief.- The Gratitude Effect: How focusing on the good can transform your outlook.- Journaling for Anxiety: Discover the power of writing to ease anxious thoughts.Remember, you are not alone. Kimberly's story is one of hope and resilience – proof that you can learn to thrive despite anxiety.LINK TO RESEARCH: https://bit.ly/3vj9j72 🧠Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

Are you curious about what REALLY drives your choices, desires, and even your sense of purpose? The answer lies within your own brain! This video takes you on a fascinating journey into the world of dopamine, the powerful neurotransmitter that shapes so much of who you are.We'll delve into the science to answer: What is dopamine? How does dopamine function? We'll also explore how dopamine interacts with the mysterious depths of your unconscious mind. Inspired by the groundbreaking work of Dr. Daniel Lieberman ("The Molecule of More"), we'll uncover:What dopamine REALLY does (it's not just about pleasure!)The power of the unconscious mind and how it influences your motivations without you even knowing itPractical ways to harness the power of dopamine and your unconscious for a more fulfilling lifeIf you're a seeker who enjoys a blend of science and self-discovery, this video is for you! Get ready to unlock the hidden forces that shape your life and create the future you truly desire.Today's Guest: Dr. Daniel Z. LiebermanDaniel Z. Lieberman, MD is the senior vice president of mental health at Hims & Hers Health. He is also a clinical professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at George Washington University, where he has received awards for teaching and research. He studied the Great Books at St. John’s College and attended medical school at New York University. He is the coauthor of the international bestseller The Molecule of More, which has been translated into more than 20 languages, and the author of Spellbound: Modern Science, Ancient Magic, and the Hidden Potential of the Unconscious Mind. Dr. Lieberman has published extensively in peer-reviewed journals and leading psychiatric textbooks, and has provided insight on psychiatric topics for the US Department of Health and Human Services, the US Department of Commerce, and the Office of Drug and Alcohol Policy.Get Dr. Lieberman's Book's Here!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Are you troubled by the direction of our culture? Witnessing the erosion of traditional values and what feels like an increase in moral decay and societal problems? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes offer a thought-provoking, and at times controversial, conversation exploring these pressing concerns.They delve into:The impact of childhood trauma on our healthThe dangers of unchecked emotionsThe loss of critical thinking & open debateSocial media's influence on our valuesThe impact of technology on human connectionChanging social norms around gender and sexualityThis isn't just about identifying what's wrong. Dr. Beam shares wisdom on how we can stand for positive social change, respect others even when we disagree, and create a better world.  He offers a call to action, grounded in the belief that our choices matter.If you're ready for a deep dive into the issues shaping our society, and a discussion of potential solutions, this video is for you!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

Are you bombarded with fitness advice, but unsure what to believe? It's time to ditch the misinformation and gain real, science-backed knowledge.  Join Kimberly Beam Holmes as she exposes 10 workout myths and reveals the proven strategies to reach your fitness goals.We'll also cover:Can you target fat loss? The truth about spot reduction.Women, fear bulky muscles no more! Learn how weightlifting builds a lean, toned physique.The role of calories in weight loss and muscle gain. We dive into the importance of calorie deficit and weight loss.Is sweat a good workout indicator? It's time to rethink that! Discover how to truly measure intensity.When should you push through pain? We cover proper form, soreness, and preventing injuries.Why rest days are essential. Learn how overtraining can actually hinder your progress.Measuring progress beyond the scale. Explore the DEXA scan for fat percentage and other insights.The best exercise combo for results. Why both cardio and strength training are crucial.Sleep, nutrition, and VO2 max. Their impact on your fitness journey and how to improve your VO2 max.Ditch the workout myths and get on the path to achieving your best self!Links to research:https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21804427/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20847704/https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3530110/https://www.researchgate.net/publication/8075169_Delayed_onset_muscle_soreness_Treatment_strategies_and_performance_factorshttps://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23247672/https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3925973/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16526835/https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3544497/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12574618/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Are you ready to heal your body, boost your mental well-being, and enhance your natural attractiveness? This episode, featuring Dr. Will Cole, delves into the world of functional medicine to address inflammation in the body. Discover the power of self-love as the foundation for lasting change, and explore expert strategies on how to remove inflammation from your body.Learn about:Functional medicine: Understand how this approach targets the root causes of inflammation.The mind-body connection: How inflammation impacts your mood and how mental health solutions can aid your healing.Be an attractive person: See how reducing inflammation naturally enhances inner and outer radiance.Taking actionable steps: Practical tips you can implement today to start feeling and looking your best.If you're seeking a holistic path to vibrant health, this video is for you. Today's Guest: Dr. Will ColeDr. Will Cole, leading functional-medicine expert, consults people around the world via webcam at www.drwillcole.com and locally in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. He specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing health programs for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal dysfunctions, digestive disorders, and brain problems. Dr. Cole was named one of the top fifty functional-medicine and integrative doctors in the nation and is a health expert for mindbodygreen and goop. Dr. Cole is the author of the book, The Inflammation Spectrum in which he explores how inflammation exists on a spectrum within the body, the various systems it can affect, and how you can discover your individual food triggers to overcome chronic inflammation. He is also the author of Ketotarian in which he melds the powerful benefits of a ketogenic diet with a plant-based one.   Website: www.drwillcole.comPodcast: The GoopFellasBook: The Inflammation SpectrumYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Embark on a profound journey of self-discovery with Mike Foster and Kimberly Beam Holmes as they explore emotional needs and primal questions.Discover the transformative power of understanding your emotional needs through Foster's primal question framework. Uncover how childhood messages shape adult behaviors and gain insights into navigating personal primal questions for success and fulfillment.Explore the essence of self-understanding and the purpose of life, unlocking authenticity and fulfillment by embracing your primal truth. Dive deep into building meaningful relationships rooted in meeting primal needs and charting your path to living your purpose with the Primal Map tool.Join us in navigating personal growth and relationships with empathy and insight, recognizing the intrinsic connection between behavior, success, and the pursuit of purpose.Experience emotional attraction and personal growth through Mike Foster's book, "The Primal Question," and take the first step towards embracing your unique gifts with our free assessment and certification program.Join us on this transformative journey towards self-discovery and purposeful living. Watch now and unlock the key to a life filled with authenticity, fulfillment, and purpose.Today's Guest: Mike FosterMike Foster is the creator of the Primal Question Framework which is a revolutionary new way to understand human psychology and core drivers of our lives. Mike has a unique ability to take the complexities of our traumatic experiences and simplify them in way that fast-tracks healing.He is a widely respected thought leader on emotional health, inner intelligence and how to maximize our primal gifts in the workplace. Mike’s projects have been featured in The NY Times, Good Morning America, and on FOX News.He also trains coaches and counselors in the Primal Question model in his 3-month certification program.Mike is the author of six books, including his newest best-seller, "The Seven Primal Questions: Take Control of the Hidden Forces That Drive You." (Published 2023)He lives in San Diego with his wife of 28 years.Get Mike's Book Here!Take The Primal Question Quiz!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the world of stress management with the expertise of Dr. Marsha Brown, a licensed psychologist with extensive experience in high-conflict environments and corporate stress mitigation. Whether it's the overwhelm of daily tasks, the high demands of our jobs, or the challenges of maintaining work-life balance, Dr. Brown shares invaluable insights and practical strategies for coping with stress. Discover how to set effective boundaries to prevent burnout, identify stress triggers, and find joy in restorative activities. If you're looking to enhance your resilience, improve your well-being, and foster healthier relationships despite life's pressures, this conversation is a must-listen. Dr. Brown's experience with organizations like the US Chamber of Commerce and the Red Cross of Florida, coupled with her media features, positions her as a leading voice in stress management and mental wellness. Tune in to transform your approach to stress and unlock a more fulfilling, balanced life. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Marsha BrownDr. Marsha D. Brown is a Licensed Psychologist with extensive experience in the assessment,  evaluation, diagnosis, and treatment of individuals of all ages. Dr. Marsha has worked in the  mental health field for over 15 years, much of it in high-conflict, court-involved settings. As a  mental health expert, Dr. Marsha is needed and present for intense, critical, and complicated  situations. She is also often tasked with helping those who are struggling to overcome extreme  crises. Dr. Marsha is the Founder and CEO of Deconstructing Wellness, LLC (DW). DW works with  organizations to implement procedures that prioritize wellbeing and teach their teams skills to  conquer stress. Dr. Marsha has provided trainings for organizations including the U.S. Chamber  of Commerce, The Red Cross of South Florida, the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI of  Broward County), and the United Way of Broward County. She has also been featured in media  outlets including the New York Times and USA Today.Links:drmarshabrown.comYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

In this episode, we welcome Julie Menanno, a renowned Marriage and Family Therapist and the voice behind the successful Instagram account, The Secure Relationship. With over a million followers and a groundbreaking book titled "Secure Love," Julie brings her extensive expertise in attachment theory and couples therapy to our listeners.Discover the transformative power of secure attachment in your marriage as Julie delves deep into the heart of relationship dynamics. We explore critical topics such as:Understanding Secure Love: Learn what it means to have a secure, loving relationship and why it's essential for marital harmony.Attachment Styles Unveiled: Julie sheds light on different attachment styles and their impact on your marriage. From the anxious-avoidant dynamic to the path towards secure attachment, gain insights into the patterns shaping your relationship.Communication as the Key: Uncover the core issue in most relationship problems – communication. Julie discusses how verbal and non-verbal communication can build or erode emotional safety, and how to transform this critical aspect of your relationship.The Journey to Secure Attachment: Julie provides practical advice for moving from anxious or avoidant attachment styles to a secure, mutually fulfilling relationship. Learn how to make essential internal changes and foster a nurturing environment for both partners.Healing and Growth: For couples affected by affairs, trust issues, or other challenges, Julie offers hope and strategies for healing. Learn how to rebuild trust and intimacy through understanding, empathy, and secure attachment practices.This episode is not just an exploration of theories; it's a guide to revolutionizing your marriage. Whether you're looking to heal from past hurts or enhance the emotional bond with your spouse, Julie's insights offer a pathway to a deeper, more secure love.Join us for an episode that could change the course of your marriage. Embrace the power of secure attachment and start your journey towards a more fulfilling, loving partnership.Today's Guest: Julie MenannoJulie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children.Get her new book here!Visit her websiteYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

In this episode, we dive into the transformative journey of post-traumatic growth with the renowned Dr. Richard Tedeschi. A pioneer in the field, Dr. Tedeschi unveils how traumatic experiences can lead to profound personal growth and a renewed sense of purpose.Key Highlights:Understanding Post-Traumatic Growth: Dr. Tedeschi explains the process of turning adversity into advantage, challenging core beliefs, and emerging stronger.Trauma and Core Beliefs: An in-depth discussion on how trauma can shake the foundations of what we believe, leading to anxiety, confusion, and ultimately, growth.Expert Guidance: From his extensive experience as a clinician, researcher, and professor, Dr. Tedeschi shares valuable insights on navigating the complexities of trauma.Personal Transformation: Discover how traumatic events can reshape your view of the world, strengthen relationships, and open new life paths.Healing and Moving Forward: Practical advice on overcoming the overwhelming feelings of trauma and channeling them into positive life changes.This episode is a must-watch for anyone looking to understand the psychological impact of trauma and the potential for positive change in its aftermath. Whether you are navigating personal challenges, supporting a loved one, or simply interested in psychological resilience, Dr. Tedeschi's insights offer a beacon of hope and a roadmap to recovery.Today's Guest: Dr. Richard TedeschiDr. Richard Tedeschi is Executive Director of the Boulder Crest Institute for Posttraumatic Growth, in Bluemont, Virginia, where he has been one of the developers of  programs based on posttraumatic growth principles to help combat veterans and first responders. He is also Professor Emeritus in the Department of  Psychological Science at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte, where he served for 42 years.He has published nine books and numerous professional articles on posttraumatic growth, an area of research that he developed while at UNC Charlotte.Dr. Tedeschi serves as a consultant to the American Psychological Association on trauma and resilience, and is a Fellow of the Division of Trauma Psychology and the Division of Psychotherapy. He is also a member of the Division of Military Psychology and the Division of Independent Practice.  He is a Past President of the North Carolina Psychological Association. LINKS:https://bouldercrest.org/Read More About Post Traumatic GrowthYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes

Unlock the secrets to lasting habit transformation with Dr. Mel Davis, a brilliant mind in neurobiology and behavior, as we unravel the layers of willpower management and habit building. Dr. Davis guides us through the journey of self-improvement without overwhelming oneself, highlighting the significance of incremental changes and the patience required, similar to mastering an instrument or earning a degree. We delve into prioritizing habits that will most positively impact your life, offering actionable strategies to build momentum and bolster self-efficacy.Confessing my personal struggles with syncing my nutrition with my steadfast exercise regimen, this episode offers a candid look into why it's tougher to break old habits than to form new ones. Dr. Davis shares her expertise on the psychology behind habit formation, discussing the ins and outs of a balanced diet rich in vegetables and the necessity of focusing on behavior for sustainable health. Especially as the festive season brings its share of temptations, learn how to enjoy life's indulgences in moderation and maintain a consistent approach to wellness.Strength training myths get debunked regardless of gender, as we illuminate its benefits, from osteoporosis prevention to body composition enhancement. We discuss the right equipment for every level and the proper frequency for strength sessions to maximize benefits while managing hunger on a calorie deficit. Dr. Davis also imparts wisdom on protein and macronutrient balance tailored to individual needs, ensuring listeners leave armed with knowledge to navigate their fitness journeys with confidence. Join us for a robust conversation that marries exercise, nutrition, and the craft of developing habits that stick.Today's Guest: Dr. Mel DavisDr. Melissa Davis holds a PhD in Neurobiology and Behavior and has 10 years of research experience. She has earned awards for teaching, scholarship, and research. A Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt and a repeat IBJJF Master World Champion, she has represented the U.S. in the Abu Dhabi World Pro twice. She currently does contract work for Renaissance Periodization, where she writes books, coaches clients, and develops nutrition and training products. In her free time she hikes, backpacks, hunts, forages, gardens, and trains her horse and mule in Montana. Links:Instagram: @regressive_underload Habit Book: ebook: https://rpstrength.com/evidence-based-habit-buildingprint, kindle, audio: https://www.amazon.com/Evidence-Based-Habit-Building-Finally-Done/dp/B09HHM1NL4RP Coaching: https://rpstrength.com/rp-coaching?selected=diet-and-training-coaching-menu_coachingYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes

Unlock the mysteries of your heart as we traverse the captivating landscape of love with the guidance of Dr. Helen Fisher. This episode promises a profound understanding of the intricate dance between brain chemistry and romance, as we delve into why we fall for the partners we do, and whether that intense spark of new love can blossom into a lifelong flame.Join me in this heartfelt conversation with Dr. Fisher, where we dissect the essence of limerence and its metamorphosis into enduring love. Ever wondered if there's a science to staying happily in love? We've got you covered, sharing secrets on maintaining passion, the art of emotional regulation, and the magic of 'positive illusions'. Prepare to be enlightened by the anthropological undercurrents of relationship dynamics and practical strategies for rekindling romance, armed with wisdom from both Dr. Fisher and relationship expert, John Gottman.As we wrap up our journey with Dr. Fisher, we shed new light on how novelty, personality, and even the biological forces at play shape our romantic relationships. Explore the four personality styles that dictate our love lives, and understand the profound implications of love in our later years. We'll also unveil the biological patterns that often lead to divorce and why long-term commitment holds the key to a healthier, more fulfilling life. This episode is not just a treasure trove of insights—it's a roadmap for deepening the connections that mean the most to us. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Helen Fisher, PhD Biological AnthropoligistHELEN FISHER, PhD BIOLOGICAL ANTHROPOLOGIST, is Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute; and Chief Science Advisor to  Match.com .  She uses brain scanning (fMRI) to study the neural foundations of romantic love, attachment, rejection in love, love addiction and long-term partnership happiness. She has written six internationally best-selling books on mate choice, romantic love, marriage, gender differences in the brain and the evolution and future of the family in the digital age. Her books include: ANATOMY OF LOVE (2 ND  ed); WHY WE LOVE; and WHY HIM? WHY HER?.  Fisher is currently studying the biological basis of personality--using her fMRI data and data collected from her questionnaire, the Fisher Temperament Inventory, now taken by 15+ million people in 40 countries.  She is currently writing her 7th book, applying these data on four foundational temperament dimensions to business and personal living. Her personality questionnaire has been called “a disruptive technology” and “the next Myers-Briggs.”  Helen is the co-founder of a business consulting company, NEUROCOLOR.  She is in the media regularly. She is a TED All-Star with over 21 million views of her TED talks, a recipient of the American Anthropological Association’s Distinguished Service Award for her work at presenting anthropological data to the public; and chosen in 2015 by Business Insider as one of “The Fifteen Most Amazing Women in Science.”LINKS:Website: https://helenfisher.com/Personality TestBooks: https://helenfisher.com/books/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlyb

As the confetti settles and the last echoes of "Happy New Year" fade away, I'm reminded of my New Year's Eve wedding and the profound sense of beginning anew it instilled in me. That's why this episode is dedicated to the art of self-reflection and goal setting, not just as a seasonal tradition, but as a transformative practice that can steer the course of our lives. I'll take you on a personal journey through the highs and lows of setting intentions, sharing the heartfelt story of how my own New Year's resolutions have evolved—from festive ambitions to a deeply rooted pursuit of personal growth.Goal setting can sometimes feel like a mountain that's insurmountable, especially if we're scaling it with the wrong equipment. That's where I challenge the one-size-fits-all mentality of popular programs like the 75 Hard challenge, and instead, advocate for a more individualized touch. I delve into the nuances of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, supported by the insights of psychological experts Sheldon, Elliot, and Deci, to reveal why some goals stick and others slip away. In this heartfelt discussion, I emphasize the power of aligning goals with our innermost values and passions, paving a path that's uniquely ours to tread.As we wrap up this episode, I invite you to contemplate self-concordant goals—those that not only resonate with who we are but also connect us to something greater. I'll share strategies for setting purposeful objectives that bolster our sense of autonomy, competence, and relatedness, creating a harmonious balance that elevates our wellbeing. You'll leave this conversation equipped with the knowledge to choose goals that not only promise a year of intention but also a lifetime of fulfillment—goals that are as unique and personal as the stories we write with each new chapter of our lives.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

2023 has FLOWN by! We thought we would put together an end of year recap of the most popular episodes of the year! We'll be back next week with an all new episode to kick off 2024 ❤️Episodes:Sherry GabaDave DelaneyToi SweeneyJulie BeckermanDallas JenkinsHow Attraction Leads To LoveJamie GagnonKarla McLarenDr. Laurie Watson3 Steps to Heal A Broken MarriageJefferson FisherAndrea BeachYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!