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HI, I am Lisanne Iriks and I am deeply passionate about people having the ability to resolve conflict powerfully and negotiate effectively in their lives. I am so passionate about it because I see how much suffering it is causing people on a daily basis and I know that it just does not have to be this way. When people truly get how conflict impacts their life and put the work in to get effective at conflict resolution and negotiation, they get to experience deep connections with other people, freedom, self-expression, love, and happiness!
So what is it that I do? I am a conflict resolution specialist and have been a mediator and facilitator for over 12 years specialising in family mediation and workplace mediation. I have taken thousands for people through the mediation process and I have had the honour to be a finalist for the Australian Mediator of the year award for the last two years. I train, coach, and mentor people to become highly effective in conflict resolution and negotiation so they can create the relationships they want in their homes and their boardrooms.
I am so excited to welcome you to CONVERSATIONS TO CUT THE CONFLICT! This podcast is designed to create actual change in people’s lives and the world.
I am committed to bringing you the conversations, insight, and tools you need for you to switch on your inner conflict resolution and negotiation muscles and get you to a completely different level where you can resolve conflict powerfully and create the relationships you want in your life. Think about it...what would life be like if you would not be afraid of dealing with conflict and you would deal with it easily and quickly. It would change the game dramatically, wouldn't it?
Thank you for being here and being willing to have these conversations and switch on your inner conflict resolution muscle. The world needs people like you!
It would mean so much to me if you could share an episode with the people in your life. I put so much into these conversations and I would like these conversations to reach as many people as possible! Please tag me on Instagram when you share an episode so I can reshare your story.
It is so great to meet you, now let's get into these conversations…
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I have had the pleasure of interviewing Nurit Zubery in this episode of Conversations To Cut The Conflict. I sat in Nurit's presentation at the Mediation Conference in New Zealand last year and I asked her to come on the podcast as this is not a topic that gets talked about a lot.Women deal with challenges in the family court system, in mediation and men do as well. In this episode we explore the research of Nurit who researched the experience dads have in the mediation and family court system.Listen to this episode to get tips on how as professionals we can improve dad's experiences of the system and mediation, which leads to them engaging more in mediation.I enjoyed the conversation. It is always great to reflect on our practice as professionals to see what we can do better and see situations from a different perspective.You can read the full article that Nurit mentions in the interview here:https://bit.ly/3TKbhqjFor more information about Nurit and her works, visit her website:www.beyondconflict.co.nz
I have recorded a quick episode for you to give you some tips on how to get through the next couple of weeks without losing your sanity. I also cover how to negotiate with your family in the lead up and on Christmas Day so you can have a great holiday break without family conflict and fill your cup.Please share it with anyone who needs a little extra support right now.
Listen to my conversation with my fellow mediator and coach Anne-Marie Cade.We delve into the vital role of coaching in high-conflict separation and her parenting coordination research. Find out what parenting coordination is and what Anne-Marie's recommendations are for the future of parenting coordination in AustraliaTo find out more about The Mediation Practice Program and join the waitlist, visit www.themediationpracticeprogram.com.
Money is one of the most common reason that people are in conflict.I have recorded a short and sweet episode for you on how to best deal with conflict relating to money.Have a listen and let me me know your thoughts. I hope it helpful
In this episode, I interview Paul Eliseo, co-founder of Evolve & Relaunch.Paul trains coaches in becoming masterful at NLP, timeline therapy and hypnosis. This episode is one of my favourite episodes ever! We cover so much in 45 minutes it is packed with value for you. Paul and I discuss various topics, including how to work with triggers and resolve conflict, even when people have different values. Why it is important.This conversation is a must listen for anyone who wants to understand more about why humans behave the way they do and why others behave the way they do and how to better work with people to help them resolve conflict.
Unlock your child's full potential with the help of a Kids Coach!Listen to our latest podcast episode in which I chat with Nichole Hamilton, a clinical hypnotherapist and master practitioner in timeline therapy and NLP who specializes in coaching kids. Discover why coaching is important for children and learn tips and tricks to help your child work through difficult emotions and anxiety and get access to free resources to support your children. Nichole is offering a 5-day Kidz Coaching Challenge where you can learn the skills, strategies and games for your children; regulate your emotions in a healthy way and connect with your children.Click the below link to join the free course: https://www.thekidzcoach.com.au/free-coaching
I loved having a conversation with Faiza Gabriel, director of Lighthouse Legal. Having observed her parents go through a messy divorce as a teenager, Faiza knew early on that there had to be a better way, and that her calling was to guide people in that direction. Since being admitted as a solicitor and barrister in 2008, she has worked predominantly in family law. Over the years she has gained extensive experience in family law matters, including advising and representing clients in complex financial settlements and arrangements for children at the Family Court. In 2020, she established her own practice, Lighthouse Legal, and remains committed to helping her clients find safe passage through the storm after a separation.We are both passionate about helping people through their family conflict and keeping people out of the family court. And if they have to go through court to support them in how to do it in the least damaging way.What is special about this episode is that Faiza shares openly what it was like to be the child of parents who had a high conflict divorce as a child but also as an adult now as they still do not get along. It is so powerful to hear from an adult who has lived through a high conflict divorce what it is like and what parents can do to make it easier for their children when they go through a divorce.We also talk about what an ICL is (independent children's lawyer) and what they do. There are lots of myths out there and this episode will give you insight on what the role of an ICL is and how the process works.This episode is great for anyone who is separating, or in conflict with their ex-partner but also for practitioners, lawyers and mediators as we need to keep reminding ourselves of why we do what we do and how we can make a difference to families in the best way possible.
This episode is for business owners who do not feel confident to show up on all the platforms commonly used nowadays to generate business. Or if you are someone that feels that you do not need to show up on all the different platforms, then this episode is for you too.I interview Carmen Braidwood and she is absolutely amazing. She has years of experience showing up on TV and Radio and is now transferring these skills to the business world.Carmen is giving so many tips and tricks in this episode on how to show up on camera and have the ability to speak your truth and spread your message. To be able to do that, we all have to deal with our inner conflict AKA the voice in our head that tells us that we are not good enough and the worry of what others might think.Enjoy!
Emotions are necessary and useful to have in our everyday life. We cannot survive without them. While emotions are so important, most people do not find it easy to talk about them, recognise them and work with (please note I said with, not against) them. A lot of people find this especially difficult when they find themselves in a conflict situation.In this episode I am debunking myths that surround emotions with Dr Sam Hardy based on her research. This new research is available to us but as a society we are still working with old myths that are not useful!I feel so lucky that Sam shared her wisdom and research with all you listeners in this episode. I feel everyone should listen to this episode! Sam's research will change what you think you know about emotions. I promise.I got a lot out of this conversation and I am sure you will too. What we discuss will apply to you on a personal level but also if you are a professional working in the conflict resolution space.Books Sam referred to during the podcast:1. Lisa Feldman Barrett “How Emotions are Made”2. Susan David “Emotional Agility”3. Batja Mesquita “Between Us: How cultures create emotions”Also, information about Sam's Working with Emotions in Conflict Course can be found here: https://www.cciacademy.com/wwe-online/ Use the coupon code BETA at checkout to avail 20% discount on the normal registration fee.
In this episode, I interview Zinta Harris from Resolve Estate Law. Zinta is a succession lawyer, collaborative professional, and mediator who is amazing at helping people when they are in conflict while a loved one has just passed away.I loved having this conversation with Zinta. We discuss death and other topics most people do not like talking about but should be talking about. Zinta has a great approach and during our conversation I found myself looking differently at death and what legacy I would like to leave behind.I highly recommend that you listen to this episode. If you want to know how can you protect your legacy (which is not just about money by the way). What kind of things do you need to talk about with the people that you love before you are no longer here, and how can you resolve disputes surrounding wills and estates and while you are grieving.You can purchase Zinta's book called "Rest In Peace" in the link below:https://resolveestatelaw.com.au/rest-in-peace/
This episode is for anyone who is interested in preventing conflict in the workplace and creating an environment where people enjoy working and want to stay.I interviewed Jo Alilovic who is an HR lawyer that works with businesses to get things right from the beginning. She helps businesses with strategic planning, and preventative measures to avoid the legal claims that may arise when a working relationship breaks down.Jo and I talk about what bullying is and what it is not and how you can prevent conflict in the workplace. The work environment has changed a lot over the last years which has forced employees and employers to negotiate more than ever. The question is how do you do this best?Have a listen and please share this with anyone who you think can benefit from this. Do not forget to leave a review if you loved this episode. Thank you!
This episode is a short one to remind you of the power of empathy. Empathy is amazing, but often we forget about it as we run though life in our fast moving society where we don't always get to connect with other people properly.When we are in conflict, or in a negotiation, we can get into a divisive mindset very quickly. Empathy is an easy way to get back into the space of collaboration.Listen to this episode to be reminded about the power of empathy in negotiation and conflict resolution and share with anyone who can benefit from this.I would love it if you could leave a review or let me know in a message what you are getting out of listening to Conversations to Cut the Conflict.
Negotiation is a fact of life. We do it every day in our personal and professional lives. When you are confident in your negotiations and you know how to do it effectively you will be surprised at the kind of results you can produce. A lot of people want to be able to negotiate effectively but they do not know how. In this episode I will be sharing with you what you can do to get better outcomes in your negotiations. When you are confident in your negotiations and you know how to do it effectively you will be surprised at the kind of results you can produce. The episode is a bit longer than normal because there is so much to share and I only scratched the surface! Let me know what you get out of this episode and what else you would like to learn about negotiation and conflict resolution so I can record more episodes for you.
In this episode I talk about taking RESPONSIBILITY!Why do most people not like taking responsibility?Why is it the most powerful thing that you can do to make positive changes in your life?Listen to this episode to change the relationship that you have with by taking responsibility. Instead of it being a burden, it can create new possibilities and an opening for you to make positive changes in your life.Have a listen and please let me know what you got out of this episode and share it with anyone who could benefit from this.
The first year of separation is very hard for most people. There is so much going on practically speaking and on an emotional level. I interview Nicky Thomas who is an amazing leadership coach who has been separated for 12 months now.We talk about:- What has it been really like the last 12 months. No fluff but the honest truth.- What to do with unsolicited advice from friends and family.- How to work through all your emotions.- How to find yourself again now your identity has changedAnd more....Nicky also shares what professionals who work with separated parents can do better.It was a great conversation. Thank you Nicky for being so honest and vulnerable it was amazing to have you on the podcast yet again.If you are a recently separated parents, check out www.seamlessseparation.com where you will be trained to have a seamless separation and be able to create the future you want for you and for your children.
Oh my god! It has been a while since I have recorded a podcast episode. I have moved house and one of my children has started high school so my focus has been on my clients and my family and there was no space for recording podcasts for example.In this brief episode I talk about how you can focus so you do not feel pulled in different directions all the time as this causes a lot of inner conflict. And when you focus you have to say no to some request which is not always easy but so important. I love for you to have a listen and if this podcast episode makes a difference to you please share it with people who need to hear this and leave me a review or send me a message.If there are topics you want me to talk about on my podcast please let me know as well send me a message. This podcast is for you so I love to know what you want to hear. Enjoy!
Stress and anxiety is something that we all experience in our lives when we are going through a difficult period such as separation or it might just be getting through the end of year surviving the silly season! Stress is not necessarily bad for us. We need some level of stress in our lives. In this episode of Conversations to Cut the Conflict, I speak with Dr Marny Lishman about the difference between stress and anxiety. When it is good for you and when does it become unhealthy? We discuss what you can do to manage your anxiety and what you can do to support your children if they experience anxiety.Dr Marny shares amazing tips in this episode. I highly recommend you listen to this episode and please share it with anyone who could benefit from knowing more about how to manage stress and anxiety in a healthy manner.
Money is a topic that causes a lot of conflict! For separated parents child support is often a huge bone contention. In this episode I speak with Lisa Young Professor of Law at Murdoch university who is a child support expert. In our conversation I asked Lisa all the questions that my clients as me all the time.What is child support for and what is it based on? What if I want to see my children but the other person does let me and now I pay more child support. Is that fair? And more....Child support can be complex and Lisa explains clearly in this episode how it works, what it covers and what people can do if they do not agree to the amount they have to pay.We talk about how people think about child support and how a different mindset about paying child support can make all the difference in resolving conflict.You will get so much value out of the episode if you are dealing with child support in any way, as a separated parent or as a professional.
I ask all my clients to get legal advice when they are going through separation. When I have that conversation I often find that people don't want to go to a lawyer. They are scared of lawyers for different reasons. They think that if they speak to a lawyer, it will make the conflict get worse and that lawyers just want to go to court and not help resolve the issues. I agree that it is important you get a good lawyer that suits your needs. Someone who gives you options and is there to support you so you can make the best decisions possible. In this episode I speak with Vincent Tan who is a partner at Clairs Keeley and I ask him what he believes his role is as a family lawyer. What you should look out of in choosing your lawyer and other questions. This episode will give you clarity on why you need legal advice and how to best go about it. Please share this episode with anyone who needs it!
This episode is for anyone who is co-parenting with their ex-partner.I interviewed Rosalie who is is the founder of the The Co-Parenting Collective®. Rosalie has been a co-parent for over 20 years.She experienced what is is like to go from a high conflict court battle kind of separation to now a smooth co-parenting relationship with her ex-partner.Rosalie is sharing her tips for creating a great co-parenting relationship in this episode.I love this episode because it is a story of hope, as Rosalie's story proves that anything is possible and you can have a great co parenting relationship in the future no matter how bad things might be right now.I hope that you enjoy this episode as much I enjoyed recording it.It's a great conversation!So please go and check it out.
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